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1
May

Disordered Thinking Will Not Tell You The Truth

A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Lose

Blog Note 2-1-16

It is How You Think

Do not listen to a disordered mind and let it tell you what to do. It matters not if it is your mind and your way of thinking or that of someone else. If what is said or done to you and what you tell yourself makes you uncomfortable and ill at ease you and your mind are where you should not be. One important thing to keep in mind is that no one can make you feel any way other than how you wish. That is unless you have given them permission to do so. And this is clear to them by how you treat yourself. They “see” you, you do not. And this is a true example of “they see you coming before you get there.” Your reputation has indeed preceded you.

How you think is how you will act and when how you think is disordered, there is something wrong with what you have to think about. You are insecure about who you are, or should I say who you think you are. You are better than you think. When you think how you do, you will see yourself build your life and the things you care about up and then tear them down. This is the way you think your thoughts. You will do this without fail. It is a pattern that does not change. That is, until you change. You have to change your way of thinking. When you do not think right, what you do will not be right. All wrong things come with a price. This is so even when you will not allow yourself to acknowledge the cost.

When your thinking is disordered it can and often does, cause hypersensitivity. No one—even those relatives and friends who care about you—wants to stand close to the “flame.” Few if any one of them will say they do not want to be scorched, but it is what most of them is thinking. But some who would rather come near will not for fear of being upset. When you change how you think, how others treat you will change as well. You know the pain of living with how you think and just how hard it is living with what is going on in you.

When how you think is disordered and how you act is known well before you are seen as you move through your life you are not soon to realize it. When things are not right, we look at all the other places, first, for an answer. Though one thing that is for sure, we will not harm ourselves with full knowledge of what we are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow you must be strong. You have to believe it to see it. What do you believe?

For each one of us, there are things that we should never do. If what you do cause a problem, then the problem starts with you. Most things can be done—it depends on how you do them. You should never do anything in a way that will bring harm to you. You may not see it for harm has many faces. It will hold you back when you could be going forward and have you rushing in when still is what you should be. To change your mind, you have to change how you think.

Once you know better, you will do better. Have you ever heard someone say, “he/she knows better than that.” No matter what we may think, when a person knows better they will do better. You and I may think they should know, but that does not mean they do. You cannot do wrong when you know better. It is not possible, just as you cannot think of two things at the same time. Which is on par with no two objects can occupy the same space.

Peace

The Messenger Sun Graffiti 2-21-16

 

 

4
Feb

Disordered Thinking

A Mind is a Terrible Thing to Lose

Blog Note 2-1-16

It is How You Think

Do not listen to a disordered mind and let it tell you what to do. It matters not if it is your mind and your way of thinking or that of someone else. If what is said or done to you and what you tell yourself makes you uncomfortable and ill at ease you and your mind are where you should not be. One important thing to keep in mind is that no one can make you feel any way other than how you wish. That is unless you have given them permission to do so. And this is clear to them by how you treat yourself. They “see” you, you do not. And this is a true example of “they see you coming before you get there.” Your reputation has indeed preceded you.

How you think is how you will act and when how you think is disordered, there is something wrong with what you have to think about. You are insecure about who you are, or should I say who you think you are. You are better than you think. When you think how you do, you will see yourself build your life and the things you care about up and then tear them down. This is the way you think your thoughts. You will do this without fail. It is a pattern that does not change. That is, until you change. You have to change your way of thinking. When you do not think right, what you do will not be right. All wrong things come with a price. This is so even when you will not allow yourself to acknowledge the cost.

When your thinking is disordered it can and often does, cause hypersensitivity. No one—even those relatives and friends who care about you—wants to stand close to the “flame.” Few if any one of them will say they do not want to be scorched, but it is what most of them is thinking. But some who would rather come near will not for fear of being upset. When you change how you think, how others treat you will change as well. You know the pain of living with how you think and just how hard it is living with what is going on in you.

When how you think is disordered and how you act is known well before you are seen as you move through your life you are not soon to realize it. When things are not right, we look at all the other places, first, for an answer. Though one thing that is for sure, we will not harm ourselves with full knowledge of what we are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow you must be strong. You have to believe it to see it. What do you believe?

For each one of us, there are things that we should never do. If what you do cause a problem, then the problem starts with you. Most things can be done—it depends on how you do them. You should never do anything in a way that will bring harm to you. You may not see it for harm has many faces. It will hold you back when you could be going forward and have you rushing in when still is what you should be. To change your mind, you have to change how you think.

