When you are not sure what you think about what is on your mind, you will be just as unsure about what you should do. You will do something, but will that be the best thing to do. It is highly doubtful. Do not make a move before you know what, when, where and how you are going to act. You will not be able to undo what you do once it is done. I am sorry, I didn’t mean to do that, I apologize does not make up for when you act in a way, where you will do your very most to take it back. Of course, this you can never do no matter what you say or do to make what you did better.
We all think; it is not a problem for any of us, but acting on what you think can be. When you think, your mind is at work and is telling you as it does its work what it wants to do with your thoughts. But, unless you make the decision, you cannot be sure the right one has been made.
You should listen to your mind. And if it is not what is best for you, this is when you tell your mind what you are going to do. You rule your mind. It should never be in charge of what you do and say. The mind and the Self—the Self is you—should always agree before decisions are made. That is the only way that you should decide on a course of action or how you feel about what you think. Any other way will result in disordered thinking and an uncertain outcome. Never, with no exceptions, do or say a thing that will cause you to act in a way that is harmful to you and your best interest.
When left to itself, the mind has no power of its own; it is powered by the world in which it exists. Thinking is what feeds the mind and tells it what to do and the more you think the more there is to think. There is never a time that we are not thinking. If you are alive, you are thinking. The only time this might not be so, and we don’t know for sure, is when a person is brain-dead, which is a topic for another day.
Here is what happens for you to act, which, of course, requires thinking. First, you perceive and this perception is based on people, places and things in your environment. Next, you think about these things, which then cause you to have feelings about them and at this point is when you act. Your behavior is the end result. How you act is how others know you for they cannot know what you are thinking. No one, not a Psychiatrist, Psychologist or any “wise one” can read your mind.
Though many do not subscribe to the following truth it is true nonetheless: We are known and judged, yes judged, by our behavior and how we act. You cannot act before you think so when you tell someone you did not mean to hurt them, lie to them or any other such hurtful thing, they may not know what you were thinking, but they do know what you did to them. What they may be thinking is that you had thoughts about them, you did a bit of thinking and that as a result you had certain feelings and you acted in a way to hurt them. It is not often that you can be made to something you do not want to do. That fact is known to most. So, think as long as it takes and if for whatever reason you feel rushed, do not decide until you have the time to understand your thoughts. You must think as long as needed to make the best decision for you and those who will be on the receiving end of your actions.
You have friends, neighbors, people you work with, and too many times relatives who act in a way you prefer they did not. But for good or bad, better or worse—you—in such times, do not control what they do. Each one of us is solely responsible for the things we do, or not. Of course, there are some who try to take matters into their own hands. They use countless ways and means to influence the behavior of others and there are times it may seem to work; however, unless it is what a person wanted to do, you can never know, for sure, when they will not. Or they just might turn on you. You should not depend on coercion to have your way with others for you cannot know what is going on in the mind of another, so it is best to understand that. To misjudge can have unwanted and irreparable consequences.
The mind is meant to explore the possibilities. It is there where it seems to be to wonder, to create, and to consider what is thought to be and what can be. There is no limit where the mind will go, the turns it will take and the maneuvers it will make, so there are times when you have to call it back. Yes, the mind is the master of thought no doubt. But we are the master of the mind.
You have to listen to learn and learn to listen. It is how you think. Are you listening now?