Otis Redding Memorial Madison Wisconsin

Note for Otis Blog Posts 2-5-16

The Day That Soul Cried

The day that soul cried, a chilly mist hung over Madison, Wisconsin. Fans of Rhythm and Blues anticipated a thrilling visitor that Sunday night. Singer Otis Redding was scheduled for two shows at the Factory. Three days earlier, Otis had finished recording “Dock of the Bay,” a moody song that would later be his only No. 1 hit on the pop charts.

Otis was accompanied by the Bar-Kays, fresh-faced high school graduates from Memphis. Otis (The Big O) had performed the night before in Cleveland. He, the Bar-Kays, his valet and pilot were flying to Madison in his private twin-engine Beechcraft. They were scheduled to perform at 6:30 and 9 p.m. But they never made it. The plane fell three miles short of the runway and crashed at 3:28 p.m. in the near-freezing waters of Lake Monona. The sole survivor, trumpet-player Ben Cauley, was pulled from the water 17 minutes after stunned witnesses along the eastern shore of Squaw Bay telephoned for help.

On November 8, 1987 members of the Otis Redding Memorial Fund, a Madison, Wisconsin nonprofit corporation, culminated their fund-raising drive with the dedication of a memorial to Otis Redding on the shore of Lake Monona. The memorial consists of three semicircle marble benches, custom carved in Portugal with the initials, O.R. incorporated in the legs, Georgia gray granite marker and a bronze plague. The memorial was temporarily moved to storage to make way for the construction of the Frank Lloyd Wright designed Monona Terrace Convention Center. A re-dedication ceremony was held August 15, 1997 on the Roof Garden of the Convention Center, where the memorial is now located.

James R. Yarbrough

President and Founding Member

Otis Redding Memorial Group

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Why Let How You Look Cause You Pain

Mirror Mirror On The Wall 1-11-16

Your Achilles Heel

(Everyone has one.)

There is no one who doesn’t have that one thing that causes insecurity about his or her appearance. It has as much to do with what you think others think about you as what you think of yourself. It could be your nose, your hair, breast or just about anything that has been deemed not to be how it should be. When you think this way, you will never be at ease and comfortable with yourself, the real you. You cannot be happy, no matter the circumstance or your status in life, until you resolve the issue you have with what you think you see when you look at you. Reflections do not always tell the truth.

The images you see in the magazines, on TV shows and throughout the media are not the prototype of the human. It is mostly an illusion, a fantasy created to sale an image of perfection. The perfect dazzling white teeth, long flowing hair and a curvaceous body with all of the accompanying accouterments. And as one would expect, those who this bothers the most will try to change things about themselves, even things that cannot or should not be changed. They spend loads of time and money on how they look, how they dress and right down to how they walk and talk.

Time and money surely are important, but not as important as your health. And some of the things are putting the people who do them at risk. It is no wonder when you look at how some are criticized and joked about for this one physical feature that is looked upon as a flaw and not the will of nature and how you were born to be. All the while they are using this ridicule as a defense mechanism to fight off their own insecurities.

The jokes and harsh words can be personal and quite nasty. Those who are adept at it can be creative with their techniques, while others show no mercy. The focus is always on those aspects of your person that are easy to attack. It is just superficial; yes, but it hurts nonetheless. Making these critical remarks with hurtful intent has become acceptable—it is “everywhere.” In casual conversations, in movies that we see, in magazines and even in some of the books that we read: There it is. It is no wonder that anxiety, low self-esteem and insecurity are at an all-time high.

You cannot hide, for long, what is inside about how you think about your outside. So, you think you are different, that there is no one who has your perceived shortcoming, your “defect.” In reality there is no one who doesn’t have a defect of birth of some type, some cover it up and others have procedures to change what many times are just normal abnormalities. Nothing that millions of others all over the world don’t have as well. Try telling that to yourself. For if you see you when you listen to these words, it is time to hear it and learn from it. It is not easy, at first, to accept that which you have lived with as you would an unwelcome guest, but this you can and must do. There are some things you cannot change; you have to change how you think about them.

