SELF Control More Harm Than Good

Self Control is Not Self Awareness

Self awareness Is To Understand Who You Are. When you use self-control, you are trying to control what you do and say whenever you are around or otherwise in contact with other people.

You know who you are when you are Self aware; therefore, your Self feels no need or has an awareness of the self-control state of consciousness. When you are insecure and have low self-esteem, you may try but will not hide your true feelings for long. Some try to do so by self-control. This is not the answer. It takes an effort that pits your mind against your own Self to do so. You are who you are afraid will be seen when the damn breaks. Simply put, you are living a lie when you feel the need to use self-control.

The SELF is All You Have

Life is all about being who you are, the real you. The Self will not be controlled—for long. Any effort to do so will last for a brief time before you must exhale. At this point, your self-control will lose its grip, and your hold will give way. That is when you will act the way you feel. Your Self—the person inside—is what you try to hide when you use self-control. Quite often, a “collapse” will come when a thing you have worked for is at stake and it is within reach.

To be self-aware is to know who you are.

No matter your experience, what is certain is that you will lose control at some time or place if control is what you use to “be yourself.” This you may already know. You must strive to be SELF aware: you will not lose it once you have it. Only then will you know who you are. It is your core. It is what your Self should always be. Aware.

The mind can be like a misbehaving child.

( Words from the mind of a mannish boy.)

It was as if I would be hearing silent words. What else could it be? A voice in my head telling me to do what I did not know I wanted to do. I would do whatever came to mind without hesitation. This, it seemed, without any thought at all. The thing is, I was not giving myself enough time to think.

When I would do what I should not do, to say that I was sorry would be to say I was wrong. That was a thing I found hard to do. I would promise myself I would not do it again. I meant it until the next time. And there was always a next time. I tried to take charge of what I would say and do. I did this by trying to control myself. It did not work.

It Will Let You Down

My mind would not let me see myself in a good light. I was not aware of me. Who am I supposed to be? Who is this looking back at me when I look in the mirror? Is it a nephew or a son, or a smart child or just a mannish boy. Maybe I was a surprise—a mistake no one knew what to do with. I could not control my thoughts. They were taunting me day and night. I was the aim of my discomfort, and I could not share it nor pass it on.

We will not control what we do not understand. If we know and understand our “Self,” we do not need control. Life flows.

Self Control is Control of Self=Out of Control

We can control some things, but not our “Self.” We must learn to live with, not control, ourselves. Self-control should not be the goal. There are limits on how long we can keep ourselves in check. You must always be vigilant when you feel you must control what you might say or do. It will let you down when you need it most. When we know ourselves well, we do not need Self-control.

The Self does not need to be controlled. Nor can it be. Self, control will give way, and one time is too many.

Out of Control