Once you know better, you will do better. Have you ever heard someone say, “he/she knows better than that.” No matter what we may think, when a person knows better they will do better. You and I may think they should know, but that does not mean they do. You cannot do wrong when you know better. It is not possible, just as you cannot think of two things at the same time. Which is on par with no two objects can occupy the same space.

Peace

The Messenger Sun Graffiti 2-21-16

 

 

8
Jul

Time for Change—There Is a Better Way

I Am

For You Too

It's In There

Open Your Mind

Now is The Time

You first have to know, and then you have to realize you know. When you know, that you know better, you will do better. Good is what you do until then. It is a goal with no end and you should strive to make your good better. You will now know that you can. Good can and does get better. If you fail, you cheat your Self. When you think in a way that takes from who you are, that is what you are doing. It is the worst kind of way to think.

One of the rules of nature is to do no harm to the Self. If you do, you can never be who you are here to be. Life will not be what you deserve. When you do not use your gifts and talents—we all have them—they do not stay at their best. Nature will not let it be. Your assets have to be put to their best use. When this does not happen, life moves on but you will not keep up. To work against what is good for you pokes a finger in the eye of nature. We live and grow by the fundamentals of life. To know this is the core of our existence.

You do not have to do or say a thing, when you do, say and do the right thing. There is not a thing that we can do when we do not have the energy to do it. It comes from will and desire. They are the fuel that propels us toward our goals. You have to be motivated and you are the best one to do that for you. The effort must be up to the goal. Great change needs a great effort. To gain much, you have to put in a major effort. A gain from little effort is not here to stay. It will go as it came. What was needed was not done. Success is that moment when we have given all that we have to give, for now.

The right thing done the wrong way will not succeed, just as the wrong thing cannot be done right. You can be right, though look as if you are wrong by those who are not right. It does not mean that you are wrong, and they are right, they are still wrong. You should let no one turn you away from what you know. There is no “little white lie” no shades or degrees of right and wrong. They are what they are. You do not have to prove you are right, just be right. To make a change to what is right will not make a thing that is right better. It will not be improved on. If it is right, it is not wrong.

You are the one to decide what is right or wrong for you. As we all must do, you have to live with what you decide. When you have done the right things, it does not mean all of the right things are done. Trying to do the right thing is good. To do it is better. You must put forth the effort until all things that can be done right, are. You will have the tools to do this. When you do it right you will feel right. It is then that you will know how much better it is than what it was. You cannot be “caught” doing the right thing. How can you do a thing wrong when you know how to do it right? You cannot, when you know better you will do better. There is no exception.

How you feel and act will change as your thoughts change. There is no better time for change than when it is needed. Change will happen, when you change how you think. This will change how you feel. When you feel better, you will change how you act and your life will change, as well. Our role in life is shaped by how we act. It is how we will be known to those who know us. It is what others will use to judge us. Some may say it is not all about me. Well, I say, it is. When it is about you, it is about us, all of us in some way. We all have the Self as the core of who we are. You get to know your Self by being yourself. How great it is to meet your Self for the first time. You should not let your life pass you by. Be happy to know who you are. This, you have coming to you. When you are not happy, it shows.

There is no time or age limit to do better for you. It is not too early or too late. Even so, it is for you to choose if it is your time to think healthy. The body and the mind can both be fit. Though the mind you must convince. To change your mind is to change your life. This is where the rest of your life begins. If there is no way to know, there is no need to know. Where there is a need there is a way, if there is no way, there is no need. The more you get the less you need. It is called nature it is called life. If there is a thing you need to do, you can do. You only need to let the mind know.

When you do not succeed as you think you should, there is more work to do. Perfection in the things we do is a worthwhile goal for all of us to have. You are not wrong when you do. It is not a bad word. It is a Self, defined state of mind, it is personal. If not to be perfect, what then could be your goal. A thing less is less than your best. We were created to decide the scope and reach of our lives. Observe your world well. And do when you can do. There is much to be gained from each. Though, one should not take from the other. You should listen to learn. And learn to listen to what your world has to tell you. Do not run from what you should be running to, your Self. We can never run out of time, time runs out of us. Time is time we are not.

You can only get there from here. It does not matter the means or the mode. You will not get there from any other place, but from where you are. You can only get there from here and you got here from there. You were there in the past, now you can be there in the future. You can go back there or you can go to there, it is your choice, which there do you choose. You can only get there from here. For sure, your mind cannot stay where it is.

You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. What do you believe?

