Why I Feel The Way I Do
Pain Does Not Cause Pain How You Think and Act Does
Your husband or wife does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor your friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. The pain that you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came; you allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is your thinking.
Stressful experiences in early childhood can have long-lasting impacts on kids’ health that persist well beyond the resolution of the situation. My entire childhood and much of my adult life, no matter the bright spots, was filled with pain. I could not be me for any length of time. My mind would not let me. What was wrong had to be made right and what was wrong was in me. I had known from when I was a small child—three or four, maybe—that my thoughts and how I would think them was adding to my pain. My heart would ache and my soul would scream, why me. These were times when little was known about why we do the things that we do. We now know more about emotional trauma and abuse in childhood and its effect on the mind, this is good.
What is not so good is that those who know do not know what they should. It seems that what no one wants to admit, and we (society) will not own up to, is what we are doing to us. I ask myself, what is the end game. Does anyone know? A childhood of pain and hurt can only lead to one thing, a life of the same. That is, if you do not listen to what you hear. And it is difficult to do that when you are still clinging on to debris from your childhood. A cluttered mind leaves no place for good things to go. You let pain you did not cause, cause you to suffer from pain you did cause. When how you think and act is the result of the pain you feel, you must trace your pain to where it leads. That would be your childhood.
Your childhood is real and the affect that it has on you—good or bad— is real, as well. You must look back one last time. First, though, you have to let down your defense, drop your guard, maybe, for the first time. If the trip is difficult to take, try being me and I will be you. To see life the way that I saw it—even though not through my eyes—will help you to understand how the millions who suffer here, and around the world may feel. How they act is a way to learn about you. When you change how you think, it can be done. Yes, many of us have been hurt. Your pain has its roots in and grows from a life being interfered with. You have to go back to this point. It is where your path to a right way of thinking begins.
It is the thoughts of your childhood that hurts. If it is not you who you see when you look, you are likely to recognize someone you know and possibly love. Or someone you just care about. Maybe it is someone you have empathy for, never knowing why they act the way they do. There is someone you know here—whether you knew it or not. Now you will know and have a better understanding of them and yourself. It is a matter of self-awareness, which simply means feeling good about yourself. Knowing who you are and being the real you; the person you were meant to be. That goes for all of us, you, them and me. It is a journey that begins with the first step, and the first step always begins in early childhood where the basis of your personality and sensitivities are formed. What comes next is the product of your environment. It is there in your mental and physical environment where your thoughts are formed by way of the senses and are molded in the image of the messages we receive through awareness and perception.
My self-esteem, which most of the time ran low, caused me not to do my best. It was not that I could not be my best. I just would not let myself do it. I was weak though I acted strong, and that is not pretty and fools no one. It is not likely that we can have a productive life without a heavy dose of self-esteem. We all need it. It is being Self-aware and it will not leave you, it is with you for life. It is how a child develops a healthy sense of self-worth; that I am “somebody.” This does not always happen when it should. What has the most negative impact on our lives is when it does not develop at all. You need it to live an emotionally mature life. It is not likely that you can have a productive life without a heavy dose of self-esteem. We all need it. If this does not happen in early childhood, it will cause you to think, feel and act in ways you would rather not. Life will be difficult, at best. It can take years, if ever, to gain what you never had, but always needed.
That your view may be clouded by time and the hurt that you felt does not change a thing. You were a child in an adult world. You must first be aware of something before you can have thoughts about it, and your thoughts are based on perception. Life is understood and lived through your senses, and for each sense that is lost, there is a reduction in the ability to perceive and interact with the world around you.
We allow ourselves to be reminded of things long past that serve no useful purpose in our life today. A memory from your childhood can be one of them. The best place for a child to grow up is a place that nurtures and cares. It is there where childhoods grow. As well as being nurtured, we are born to this world to nurture. We are born with an instinct to live. It is in our nature though it does not always show.
