It Can Get Ugly
Persistence is the key to reaching the most worthwhile goals you set for yourself. Though, no matter the time spent on the task, you are not likely to succeed unless you are keenly aware of your strengths, and weaknesses. Above all, you must be realistic. And this is the reason many fall short—they are not telling the truth to themselves. They were aiming for a place they were not ready to reach.
There is another type of person who will use just about any means even when all the pluses and minuses, cost and benefits are added up they lose. But many don’t seem to care or understand for their happiness is just an illusion, there is no lasting satisfaction. For their goals are superficial and their thinking is disordered.
Yes, superficial for all they want to do is show off. Show off this show off that, as long as they can show off. Look at what I have, isn’t it pretty and yes this does include buying the affection of the male and females you see them with. Whereas without these show off things and the appearance of being well off they would be near invisible or so unattractive without their “adornments” the wives, the husbands, the girlfriends and boyfriends would be hanging on someone else’s arm.
How did they get these showy things, here is how they do it. Yes, some work and live an honest life while others will work or not and use credit, borrowing from others, lying and stealing and some will use even more unsavory means. They will sell their body and even worse, some will sell their very soul. When all you have to do is use the tools you have and be persistent. For far too many, that is too slow, it takes too long; I want it now.
The solution as in most of the things we do is first you must determine what tools are needed to achieve your goals and objectives. Only then will persistence take you to that place that you want to go. And if you want what you do not have, you first must have what you need to get what you want. If you do not you will not for it is not possible. Where there is a need, there is a way. If there is no way, there is no need. That is how life lives on, that it is the way it is meant to be.
You can only get there from here, from where you are not from where your mind might be taking you. It is how you think and how you think is how you will feel and how you feel will be how you will act.
Nothing is hard to do you just do not know how to do it yet.
For Those Who Need It Most
What I have to say here may or may not be for you. The way to know for sure is to read it and understand it. It may not be relevant to you in a personal way and how you think and feel, but you just may know someone, a friend, a relative or perhaps a mate that comes to mind when you think about what there is to think. Don’t be quick to turn away.
Do not cover up your pain with the things that you say and do. It will only be the cause of more pain. You do it to feel better but you know it does not work, that is not for long. It is a fix, not the solution. The longer you go without resolving what it is that brings on these feelings of despair the more masking you will try to do. A cover up of what bothers you just returns as the “makeup” comes off.
No matter how fast you run you cannot run from pain. And to be strong and pretend it is not there will not make life easier. For you know, even if no one else does, it has not gone away. Emotional hurt and pain is a symptom that not all is well with how you think. No new boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife will change this. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. It is pain that you feel. Do not let your pain be the reason why you act in ways that you rather not. What you do in life that is caused by your pain will never be the real you, the person you are meant to be. It is how you think.
Your husband or wife, or not having either, does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor your friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. When all has been said, the pain that you feel is caused by not understanding your childhood and that it must be left where it belongs, in the past. It does not matter though from where it came you allow it to do what it does to your happiness and well-being. It is not the job, the neighbor or anyone else or thing. The source of your pain is how you think. It really is not you that they see when they look your way. You have hidden the real you under layers of hurt and pain.
You have struggled long to come out. No one knows the real you for you have not shown your SELF to them. You have been afraid to look at you. When will you let the real you show up? There are times when no one is around that you just lose it. It hurt so bad not to be yourself. It aches in your heart. There are times when you need to feel that one person, just one, love you for who you are. You have been wounded by your hurt. Remember this: I come before you, they, them, we and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do.
If you have memories of hurt and pain from your past, it will change when you change how you think. You have to understand this for what it is. How it influences your thoughts. Emotional hurt and pain without a remedy can last a lifetime, but how you think about pain can and should change. If you cannot change what you have to think about, change how you think.