 

8
Mar

Time for Change—There Is a Better Way

I Am

For You Too

It's In There

Open Your Mind

Now is The Time

You first have to know, and then you have to realize you know. When you know, that you know better, you will do better. Good is what you do until then. It is a goal with no end and you should strive to make your good better. You will now know that you can. Good can and does get better. If you fail, you cheat your Self. When you think in a way that takes from who you are, that is what you are doing. It is the worst kind of way to think.

One of the rules of nature is to do no harm to the Self. If you do, you can never be who you are here to be. Life will not be what you deserve. When you do not use your gifts and talents—we all have them—they do not stay at their best. Nature will not let it be. Your assets have to be put to their best use. When this does not happen, life moves on but you will not keep up. To work against what is good for you pokes a finger in the eye of nature. We live and grow by the fundamentals of life. To know this is the core of our existence.

You do not have to do or say a thing, when you do, say and do the right thing. There is not a thing that we can do when we do not have the energy to do it. It comes from will and desire. They are the fuel that propels us toward our goals. You have to be motivated and you are the best one to do that for you. The effort must be up to the goal. Great change needs a great effort. To gain much, you have to put in a major effort. A gain from little effort is not here to stay. It will go as it came. What was needed was not done. Success is that moment when we have given all that we have to give, for now.

The right thing done the wrong way will not succeed, just as the wrong thing cannot be done right. You can be right, though look as if you are wrong by those who are not right. It does not mean that you are wrong, and they are right, they are still wrong. You should let no one turn you away from what you know. There is no “little white lie” no shades or degrees of right and wrong. They are what they are. You do not have to prove you are right, just be right. To make a change to what is right will not make a thing that is right better. It will not be improved on. If it is right, it is not wrong.

You are the one to decide what is right or wrong for you. As we all must do, you have to live with what you decide. When you have done the right things, it does not mean all of the right things are done. Trying to do the right thing is good. To do it is better. You must put forth the effort until all things that can be done right, are. You will have the tools to do this. When you do it right you will feel right. It is then that you will know how much better it is than what it was. You cannot be “caught” doing the right thing. How can you do a thing wrong when you know how to do it right? You cannot, when you know better you will do better. There is no exception.

How you feel and act will change as your thoughts change. There is no better time for change than when it is needed. Change will happen, when you change how you think. This will change how you feel. When you feel better, you will change how you act and your life will change, as well. Our role in life is shaped by how we act. It is how we will be known to those who know us. It is what others will use to judge us. Some may say it is not all about me. Well, I say, it is. When it is about you, it is about us, all of us in some way. We all have the Self as the core of who we are. You get to know your Self by being yourself. How great it is to meet your Self for the first time. You should not let your life pass you by. Be happy to know who you are. This, you have coming to you. When you are not happy, it shows.

There is no time or age limit to do better for you. It is not too early or too late. Even so, it is for you to choose if it is your time to think healthy. The body and the mind can both be fit. Though the mind you must convince. To change your mind is to change your life. This is where the rest of your life begins. If there is no way to know, there is no need to know. Where there is a need there is a way, if there is no way, there is no need. The more you get the less you need. It is called nature it is called life. If there is a thing you need to do, you can do. You only need to let the mind know.

When you do not succeed as you think you should, there is more work to do. Perfection in the things we do is a worthwhile goal for all of us to have. You are not wrong when you do. It is not a bad word. It is a Self, defined state of mind, it is personal. If not to be perfect, what then could be your goal. A thing less is less than your best. We were created to decide the scope and reach of our lives. Observe your world well. And do when you can do. There is much to be gained from each. Though, one should not take from the other. You should listen to learn. And learn to listen to what your world has to tell you. Do not run from what you should be running to, your Self. We can never run out of time, time runs out of us. Time is time we are not.

You can only get there from here. It does not matter the means or the mode. You will not get there from any other place, but from where you are. You can only get there from here and you got here from there. You were there in the past, now you can be there in the future. You can go back there or you can go to there, it is your choice, which there do you choose. You can only get there from here. For sure, your mind cannot stay where it is.

You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. What do you believe?

 

15
Jan

Time for Change—There Is a Better Way

I Am

For You Too

It's In There

Open Your Mind

Now is The Time

You first have to know, and then you have to realize you know. When you know, that you know better, you will do better. Good is what you do until then. It is a goal with no end and you should strive to make your good better. You will now know that you can. Good can and does get better. If you fail, you cheat your Self. When you think in a way that takes from who you are, that is what you are doing. It is the worst kind of way to think.

