The Sense of Sex

Here we have the first in a five-part series on the senses. The five basic senses are smell, hearing, sight, taste, and touch. They let us live and are the means to be in contact with the world around us. They make life what it is; without them, we could not survive. You have to be in contact with your world to be in touch with your Self. We live by our senses. They tell the brain what they have seen, heard, tasted, smelled, and felt. Then the brain sends commands to the body. The senses are tools for the brain. They are the means by which we receive outside information for the brain to evaluate and respond.

First up will be smell, yes, the olfactory of them all. Though not by me, there is some disagreement on which sense is the most developed at birth. Some think that it is the sense of touch. Others, I included, say that it is the sense of smell. It is well-known that newborns know their mothers by their scent; how they smell. It is what no other has, the “scent of a woman,” and they can tell. And let us be frank, there is no wonder why when you consider the birth path. There are smells that you cannot forget, and for me, I do not want to, ever. Though, I would say it is more an aroma that stirs the soul. That tantalizing smell of the female will not be mistaken, no matter how long you may have “been away.” Just with a whiff, you know. It is the most potent natural odor there is: surely not by mistake. The journey of our creation starts there, and our birth ends there—the Creator designed to be that way, no doubt.

There is a biological reason why the sense of smell is the most developed at birth. It is that we may survive and procreate. And no matter your beliefs, it is as God created it to be. Recent research (http://www.nih.gov/news-events/nih-research-matters/restoring-microbes-infants-born-cesarean-section) has shown that babies delivered via the birth canal acquire a microbial community (microbiota) that resembles that of their mother’s vagina. In contrast, babies born by cesarean section tend to acquire a microbial community that more closely resembles their mother’s skin. The microbiota acquired by a newborn are thought to be essential for the development of a healthy immune system and metabolism.

I could go into all of the details, but I will summarize to focus on the benefits. Vaginal birth provides protection for the baby that cesarean birth does not—though—as the research shows, exposure to the mother’s vaginal fluids after birth does give some of this protection. Now, what does this have to do with the sense of smell? Here is where I take over.

SMELL THIS

The baby who travels the length of the mother’s birth canal would certainly be fully immersed in the smell of the vagina. It is in the vagina where the most contact will occur with the baby’s nose and mouth. The scent cannot but make a lasting impact on the mind and memory, as it is so designed to be. It would not be otherwise. The male and female are different, and so would be the effect.

It is unfortunate that women and girls—mothers or not—are now covering up and trying to rid themselves of the smell that is a part of who they are. The woman has been made to feel ashamed of her body and scent. It is so sad, for we need the human smell to remind us that we are. And we wonder why it seems that man and woman are not as attracted to each other as they once were. It is not the same. There is no denying it. There really should be no wonder or reason to ask why. But there is. Why does it seem that there is some hidden hand that is trying to pull us apart? Whose agenda, is it? When we interfere with nature, nature will talk back. Someone is selling what you do not need.

We are born with our senses and for a good reason. It is so that we may live. And we and the people, places, and things in our lives provide the stimulation for the senses to carry out the roles assigned to them. So, when you smell it, taste it, see it, hear it, and feel it, you will know, and it will stimulate you to action. It is for us then to create, invent and discover those things that awaken and give life to the senses. We have to put a name on people, places, and things to know what and who they are when we meet them again. One thing for sure, though, we have been stimulated by each other, just as we are, from the beginning. The most intimate senses, of course, are the sense of smell and touch. When you feel it, you will believe it. And the sense of smell tells us much about things in our environment even when we cannot see, hear, taste, or touch them. Though, smell does affect our sense of taste and the things we are attracted to or repulsed by, which prompts me to ask, have we covered up our natural smell to the point that man and woman have lost their natural attraction to each other.

Sense of Smell: How Does It Work

Smell is a very direct sense. To smell something and know what it is, the scent, with the least amount of adulteration, has to make its way to the nose. The sense of smell brings us into harmony with nature and sharpens our awareness of other people, places, and things. It can influence our mood, help us to respond to those we meet, who we want to be near, and who we want to see again. Our sense of smell is not as accurate as that of some animals is what “they” say. Well, the animals are not dumb at all. They use their sense of smell to find a receptive mate and mating partners. The very same thing we used to do in the beginning. Being civilized now and human, I guess we think it is not needed anymore. We cover up our natural scent with all sorts of perfumes, lotions, and potions.

