Do not listen to a disordered mind and let it tell you what to do. It matters not if it is your mind and your way of thinking or that of someone else. If what is said or done to you and what you tell yourself makes you uncomfortable and ill at ease, you and your mind are where you should not be. One important thing to keep in mind is that no one can make you feel any way other than how you wish. That is unless you have given them permission to do so. And this is clear to them by how you treat yourself. They “see” you. You do not. And this is a true example of “they see you coming before you get there.” Your reputation (how you act) has indeed preceded you.
How you think is how you will act and when how you think is disordered, something is not right with the thoughts you have to think. You are insecure about who you are, or should I say who you think you are. You are better than you think. When you think the way you do, you will see yourself build your life and the things you care about up just to tear them down. You will repeat this behavior and thinking throughout your life until you change how you think. You will do this without fail. But, of course, you know all is not well. It is a pattern that does not change. That is until you change. All wrong things come with a price. It is so even when you will not allow yourself to acknowledge the cost. Disordered Thinking is what it is.
When your thinking is disordered, it can and often does cause hypersensitivity. No one—even those relatives and friends who care about you—wants to stand close to the “flame.” Few of them will say they do not want to be scorched, but it is what most of them are thinking. But some who would rather come near will not for fear of being upset. When you change how you think, how others treat you will change as well. You know the pain of living with how you think. And how hard it is to deal with what is going on in your head, and much too often, your body.
When how you think is disordered, how you act is known well before “we see you” as you move through your life, and you are not soon to realize it. When things are not right, we first look at all the other places for an answer. Though one thing is for sure, we will not harm ourselves with full knowledge of what we are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow, you must be strong. You have to believe it to see it. What do you believe?
For each one of us, there are things that we should never do. If what you do cause a problem, then the problem starts with you. You can do most of the things you choose to do—it depends on how you do them. Never do anything in a way that will bring harm to yourself or others. You may not see it, for harm has many faces. It will hold you back when you could be going forward and have you rushing in when still, is what you should be. To change your mind, you have to change how you think. Disordered Thinking is what it is.
When how you think is disordered, how you act will be an inevitable extension of this way of thinking that hinders progress and leaves a trail of regret and disappointment. Something you know—though—in many ways, you feel helpless to change. So when things are not right, you first look at all the other places for an answer. For sure, though, no one would harm themselves with full knowledge of what they are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow, you must be strong.
Once you know better, you will do better. Have you ever heard someone say, “they know better than that.” No matter what we may think, when a person knows better, they will do better. You and I may think they should know, but that does not mean they do. You cannot do wrong when you know better. It is not possible, just as you cannot think of two things at the same time. Which is on par with no two objects can occupy the same space.
You have to believe it to see it, and when you see it, you will know. What do you believe?