You must seek for those things that you want to find rarely will they find you. First; though, you must know if you need what you think you want. No one is perfect but you can do perfect things. What is perfect for one may not be for another. You say you are happy and someone say to you how can this be. Oh, you are happy with less, I see. Only you can measure happiness for you and I for me. So let no one try to tell you how you feel for they cannot.
You should not lose your Self in anything and this you would not do unless there is something from long ago that is still bothering you. You cannot think clearly until you make your way back to you. Taking a step away from “The Self” is not the way we were created to be. And this you would only do, when something has gotten the best of you. But, you say that you are happy and I believe every word is true; therefore, the words you listen to here, are not meant for you.
Here is what those who want to live a life of happiness—much like you—need to do. They have to change how they feel, and to change how you feel you must change how you think. The barrier to happiness has its roots in a dysfunctional childhood. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. The memories will not let you be happy for any period of time without rising to the front to bring you back down. There are any number of ways that you sabotage your happiness. Making those around you unhappy with how you act is sure to keep your happiness at a distance.
To some degree, most of us have at one time or another let thoughts from the past threaten our serenity. It is how we think our thoughts. And some thoughts are not worthy of your time. Happiness is where you live; it should be your permanent home. Others come to visit, they can bring some with them, but you should not let them take any of yours away.
“What Distracts You The Most Is Your Mind”
There are reasons why you let things distract you, even when you do not know the reason why. When you are distracted, it can be good or it could be bad. It all depends on your thoughts. If a thing distracts you when you have good thoughts, it is not so good. If you are distracted when your thoughts are not good, it is a good thing. It is the thinking that you do afterwards that makes the difference in what you do next. It is not all about distraction. There is much in life that you can be attracted to as well. And there are several cautions here that will serve you well to remember.
When you find a person, place or even a “thing” to be attractive to you, a “one way” channel for your feelings has been opened. This is not a distraction. It is an attraction; you are drawn to it. It is by way of a preference that we all have for that which “pulls” us in. We are attracted to people, places and things that are attractive to us. But what turns me on may not do a thing for you. It is not by us; it is in us. Attraction leads to desire and it is from this point where how you feel and act will decide the outcome. Here is where a misinterpretation of the circumstance is likely to occur. Is it real or is it the imagination with a heavy dose of fantasy; an image that has been created to take your mind for a ride.
Since the advent of modern day marketing lines have been blurred and it is difficult, for many, to know what exactly they are attracted to. Is it unfettered attraction or have you been led to think—by suggestion—what you find attractive. What you think you feel just may be the hype and manipulation of the marketing machine. Just as in relationships, what you think you see may not that at all. When you peel away the veneer you realize it was just an illusion, a trick to gain your attention. There is very little that is what it seems to be; do you really know what is in that? You can “read the label” and still not know.
It has all come down to us against them. As has been put forth by the cautionary rule, “Let the buyer beware.” Is this person, place or thing just another someone or something made up to draw you in to seal the deal. And then it is a wrap. These objects of attraction are like magnets; they draw you in when the wise thing would be to maintain your distance. Some will forgo all the signs to the contrary and plunge head first into the swirl of promotions, sales gimmicks and marketing gadgets. The techniques are not exclusive to business concerns, there are men and women of all walks of life just as adept.
Though we can be attracted to many things, it is the strong feelings that you can have for the opposite sex that tugs at your feelings, and can play havoc with your mind. You must decide, for no one can do it for you, if the feeling is actionable. Or just the result of your life circumstance; loneliness for example. The answer comes and you must know it when it does for it is not always so apparent. And there are those times when the intent in to deceive. Other words for that, is a set up. One should know the difference for it could be a life saver. The first step in should only be taken after you have been invited. You are the gatekeeper of your mind so you must know what to allow in your head.
When you are attracted to the object of your desire the mind has a tendency to go on a flight of fantasy. And before you know it, if you are not grounded in reality, you will take off into the unknown. As is often the case, it may turn out to be something/someone you should walk away from. Much of this you may already know from firsthand knowledge, if so, treat this as just a reminder. Our preferences are based on how we view our wants and desires. They are subject to change as our mind goes from one thought to another. It depends on what is there to think about and what this does to how you feel. So this is a consideration that must be given before losing one’s self in the excitement of this most powerful force of attraction. It draws you in rather than push you away. Far too many, to their detriment, are distracted by their attractions.
What distracts some the most is when they think about what they think others think about them. And, of course, it is how you think. Then they try a never ending effort to change things about themselves that cannot not or should not be changed. They change how they dress, how they speak and yes, even their face. Some in their effort to cover up, what they think is a not so nicely shaped nose, cheek bones, eyes, skin tone or other believed to be flaws apply cosmetics of all kinds to the point where those who know them feel forced to lie and say they look natural and so becoming. It is not a nice thing to do to your friends and love ones.
But remember this, a Change in makeup will not change who you are. The Self is your makeup. It is the soul of a person, it is who you are and it does not change. New makeup is not what you need. An overhaul of how you think is what you need. This will change how you feel, which will change how you act and view the world around you. Let how you act be the face that you show the world. You should not depend on your looks to speak for you. Your outer person is only there to compliment who you are and not to be the complete representation of you.
Makeup and a getup will not keep you up. When how you look does not match your inner Self, it creates pressure. You have to try to act the way you look. The real you can only come out when the outside is in. How you feel, then, depends on how you look and with time the looks will change right before your eyes. Try as hard as you might, your looks will not remain the same. They will lose step to age. No one can march against time. The hands on the “clock” can stand still; the hands of time will not. And the struggle with who you see in the mirror is just as futile.
You fool no one when you try to hide and there is no cover up to make up for the difference. It is how you think and how you think leads the way to what you do next. To change how you feel about you, you have to change how you think about you. You have done too much though, when what you do cause you to look like who you are not—even worse—to act the same. We can see you and so can you.
A race against yourself can never be won.