One of the rules of nature is to do no harm to the Self. If you do, you can never be who you are here to be. Life will not be what you deserve. When you do not use your gifts and talents—we all have them—they do not stay at their best. Nature will not let it be. Your assets have to be put to their best use. When this does not happen, life moves on but you will not keep up. To work against what is good for you pokes a finger in the eye of nature. We live and grow by the fundamentals of life. To know this is the core of our existence.

You do not have to do or say a thing, when you do, say and do the right thing. There is not a thing that we can do when we do not have the energy to do it. It comes from will and desire. They are the fuel that propels us toward our goals. You have to be motivated and you are the best one to do that for you. The effort must be up to the goal. Great change needs a great effort. To gain much, you have to put in a major effort. A gain from little effort is not here to stay. It will go as it came. What was needed was not done. Success is that moment when we have given all that we have to give, for now.

The right thing done the wrong way will not succeed, just as the wrong thing cannot be done right. You can be right, though look as if you are wrong by those who are not right. It does not mean that you are wrong, and they are right, they are still wrong. You should let no one turn you away from what you know. There is no “little white lie” no shades or degrees of right and wrong. They are what they are. You do not have to prove you are right, just be right. To make a change to what is right will not make a thing that is right better. It will not be improved on. If it is right, it is not wrong.

You are the one to decide what is right or wrong for you. As we all must do, you have to live with what you decide. When you have done the right things, it does not mean all of the right things are done. Trying to do the right thing is good. To do it is better. You must put forth the effort until all things that can be done right, are. You will have the tools to do this. When you do it right you will feel right. It is then that you will know how much better it is than what it was. You cannot be “caught” doing the right thing. How can you do a thing wrong when you know how to do it right? You cannot, when you know better you will do better. There is no exception.

How you feel and act will change as your thoughts change. There is no better time for change than when it is needed. Change will happen, when you change how you think. This will change how you feel. When you feel better, you will change how you act and your life will change, as well. Our role in life is shaped by how we act. It is how we will be known to those who know us. It is what others will use to judge us. Some may say it is not all about me. Well, I say, it is. When it is about you, it is about us, all of us in some way. We all have the Self as the core of who we are. You get to know your Self by being yourself. How great it is to meet your Self for the first time. You should not let your life pass you by. Be happy to know who you are. This, you have coming to you. When you are not happy, it shows.

There is no time or age limit to do better for you. It is not too early or too late. Even so, it is for you to choose if it is your time to think healthy. The body and the mind can both be fit. Though the mind you must convince. To change your mind is to change your life. This is where the rest of your life begins. If there is no way to know, there is no need to know. Where there is a need there is a way, if there is no way, there is no need. The more you get the less you need. It is called nature it is called life. If there is a thing you need to do, you can do. You only need to let the mind know.

When you do not succeed as you think you should, there is more work to do. Perfection in the things we do is a worthwhile goal for all of us to have. You are not wrong when you do. It is not a bad word. It is a Self, defined state of mind, it is personal. If not to be perfect, what then could be your goal. A thing less is less than your best. We were created to decide the scope and reach of our lives. Observe your world well. And do when you can do. There is much to be gained from each. Though, one should not take from the other. You should listen to learn. And learn to listen to what your world has to tell you. Do not run from what you should be running to, your Self. We can never run out of time, time runs out of us. Time is time we are not.

You can only get there from here. It does not matter the means or the mode. You will not get there from any other place, but from where you are. You can only get there from here and you got here from there. You were there in the past, now you can be there in the future. You can go back there or you can go to there, it is your choice, which there do you choose. You can only get there from here. For sure, your mind cannot stay where it is.

You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. What do you believe?

 

13
Jan

How to Stay Healthy and Live a Long Life

25
Mar

Time for Change—There Is a Better Way

I Am

For You Too

It's In There

Open Your Mind

Now is The Time

You first have to know, and then you have to realize you know. When you know, that you know better, you will do better. Good is what you do until then. It is a goal with no end and you should strive to make your good better. You will now know that you can. Good can and does get better. If you fail, you cheat your Self. When you think in a way that takes from who you are, that is what you are doing. It is the worst kind of way to think.

One of the rules of nature is to do no harm to the Self. If you do, you can never be who you are here to be. Life will not be what you deserve. When you do not use your gifts and talents—we all have them—they do not stay at their best. Nature will not let it be. Your assets have to be put to their best use. When this does not happen, life moves on but you will not keep up. To work against what is good for you pokes a finger in the eye of nature. We live and grow by the fundamentals of life. To know this is the core of our existence.

