You Can Hear But Not Listen
Just as you can look but not see, you can hear and not listen. You first hear, and then you listen. When you listen, you can feel the sound of your thoughts. To hear is not to listen. It is not the same. It takes no effort to hear if you want to hear or not. To hear is one of the senses. It is there by nature and has no on and off switch. When you focus on what you hear, you will listen.
Hearing is the ability to perceive sound with our ears. I will not spell out the whole process, but the ears do this by detecting vibrations. When an object makes a noise, it sends vibrations (better known as sound waves) speeding through the air. You can hear sound through solid, liquid, or gaseous matter, as well as anger, fear, happiness, and pleasure. There are times when you may hear things even when you rather not. I am leaving you. I have found someone else. The thrill is gone. You are fired. And there are other times when what you want to hear you never do. I love you, yes, yes, yes. You make me feel so good. Please, don’t stop now. You are the best.
A Lie Is Yet What It Is No Matter How Sweet The Words
What you hear can deceive you, just as when you see an object, person, or thing and realize upon closer inspection that it is not what you believed it to be. It is never so evident than when a lover, husband, or wife says, “I love you,” when all along they are making love to someone else. To take it a step further to a place no one wants to be is when a person hears what is not said. The need (desire) to hear what you want to hear can cause you to change the meaning of the sound of the words coming from the speaker’s mouth. You can turn and run as fast as you can from what is real, but it will not change a thing. If he does not want you anymore, and she is telling you that she has someone else, it will be the same no matter what you allow yourself to hear. The mind is a terrible thing when it works against you.
There are times when someone will say something to you, and they do not want you to listen. They only want you to hear; this is so that they can confuse you later when you tell them what they said. What you hear then is, I did not say that I did not say it like that or even, that is not what I meant. Our lives are shaped by how well we know how to listen. Just because you can hear does not mean you are going to listen. We hear with our ears, but we listen with our mind. The words begin to sink in. It is then that you are focused. You are there. And you will see what they really mean when they say the things that they do.
There is a time to listen. There is a time to think. There is a time to talk. Listen, think, and then speak. Knowing when it is your time is what best determines the outcome. These are the things you must know for knowledge to flow. It is the best way to have give and take. All will have a chance to express their thoughts. It works best when one talks and the other listens. The key is to know when it is your turn. When you listen, you do that, not a thing more. We do this when our mind tells us to. It is how you think what is said. First, though, you must be where you need to be to hear what is worth listening to.