We should know what we do to others and ourselves when we do not tell the truth. It is not a mistake to tell a lie; it is wrong. Why can a lie not be a mistake? A lie is an intended act that will cause harm to you and those who consider it true. There is something wrong with how we live our life when we think we have to lie. From the time you become the recipient of a lie, you are captive of its cruel intentions until the truth sets you free.
A mistake can, and usually does, cause harm, though it is not done on purpose. You cannot knowingly make a mistake. But, if you know that you are not going to do something right, whatever you do is done with intent, is down low, and lives where the lie resides. In many ways, it is worse than telling a lie. For it is not only a lie, but it is also “masquerading” as a good faith effort caused by a mistake.
A lie gives many reasons—when it has to—for its existence, and a lie has to be told to be a lie. Try not to be the one who tells it nor the one it is told to. And no matter how well it is dressed and packaged, it is what it started out to be. A lie’s energy and growth increase each time it is believed. The owner feels pride and a sense of accomplishment when their lie withstands any and all challenges.
Some who lie after a while, if not found out, start to believe their own lie. They will swear that what they say is not a lie and defend it vigorously when faced with the truth. And yes, even call the truth a lie. You should try never to remain in the presence of anyone you know is not telling you the truth. They have no respect for you, for if they did, they would not lie to you. Lies are told to deceive or to cover for a previous action of irrationality or misbehavior. Ask yourself if you would do the same.
What about being boastful or exaggerating? It would not be considered a lie unless it crossed the line. If you are the one either boasting, exaggerating, or both, you know when that line has been crossed. Maybe you should start with your delivery—inflection—and you will not feel the need to go where you should not. And you would certainly benefit from a dose of self-confidence.
The core of the truth is elastic in the sense that it can be stretched, though only so far. If taken beyond, it will be a lie. Remember, someone always knows the truth. That is, even if it’s just you, who knows, and know this, with secrets, there are no absolutes. Why not tell it. It should be told for all it is worth, and one thing is for sure, a price cannot be put on it. Not all has to be told, but what is told should be the truth. It relieves the load and puts the mind at ease. A lie has no comfort zone. It is always running, ducking, dodging, and trying to hide. And no, a lie cannot be put to rest even after the truth has been told.
And there are few times, if any, that a lie can be justified. Even in those rare occasions where it can, it is because of an action that should not have been taken. You talk and act your way into a circumstance where you have to lie to get out of. It is what you do and say that cause you to “have” to lie. Disordered thinking and bad decision-making will place you in lie territory. Distance yourself from this lapse in judgment and lie no more.
When you live among lies, and you know it, how can you trust anyone.
Always try to tell the truth; life is better for you when you do. Yes, I know, there have been times when you told the truth, and no one believed you. It took a while for you to understand, I am sure. This is when you should remember that you cannot tell the truth to one who lives a lie or is in a delusional state of mind when they think their role as the ” superior” humankind is threatened. They will not know the truth when they see it because their mind will not let them believe it, coming from an “inferior” like you. So, if I lie to you about you, I cannot accept your truth, but I would accept a lie. When all else fails and the lie is no longer accepted by “the just,” power is used to force it back into place. It is a sign of weakness. And that on which the foundation was built will crumble.
When you live a lie, you are lost in your own reality and separated from what is real. The trouble with a lie is that it hides the truth. Though, there will always come a time when the truth will be known, for a lie cannot live forever. Unfortunately, civilizations have allowed themselves to be destroyed by believing their own lie. And we are well on our way.
What is it when you tell a lie but think it is the truth? It means that not telling the truth is a pathological problem for you and is a defense mechanism that you have used to protect yourself from your world. No one up close is being deceived by your words, for they see how you act.
You have to face what you are running from—the hurt and pain—and realize that lies keep you from being the person you know you are—the real you. You cannot pass through, go over, or under a lie. You must tell yourself the truth, and only then will you be set free. You must know the company that you keep starting with yourself. A lie is dangerous and conning. No matter how, where, or who tells it. It is not safe nor wise to be where someone is telling it or where your only “way out” is to tell one yourself. You cannot live another person’s lie; you must live your truth.