You do not have to do or say a thing, when you do, say and do the right thing. There is not a thing that we can do when we do not have the energy to do it. It comes from will and desire. They are the fuel that propels us toward our goals. You have to be motivated and you are the best one to do that for you. The effort must be up to the goal. Great change needs a great effort. To gain much, you have to put in a major effort. A gain from little effort is not here to stay. It will go as it came. What was needed was not done. Success is that moment when we have given all that we have to give, for now.

The right thing done the wrong way will not succeed, just as the wrong thing cannot be done right. You can be right, though look as if you are wrong by those who are not right. It does not mean that you are wrong, and they are right, they are still wrong. You should let no one turn you away from what you know. There is no “little white lie” no shades or degrees of right and wrong. They are what they are. You do not have to prove you are right, just be right. To make a change to what is right will not make a thing that is right better. It will not be improved on. If it is right, it is not wrong.

You are the one to decide what is right or wrong for you. As we all must do, you have to live with what you decide. When you have done the right things, it does not mean all of the right things are done. Trying to do the right thing is good. To do it is better. You must put forth the effort until all things that can be done right, are. You will have the tools to do this. When you do it right you will feel right. It is then that you will know how much better it is than what it was. You cannot be “caught” doing the right thing. How can you do a thing wrong when you know how to do it right? You cannot, when you know better you will do better. There is no exception.

How you feel and act will change as your thoughts change. There is no better time for change than when it is needed. Change will happen, when you change how you think. This will change how you feel. When you feel better, you will change how you act and your life will change, as well. Our role in life is shaped by how we act. It is how we will be known to those who know us. It is what others will use to judge us. Some may say it is not all about me. Well, I say, it is. When it is about you, it is about us, all of us in some way. We all have the Self as the core of who we are. You get to know your Self by being yourself. How great it is to meet your Self for the first time. You should not let your life pass you by. Be happy to know who you are. This, you have coming to you. When you are not happy, it shows.

There is no time or age limit to do better for you. It is not too early or too late. Even so, it is for you to choose if it is your time to think healthy. The body and the mind can both be fit. Though the mind you must convince. To change your mind is to change your life. This is where the rest of your life begins. If there is no way to know, there is no need to know. Where there is a need there is a way, if there is no way, there is no need. The more you get the less you need. It is called nature it is called life. If there is a thing you need to do, you can do. You only need to let the mind know.

When you do not succeed as you think you should, there is more work to do. Perfection in the things we do is a worthwhile goal for all of us to have. You are not wrong when you do. It is not a bad word. It is a Self, defined state of mind, it is personal. If not to be perfect, what then could be your goal. A thing less is less than your best. We were created to decide the scope and reach of our lives. Observe your world well. And do when you can do. There is much to be gained from each. Though, one should not take from the other. You should listen to learn. And learn to listen to what your world has to tell you. Do not run from what you should be running to, your Self. We can never run out of time, time runs out of us. Time is time we are not.

You can only get there from here. It does not matter the means or the mode. You will not get there from any other place, but from where you are. You can only get there from here and you got here from there. You were there in the past, now you can be there in the future. You can go back there or you can go to there, it is your choice, which there do you choose. You can only get there from here. For sure, your mind cannot stay where it is.

You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. What do you believe?

 

9
Mar

How We Think About Thinking

I Am

For You Too

How We Think is How We Act

The Power of Thought

 

I suffered what felt like a lifetime of living while trying the best that I could to live the life that I had. Through hurt and pain, I tried with all my might to understand the meaning of it all. My question was, who am I? What is my role and purpose in life. My road had been a long and weary one and the answer came to me when I was not waiting for it nor expected it. I was ready for the first time and I knew it. I had found what I was not aware that I was looking for, my Self. What I once could not see is clear to me now. I understand and must move what I have learned forward.

Though I had taken years of university courses in Psychology and studied the field extensively, that is not what did it for me. It did not hurt, certainly; I learned a great deal. No, it is much deeper than that. It is about letting what you know be known. Letting it come out when it has hurt for too long from keeping it in. It is how I see the world, life as it was given, and nature as its guardian. What I have written came to me as natural as the flowers that grow and the birds that sing. It is a process that flows easily. It was written as it was revealed to me. My whole life is the reason that I am, and what I now know is the foundation of my beliefs. In this life, you and I both have a role to play.

