We must seek for those things that we want to find rarely will they find us. First; though, you must know if you need what you think you want. None of us are perfect but we can do perfect things. What is perfect for one may not be or should be for another. You should not lose your SELF in anything. You cannot think clearly, when you do, because that is not the way it is meant to be. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. We cannot live in the past, so why should we let the past live in us. It is pain you feel. Let what you do speak for you, not what has been done to you. To some degree, this has happened to most of us. It is how we think about the things that we think about. Happiness is where you live, others come to visit, they can bring some with them, but with you is where it must stay.