Why Let How You Look Cause You Pain

Looks — The Achilles Heel

There is likely no one who doesn’t care about their looks and certainly NO ONE who doesn’t have that one thing that causes insecurity about their appearance. It has as much to do with what you think others think about you as what you think of yourself. It could be your nose, your hair, breast, or just about anything that has been deemed not to be how it should be by those who will profit the most at your expense.

The “beauty industry” promotes the image of a better you if you just try the new and improved this that and the other. And let’s not leave out those who hover close by who try to feel better by making you feel worse and insecure about your looks and just about anything else. Most being so-called friends and even family members. When you allow yourself to be influenced by these outside forces, you will never be at ease and comfortable with yourself, the real you. You cannot be happy, no matter the circumstance or your status in life, until you resolve the issue you have with what you think you see when you look at yourself. Unfortunately, reflections do not always tell the truth. It is what you must do for yourself.

And as one would expect, those who are bothered the most will try to change things about themselves to be all that, even things that cannot or should not be changed. They spend loads of time and money on how they look, how they dress, and right down to how they walk and talk. The images you see in magazines, TV shows, and the media are not human prototypes. It is mainly an illusion, a fantasy created to sell an image of perfection. The perfect dazzling white teeth, long flowing hair, and a curvy body with all of the accompanying accouterments: the typical look you see as you go about your day.

No, not true—though—many by their spending confirms, at least for them, that it is.  And as one would expect, those who are bothered the most by how they think, and yes, think, will try to change things about themselves to be that image of perfection, even things that cannot or should not be changed. So they spend loads of time and money on how they look, how they dress, and right down to how they walk and talk.

Time and money indeed are important, but not as important as your health. And some of the things are putting the people who do them at risk. There is a nip and tuck here, augmentation there, reduction “up front,” and enhancement where they think enhancements are needed. It is no wonder when you look at how some are criticized and joked about for this one physical feature that is looked upon as a flaw and not the will of nature and how you were born to be. Yet, all the while, they are using this ridicule as a defense mechanism to fight off their insecurities.

The jokes and harsh words can be personal and quite nasty. Those who are adept at it can be creative with their techniques, while others show no mercy. The focus is always on those aspects of your person that are easy to attack. It is just superficial, yes, but it hurts, nonetheless. Making these critical remarks to inflict hurt and pain has become acceptable—it is “everywhere.” In casual conversations, in movies that we see, in magazines, and even in some of the books we read. There it is. It is no wonder that anxiety, low self-esteem, and insecurity are at an all-time high.

You cannot hide, for long, what is inside about how you think about your outside. So, you think you are different, that no one has your perceived shortcoming, your “defect.” In reality, there is no one who doesn’t have at least one thing, from birth, that they rather not have, some cover it up, and others have procedures to change what many times are just typical abnormalities. Nothing that millions of others all over the world have as well. Try telling that to yourself. If you see you when you listen to these words, it is time to learn from them. It is not easy, at first, to accept that which you have lived with as you would an unwelcome guest, but this you can and must do. There are some things you cannot change; you have to change how you think about them.

We have men, women, girls, boys, and even young children—more so today than ever—who have become entrapped by the marketing of major businesses and a brain-washed society. The very people who should know better are caught up with the rest in the swirl of the marketing machine. We are now looking for the ideal when it is not to be found, for it is always moving and changing. And there is no better way to separate you from your money than creating “false” insecurity and a sense of need. Know what is being sold before you buy. Money will not buy self-esteem. You have to earn it by changing how you see yourself.

If all of the people of the world were in one place, you would see much, and much of what you see would be no different than what you have seen, just “everyday people.” Everyone is beautiful at some place to someone, whereas very few would be using the so-called standard of beauty. Let me put it this way: There is no perfect person, physically, mentally, or otherwise, and few who meet the marketing criteria for beauty. On one of your typical days out and about, how many “beautiful” people do you see, few if any who have the looks of the gorgeous magazine models and the assortment of celebrities. It is all a make-believe world full of illusion, makeup trickery, and manipulation. It is not reality; it is not what you think you see.

We all have physical differences in height, weight, ears, eyes, and all of the other variations that come with being a living organism, a creation of nature. Even the appearance of the genitals causes much anxiety and personal and social discomfort. And the public buys into it. There are billions spent annually on Labiaplasty, Vaginal Rejuvenation, Penis Enlargement, and other body modifications by men, women, and even teens.

First thing in the morning, before your feet even touch the floor, you are thinking about one thing that is never far from your mind. You have tried not to think about it, and that is why you do. If you cannot change it, you have to change how you think about it. You wish to hide it from the mirror, but what’s the use. It will still be there when you look again. You do not have to be perfect to be perfect in the things that you do.

Some things you can change, others you have to change how you think about them.

Now Is The Time