What is it when you say yes, but you feel no, or stop when you feel go? Is it a lie to say you care: all the time knowing that you do not? Does it hurt more or less to see the truth? The one who tells the lie, does so is to mislead. It can, and often does, create a world of make-believe; it is delusional and, of course, not true. A world such as this is where no one is living the truth, the teller or the told. One of them should know the truth. And when neither one does, the lies have risen to the level of a mental disorder (pathological liar), and the one who now believes what they are being told is not without guilt, for they hide from the truth as well. Though once a lie is told, how can you know what to believe? From the clothes we wear to the products that we buy, much of it is a lie. And a lie will always do damage.
They call it marketing. I call it a lie.
Who are we when we shed our garments and our “face?” It is we. I will not be true in what I do if you are not true in what you do to me. If I think I love you, and you have not told the truth, then my love is a lie. And that is if I know it or not. Yes, you may believe that you are in love, but one thing is certain; you cannot love someone who doesn’t love you. What you are not doing is facing the lie that is masquerading as the truth. A lie will not support the truth. It is a lie—as well—when you will not allow yourself to see what is most times obvious to others. The greatest lie is when you lie to yourself and act as if it is the truth. It is not a mistake. It is a lie.
A Lie is Not a Mistake
The conscious part of the mind does not make a mistake. Its roots are in the base of our thoughts. You do not make it on purpose. There is no motive. When and where we make our mistakes is about how we feel. When we feel good about ourselves, mistakes are few. When we take care with what we say and do, there will be no need to say I Am Sorry. I made a mistake. Of course, you do not feel all mistakes the same way. Some are seen while others are not, but the effect is the same. The result was different from what it was meant to be. And none is without harm. It could be a threat to life or just plain embarrassment; either way, no one wants to make or be the cause of something going wrong for what they did not do right.
Both lies and mistakes are acts of thought and are harmful to those who are touched by them. A mistake is no less harmful than a lie. Just as with a lie, it can be the cause of damage. It must be made right, or it will do just that. On the receiving end or the one who made the mistake, you will be harmed in some way. Once touched by either, it is not easy to predict what comes next. Lies and mistakes cause many of the bad things that happen in our lives. Even so, what is right can and does follow. But keep this upmost in your mind, you cannot undo a lie. The damage shall remain maybe only by degrees–there nevertheless.
You do not try to make a mistake. If you did, it would not be a mistake. It would be a thing you did with some thought. When what you do is thought out, it is not a mistake when it goes wrong. It is how you think that is the problem. A thought causes a mistake that you are not aware that you have. It is not a conscious thought. This sets off an action. What you have then is the mistake. It is not one, though, until it is known by someone. At least one person must know that it exists. If not, the mistake can be made again. You do not make a mistake that you know of more than once. If you do, it is not a mistake—it is intentional—It is done on purpose whether you know it, say so, or not.
You have thoughts on their way but have yet to arrive at your level of consciousness. You are not aware of them yet, and they distract you from what you want to think about and what you are trying to do. You know this. They cause your mind to wander, and you do not focus as you should. If you cannot concentrate on the task at hand, it does not hold a priority over other thoughts in your mind. If it is not important to you, it is not a thing you should try. The mind will not engage as it should. This will not let you do it right. You have to focus, but nothing will help if you are not ready and willing. Put another way: if it is not what you want to think about. People, places, and things and how we interact and relate to them is all we have. If any of these is significant to you at any given time, think about that.
What you do now is what you should focus on, that is, if you want to do it right. You can think about many things, but you can focus on only one at a time. When you try to do more, you are setting yourself up to make a mistake. It is misleading to think it is a special skill to do more than one thing at a time. No special skill to multitask. It does not require any special know-how to perform more than one task at a time. It just shares the effort, which takes away from the whole of each. Just as you can see more than one thing at a time, you can only focus on one. That is unless they are more of the same. If not, the diffirence will be the draw.
You can do more than one thing at a time but will not think more than one thought at a time. Try it. Sit two or more things together that are different from each other and try to focus. Your mind will shift from one to the other. Do not shift from this message.
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