The American Academy of Pediatrics in a Healthy Children article defines self-esteem as “the way in which an individual perceives herself—in other words, her own thoughts and feelings about herself and her ability to achieve in ways that are important to her. This self-esteem is shaped by not only a child’s own perceptions and expectations, but also by the perceptions and expectations of significant people in her life—how she is thought of and treated by parents, teachers and friends. The closer her perceived self (how she sees herself) comes to her ideal self (how she would like to be) the higher her self-esteem.”
To Change How You Think You Have to Change What You Think About
In the Beginning
Creation is the breath of life from which we evolve. Parents create our life. They prepare, or not, the way for us. An offspring does not evolve to the world. They are born. Then it is for us to be who we are meant to be. We are how we survive.
I do not consider myself a religious person because I am not. I am just a spiritual person that believes in God, The Creator. I have had thoughts about where did it all come from. As I am sure, many of you have. A line has been drawn and sides have been taken on the matter of evolution vs. creation. The beliefs are just as strong for both arguments. On one side, we have those who believe in creation and the other, are those who believe in evolution. Each is steadfast in their beliefs. Well, I subscribe to both with an emphasis on creation.
Creavolution is what gives life its shape, from when it begins to the end. We are all created from it. This is through the Creator of all life and all things. It is how life flows. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved. Creation and evolution are the two forces that are one with all life all the time. It is the new, which was created, and all things that evolved from it. We evolve when our needs are met.
The purpose of life is to go forward and procreate. It is what keeps us going. What else we do is up to us. We were created to evolve to create. And Creavolution is how it is done. All things must first be, to grow and become. Growth starts when life begins and Creavolution is what gives life its shape, from when it begins to when it ends. We are all created from it. This is through the Creator of all life and all things. It is how life flows. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved.
We evolve when our needs are met. All that we need was here before us, as it is for all creatures. We have to be taught how to meet our needs. That is, if we are to survive. Many of us are not taught well. So, we have to do our best to make the best of what we do have. We have to survive until we know better. A place must be prepared for us. Nurturing and caring has to be a part of that plan. The needs of life must be there for life to grow. I will prepare a place for you.
To have evolved when not a thing came first, will not answer the question of life. Evolve is what we do once we are here. It is not the answer. The answer is in the act of creation. And it speaks for the Creator. You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. These are the things that I believe. It is about life, it is about Creavolution ™. This means we were created to evolve. Creation and evolution says it all, they are the combination that is life. You cannot have one without the other.
Who is God and What is God to You
When you see the word God, do you think religion? Well, the idea of a God was with us long before religion became a movement. Before this time God was a spirit something or someone to believe in, to call on for help and to give thanks for your blessings. Spirituality, by my definition, is more a belief in a power that is greater than all other. It is there for when we need what our efforts have been unable to provide. We ask for the strength to carry on. Otherwise, we do it on our own. More than that; though, it is a feeling, a way of thinking whereby the power of God is no more or less the spirit within us.
There are few times when you have to ask for anything. That is, if you believe. You come as you are. You do not have to be a member. No membership is required. Some might, and do, ask why must there even be a God. Why do you need it? I say you do not if you think you do not. You have to believe it to see it. To see it is to understand.
I do not have to look up or go somewhere to see my God. My God is right here with me.
The End of The Male in The Female is Near Who Needs a Man Anyway
When I focus on what appears to me to be an increasing trend, I cannot but conclude that there are a significant number of females of the human species who do not care very much for the warm and tender touch of a man. As I explained in my comment to the CNN online article below, this seeming desire to do without men has taken on the appearance of hate. Read on to see where all of this has taken us.
Reproduction without sex, a liberating future
By Aarathi Prasad, Special to CNN
updated 4:11 PM EST, Thu December 20, 2012
Editor’s note: Aarathi Prasad is a London-based biologist and science writer and the author of “Like a Virgin: How Science is Redesigning the Rules of Sex”.