NEW SCENT OF A WOMAN

SMELL YOU NOT

Certain scents—that still smell the same—can remind us of past relationships and people we have known. They can stir memories that you may have once thought forgotten. Some scents make a picture come into our minds. Some make us feel relaxed; others make us feel excited. There are still segments of the science community that hold on to the notion, for I believe that is all that it is, that other mammals use a separate set of sensory receptor cells in their nose to receive social and sexual information from members of their own species. I say we do too. It would not seem so to some because we have stepped away from our natural self. At times, it is hard to tell what is real.

Smells and other chemical signals control the social behavior of most animals. We are losing our ability to smell nature’s scents. We have invaded our sense organ (the nose) with all kinds of chemical concoctions to make ourselves (our bodies) smell better. And this often suppresses our awareness of what our nose tells us. Many have been taught that there is something shameful about body odor: natural body odor, not due to exertion. I do not embrace this teaching. Testers who use their senses of smell to test things usually say that they “sniff” whatever substance they are testing. And there are “sniffers,” or should I say, those who like to sniff.

THE NOSE SMELLS ALL

You hear it said that men are visual creatures, and this may be so, but the smell of the female body drives the average, even less than average, man wild with desire. It makes the heart race, the pulse quicken, and without intervention, it will explode to an orgasmic finish, often at the blink of an eye. Let me set up a scenario that was not at all uncommon in years gone by. There is likely no such need today as things are more easily done. But then, it was all you had in your toolbox, and you had to go there when all else failed. Back in the teen days when you have found a place with just enough privacy to be with the girl of your desires—the girl your hormones have led you to—is when you pulled out that line used by so many boys. It would usually be in the backseat of a car, a room away from the parents, or just about anywhere that would accommodate two teenage bodies in heat.

THE SMELL IS NOT NEW

The atmosphere would be charged up with hormones and adolescent lust of desire where begging was the norm. You could not ease your way to where you wanted to go because of the one thing that stood in your way, the forever despised girdle. The small girls would even wear them as a defense against the teenage male’s probing mind and body parts. As much as you try, you are getting no further than kissing, rubbing, and hugging, but there was always that last angle to play. At this point, you were in agony, and you needed to release. Well, OK, OK, then, just let me smell it, let me put my finger in it. And surprise, more times than not, this would lead to where you wanted to go all along. Need I say you would delay washing your finger for as long as you could hold out. My point is, it is natural; it is in us, not by us but for us. No one taught you this. No one told you. It is just in you as a male. Your nose would take you there. To a man, it is more aroma than smell. It can make you weak in the knees and firm in the joints. Unfortunately, it all seems to be fading away in the fog of body washes and summer’s eve.

SPECIAL NOTE: The pursuit was not always with difficulty.

Mating

When mating first took flight, it was helped by instinct and smell. Of course, we try to cover up as best we can our natural aroma in this day and time. Man and woman likely did not look much different from each other, so it would not have been looks or some special outfit or hairstyle that fired up the desire for sex. Or romance. Unlike today, man and woman did not have sex face to face, which came to be known as the missionary position. So named because early missionaries advocated the position as “proper” to primitive Peoples, to whom the practice was unknown. I believe this to be a legend. However, it would be interesting to know how this came to be. And as far as I know, no other animal does the do while facing each other.

Yes, we are animals, and man and woman had hair covering their bodies—for a good reason—with just four things of note setting them apart. Those things that made the difference, of course, were the sex organs and the female breast. It has to be this way for the survival of the species. And, of course, without perky and firm breast, how would a newborn eat? Whether we believe we were created or evolved, we could not be the same. We had to be different to be. Man and woman were built to accommodate each other for mating. The penis and vagina were not born by accident.  Survival, and sex (reproduction) are our strongest drives, and they are with us from the start. Some choose to deny it, some run from it, and others rush to embrace it.

Just a little sniff will go a long way. Leave your mark, and men will follow you—that is—if they can smell you. Sex is in our nature as living beings. And so is our scent. The marketers would have you believe otherwise.

WHY YOU FEEL THE WAY YOU DO—IT IS HOW YOU THINK