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July 27, 2015

Your Mind Is Hurting What Do You Do Now

by James R. Yarbrough

When Your Mind is Hurting And You Do Not Know What To Do

I hope that you will read this post and that it will be of comfort to you, your love ones or someone you may know. If you feel that this does not pertain to your experience, it may help you to understand someone you know, better.

Your husband or wife does not cause our pain. Neither your employer nor your friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. The pain that you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came; you allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is your thinking.

Stressful experiences in early childhood can have long-lasting impacts on kids’ health that persist well beyond the resolution of the situation. We now know more about emotional trauma and abuse in childhood and its effect on the mind, this is good. What is not so good is that those who know do not know what they should. It seems that what no one wants to admit, and we (society) will not own up to, is what we are doing to us. I ask myself, what the end game is. Does anyone know? A childhood of pain and hurt can only lead to one thing, a life of the same. That is, if we do not listen to what we hear. And it is difficult to do that when you are still clinging on to debris from your childhood. But you do have to learn to listen and you listen to learn.

A cluttered mind leaves no place for good things to go. You let pain you did not cause, be the reason why you to suffer from pain you did cause. When how you think and act is the result of the pain you feel, you must trace your pain to where it leads. That would be your childhood.

Your childhood is real and the affect that it has on you—good or bad— is real, as well. You must look back one last time. First, though, you have to let down your defense, drop your guard, maybe, for the first time. When you change how you think, it can be done. Yes, many of us have been hurt. Our pain has its roots in and grows from a life being interfered with. You have to go back to this point. It is where your path to a right way of thinking begins.

Knowing who you are and being the real you is how you become the person you were meant to be. That goes for all of us. It is a journey that begins with the first step, and the first step always begins in early childhood where the basis of our personality and sensitivities are formed. What comes next is the product of our environment. It is there in our mental and physical environment where our thoughts are formed by way of the senses and are molded in the image of the messages we receive through awareness and perception.

When your self-esteem is low, you will not be the best that you can be. It is not that you cannot be your best. You just will not let myself do it. You are weak though you act strong, and that is not pretty and fools no one. You have to be Self-aware it will never leave you; it is with you for life. It is how a child develops a healthy sense of self-worth. This is when you can say, I am “somebody” and mean it. And it does not always happen when it should.

What has the most negative impact on our lives is when our self-esteem does not develop at all. You need it to live an emotionally mature life. It is not likely that you can have a productive life without a heavy dose of self-esteem. We all need it. If this does not happen in early childhood, it will cause you to think, feel and act in ways you would rather not. Life will be difficult, at best. It can take years, if ever, to gain what you never had, but always needed.

The American Academy of Pediatrics in a Healthy Children article defines self-esteem as “the way in which an individual perceives herself—in other words, her own thoughts and feelings about herself and her ability to achieve in ways that are important to her. This self-esteem is shaped by not only a child’s own perceptions and expectations, but also by the perceptions and expectations of significant people in her life—how she is thought of and treated by parents, teachers and friends. The closer her perceived self (how she sees herself) comes to her ideal self (how she would like to be) the higher her self-esteem.”

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