You will need to open your mind to allow what is outside to come in. Only then will you know if what you hear is what you want to keep. Take some time and think along with me here. You will certainly have to think in a way that is different from how you have before. What we have thought to be, may not be that way at all. And what we have been taught to believe does not always look the same when we learn how to think our own thoughts. This, of course, many of us thought we already knew.

When I say to think a thought, what I mean is, thought and thinking are not always the same. Stay with me here, this requires a new way of thinking. Your life will be better off for what you are able to digest from what I have to say. A thought is just a thought until you think about it. You cannot think of a thing until you have a thought. And our thoughts are based on how we perceive what we see, hear and feel. A thought just is until it is not. Think of a thought as being inert, not doing a thing from when we have it, until we think of what we want to do with it. The time between the two is quick. There is no way to measure. We are yet to know when someone has a thought or what they are thinking. And there is good reason we do not.

Thought is not only what we had. It is also, what we have. You thought and you have a thought. It is what we have thought, and what we have to think. A thought cannot be forced. To try to do so is called thinking. Once we have a thought, either we think it or it moves to our memory. It will not be undone. It is the same as it is with life. The life we have lived cannot be changed; it is what it is, forever. Think about this. What exist to us is all we know. And we decide what we are going to do with it.

Say you are walking down a long and winding road and along the way, you meet me. You will have a thought based on your perception of me. This is the first thing that will happen. You will then think about us. If you like what you see, you will continue on your way. If for some reason—that can only be known by you—you do not feel safe, you will go in another direction or proceed with caution. Or you may not have strong feelings either way. No matter how you feel, your feelings will be based on what you think. And you will act according to how you feel. We perceive, have a thought, we think, we feel we act. That is the course of an action process, as I believe it to be.

We are taught how to think and must decide what to think. We should not think in a way that tells us things we do not need to hear. Your thoughts belong to you. No one can think for you, though many will try. All that I say about thought, thinking and how we perceive the world around has just one purpose. I am not in any way trying to tell you what to think, I am merely giving you something to think.

We are all born to think, but have to learn to think better. One of the most difficult things to take when I was child is that I could be told what thoughts to think. I did not want to be hurt, and what I heard did just that. We must decide the thoughts we choose to think. No one can do this for us. When we are taught from the start by someone who cares, we can. Thinking is what feeds the mind and tells it what to do.

“I had a thought but I don’t remember what it was.” Have you said this to yourself? The reason is it was not a full thought. When this happens, it was not a thought that held the mind’s attention. (I did not think it was important then, maybe later.) It is my belief that there are two kinds of thought. Have you been asked by someone what you think about a thought that they have. As in, I had a thought about us going shopping today. What do you think about that?

Their thought is the first thought. You can answer but you should not until you know what they think. You could ask, what do you have in mind, what do you think? Your thought then, is a pending thought. A pending thought is still just a thought. As a reminder, there is no greater thing that we have the sole responsibility for than when, what and how we think. It cannot be talked about enough; it determines how we live, if we live, and what is done with us when we do not. It also determines whether we win or lose, go or stay or just be in the way.

Now back to the question, what do you do with your pending thought. You do not know what you think yet. It is a thought that has to wait for the first thought. Someone is yet to think and act. It is the person with the first thought. When asked what you think about a thing, if you do not have a thought about it, you will think nothing. Therefore, there is nothing you can tell them. On one level, they may want your help to make up their mind. They have to think first. Otherwise, they are asking you to think for them. This you cannot do.

To try to think for someone, is not good thinking. One can, let another decide for them. But it will not be their decision until they decide. To think is a process that must end. The power of thinking is in when you act. Before you do, you can feel happy or sad, good or bad. How you act, how I act, is the best that can be known about how we think. This is true no matter what.

We should not act on what we think someone is going to say. That is, to the extent that you have your say before they do. It is a fault that I had during my early years. I did not see it as a problem. Though I could tell, there was a problem. It was not well received. I was this way because I was always on guard. Trying to protect my feelings the best that I could. This was my stance and my ready mode. Wait until you know all that you should. What we think about may not be what we think it is. That is because what we perceive and think we know may not be what is true. Perception can be reality, or not. What is to us, is not always, what is.

Thinking is a process, there is a start and there is a finish each time we think a thought. Once you start, you cannot stop until you are done. What we expose our Self to will be the source for the thoughts that enters our mind—who and what we are around—it is then up to us, what we do with them. We should not let thoughts that are not wanted stay where they do not belong. These kinds of thoughts we should refuse to have anything to do with. Let them go to your memory and let them stay there. Do not think them. They are of no value; no good can from it.

We rule over the mind. That is, we should. Never let it tell you what to do. You and your mind decide what to do with your thoughts. Do not do a thing that will cause you to act in a way other than how you wish. How we act is all that can be known about who we are. There are things that others do that we prefer they did not. We do not control this. We are in charge of how we act. That is the only affect we can have on what others do.

Thoughts will come. We cannot force them from our head. We can, pretend they are not there. They will remind us that they are. Before we act, we should be sure of what we think. What we do next depends on it. When you have good thoughts, it is more likely that good things will happen. Just to think good thoughts is good. It changes how we feel and is the mainstay of a content mind. Bad thoughts can seep in when there is fertile ground for a bad seed to be planted. Do not let bad thoughts take root.

When we think that good thoughts are bad or bad thoughts are good, it is not a good way to think. This is a sign of disordered thinking. It is usually brought on when we have allowed ourselves to be confused by the life we are living. There is someone there who should not be. It could be you. The mind is doing it and you are letting it happen. It is best to remember, that good comes from good and bad comes from bad. There is no other way. Bad can follow good things. Good can follow bad. But neither thing can come from the other thing. There is a point where one stops and the other starts. We will not change what is, no matter what we do. It has made its mark. It matters not if it is good or bad. What is done next will be the new what is. What has happened is over.

We should not talk or think of the bad when things are good. On a nice sunny day, have you heard someone say, or have you said, but it is supposed to be cloudy tomorrow. How can you ever enjoy what is there when you cannot leave good enough alone. But when we feel bad about ourselves, whether we acknowledge it or not, we will not let the good take root. It may not sound like much. It does show a certain frame of mind.

We should always try to think of the good when things are bad. It is cloudy today, but the sun may be out tomorrow. It is the right thing to do because we feel what we think. Thinking should lift the soul and stir the mind. How we think our thoughts forms the foundation on which our lives are built. There is not a thing to think but a thought.

There will be times when you may wonder what it all means and if you should continue. The new tends to be that way, which is how we learn. Be it works of art, literature or merely understanding the use of a product you recently purchased. We must first understand and follow the instructions for best use.

You do not know how good a thought is until you know how good it was. Thought is language for the mind. It drives both actions and words. And there is no such thing as a bad word. The use of a word decides what it is worth. How we arrange our words say what we mean. We should never say what we do not mean to say. Think.

When we think, we are having a talk with ourselves. You can do this two ways. You think your thoughts to yourself. That is when you talk to yourself and not say a word. The other, which I have done since I was a child, is to think your thoughts out loud. This is a good way to discuss what is on your mind with yourself when no one else is around. We think for a reason. The reason is our thoughts. That is the only way for them to take on a life of their own. Not all thoughts are good for us to think. A thought of things best left alone is one of them. But we have to do something with them once we have one. It has to be processed. You either think it or send it back. What greater know how could you have than how to think good thoughts.

Ask me what I think. Do not tell what to think. Think for you. Let no one think this is what he or she can do. They will think this only if we have given them a reason to think so. It would be a reason that had the look of weakness. Our thoughts should be for our own well-being and those that we serve. No one can think the thought of another. We think our thoughts and think about how others act. We have to be aware of a thing to have thoughts about it. To shrink and expand our world is the best way to gauge the thoughts that we think. What I mean is, the limits we place, or not, on the people and things we allow in our world. There are some things we are better off without. Not all belongs in our head. Because once it is, it will forever be in our memory.

7
Mar

Your Mind is Talking

I Am

For You Too

“It is what got me here, and would not let me leave until it carried me away.”

If you want to listen to what I have to say, then say what you have to say. Nothing but the truth is the only way we can understand who we are and how we feel.

My name is __________and I live in___________. I am__________. My______________. I now realize that_________. And it is because____________. When I was growing up my_______. I got_________. Why________. There are times when________. I have tried_________. No one________. I need________. If_________. Then________. They__________. It_________. I am open to__________. I just feel________. I think_________.

To understand what comes next, you have to become a part of what you hear when you read. But you do have to listen to what you hear. They are not the same. You have to try to listen. Hearing you do not. You have to let it sink in until it becomes a vision in your mind’s eye. You do have to feel it to see it. And you have to see it with not only your eyes, but with your mind to believe it.

Much of what I say may not be clear to you on first reading. It will all be clear to you once you understand. It may take more than a first glance; change is not always understood on the first look. And this is change, and not just for change sake. What we think we know is not all there is. This is just another way to look at life. It is not so much the comfort of a story, as it is to look at how we think what we do, and why. There is a reason why our lives are the way they are. No matter the way we live. For me it became a dependent state of mind.

It keeps me from sinking, but it doesn’t allow me to swim. 

You can only tread water for so long. You have to swim or you will sink. I had not learned how. You are taught, or learn from what you think about what you see. And what we see may not always be what we think it is.

It all begins with a walk through the mind. At some point, and I am not sure when, I became dependent. I looked around, and it was just there. I now needed help from someone else so that I could help me. What was this? I never knew that I thought this way. One thing I do know, it is a sign of weakness. As I looked back, I realized it was nothing new. My upbringing was a breeding ground for this type of behavior. And what had been set in motion would get in my way.

The dependent mindset had come to life in my mind and would tug on me for many years to come. It held me back and became a way of life. And many of my choices were made with this way of thinking. I would reach for the quick and easy. You will do that when you are willing to settle for less than your best. I paid for it by letting go of what dignity I had left. The jobs that I had growing up could not help me overcome the weakness that was in me. It was all deep down inside, it held on, and would not let go. I have had wonderful jobs, and did not have the mind to hold on to them.

This did not change my dependent way of thinking. Could be I lost the jobs on purpose, I don’t know, just a thought. Then again, yes, I do know. No one would do this on purpose. It was my mind, again, telling me what to do. This is when I should have been the one doing the talking. I did not do the best for myself and it was all caused by my insecure feelings and low self-esteem. Which had always been there, it seems. This in turn caused me to think in ways that made no sense. I was not given the space to learn to love myself. You do not hurt that which you love. And hurt is what I was doing. This is the reason for it all. You have to have it to give it.

My roots were planted in loose soil. It caused me to feel uncertain about who I was. All I could do was search for something to hold on to. Only a drive to survive is what you own. And one day you open your eyes. It is then that you realize you have become dependent on those around you. It got the best of me and drove me to the wall.

When you live your life this way, you have to keep always the edge, and this you cannot do. When you let go of your grip and try to be yourself, your advantage will give way and so will your hold. You have to be yourself first because that is who you are. When we are not being who we are, it will not be us they know. If you do not know this experience, think what it would be like. The hunter is now the game. Do not think your “Self” in to its grip. There are things in life that must be as we expect them to be. We depend on these things. As we do life itself. To depend is a way of life. The way it is meant to be. To be dependent on a person, place or thing is just a way to say, I quit. It shows a lack of Self awareness.

We should never think we cannot do a thing on our own. It is not how we should live. Never think you have no choice. In a relationship, on the job, or any other time or place you have to feel you are free to be you. We have the right to be who we are. Our role in life depends on it. We can be no one else. We only do this when we find it hard for whatever the reason to be ourselves. No one can know who we are. How can they, if you do not know yourself. Though they will try, with your help, to tell you who you are. If we are ever lost, we must find ourselves. There is no other way to look at it. We can search but we will not find a thing more important to us than being aware of the Self. If not, not a thing will work. You are the only one who can say who you are.

Our world has to be made ready for us before we arrive. We are born for others to take care of us. It is meant to be that way—that is—until we can take care of ourselves. We have to be made ready to do so. These are the things that we get from those who are responsible for our care. If we do not, our life can be a difficult road to travel. And no one will be eager to help if he or she thinks you should already know what you do not. Many will see this as the fault of the one who has been hurt by this. That is, unless they have a reason to care. Not at all; though, if they think they have no choice for doing so.

Depend not on a source when you do not know what you give for what you get. This is when you are being helped and you do not know why. For that which you are not sure, not a thing about it can be for sure. There is not much we can be sure of when we are not sure of our own Self.

I could not lift myself up. My mind was holding me down. To be a dependent when you should not, is not a good thing to be. It is what you do when you do not have confidence in yourself. It will not let you grow. I was in a relationship where I was being held back by my own thoughts. Not knowing what would cross the line if I could muster the strength to be me. In my mind, my status was always in doubt.

When you are dependent, you do not know if your feelings are true or you are just trying to survive. I would do what I thought I must do. I was bound by my status. You don’t know if you should draw a breath when you are not sure if you should breathe. My thoughts were disordered. They caused me to think myself in to this. It would be another step like the other steps that got me here. I did not want to leave, but I could not stay. I at last heard me calling. And I listened to what I had to say.It was the only way I could be me. There was no room for me there. Of course, we do have to depend on life for what we need. It is one of the rules of nature. It is how we survive.

To depend and being dependent on are not the same. One we must and the other we should try with all our might not to be.

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