We have men, women, girls, boys and even young children—more so today than ever—who have become entrapped by the marketing of major businesses and a brain-washed society. The very people who should know better are caught up with the rest in the swirl of the marketing monster. We are now looking for the ideal when it is not to be found for it is always moving and changing. And there is no better way to separate you from your money than creating “false” insecurity and a sense of need. Know what is being sold before you buy. Money will not buy self-esteem. You have to earn it by changing how you see yourself.

If all of the people of the world were in one place, you would see much and much of what you would see would be no different than what you have seen; just “everyday people.” Everyone is beautiful at some place to someone whereas using the so called standard of beauty very few would be. Let me put it this way: There is no perfect person, physically, mentally or otherwise and few who meet the marketing criteria for beauty. On one of your typical days out and about, how many “beautiful” people do you see, few if any who have the looks of the gorgeous magazine models and the assortment of celebrities. It is all a make believe world full of illusion, makeup trickery and manipulation. It is not reality; it is not what you think you see.

We all have physical differences from height, weight, ears, eyes and all of the other variations that come with being a living organism, a creation of nature. Even the appearance of the genitals causes much anxiety and personal and social discomfort. And the public buys into it. There are billions spent annually on Labiaplasty, vaginal rejuvenation, penis enlargement and other body modifications by men, women and even teens.

White Man Getting Out of Bed

First thing in the morning before your feet even touch the floor you are thinking about one thing that is never far from your mind. You have tried to not think about it and that is why you do. If you cannot change it, you have to change how you think about it. You wish to hide it from the mirror but what’s the use, it will still be there when you look. You do not have to be perfect to be perfect in the things that you do.

Nothing is hard to do, you just do not know how to do it yet.

 

Pain Does Not Cause Pain How You Think Does

You Have to Listen to Learn and Learn to Listen

Note:

When I say you, as I often do, it is only you when you see you. The message here is direct. If you do not recognize any parts of how you think, feel, and act, don’t turn away, for you will recognize someone you know or love.  Or perhaps if you listen to what you read and see, you will understand someone you know better. Even if the someone is no one, you know. You may not know them, but you have seen him or her act out their hurt in all the wrong places where there is no apparent reason why.

Do not cover up your pain with the things that you say and do. It is understandable for you to do this to try to feel better. The problem is, it does not work: Not for long. You will only suffer more and make it worse. No matter how fast you run, you cannot run from pain. And to pretend it is not there will not make life easier. For you know—even if no one else does—it has not gone away. Emotional hurt and pain: It is a symptom that not all is well with how you think.

No new boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife will change how you feel; they cannot take the pain away. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. It is pain that you feel. Let what you do speak for you, not what has been done to you. To some degree, this has happened to most of us. It is how you think about thoughts; you know, those things you think about, those actions taken against you, and those you have taken against yourself.

Your husband or wife, or not having either, does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. When all has been said, the pain that you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came. You allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor, or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is how you think. It is not you that they see when they look your way. You have hidden the real you under layers of hurt and pain.

You have struggled long to come out. No one knows the real you, for you have not shown your SELF to them. You have been afraid to look at you. When will you let the real you show up? You know there are times when no one is around that you lose it. It hurt so bad not to be yourself. It aches in your heart. There are times when you need to feel that one person, just one, love you for who you are. Your hurt has wounded you. Remember this: I come before you, they, them, we and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do.

If you have memories of hurt and pain from your past, it will change when you change how you think. You have to understand this for what it is, how it influences your thoughts.

 

 

Makeup or Coverup Will Not Left You Up

Pain Does Not Cause Pain How You Think Does

Do not cover up your pain with the things that you say and do. It is understandable for you to do this to try to feel better. The problem is, it does not work: Not for long. You will only suffer more and make it worse. No matter how fast you run, you cannot run from pain. And to pretend it is not there will not make life easier. For you know—even if no one else does—it has not gone away. Emotional hurt and pain: It is a symptom that not all is well with how you think.

No new boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife will change how you feel; they cannot take the pain away. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. It is pain that you feel. Let what you do speak for you, not what has been done to you. To some degree, this has happened to most of us. It is how you think about thoughts; you know, those things you think about, those actions taken against you, and those you have taken against yourself.

Your husband or wife, or not having either, does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. When all has been said, the pain that you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came. You allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor, or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is how you think. It is not you that they see when they look your way. You have hidden the real you under layers of hurt and pain.

You have struggled long to come out. No one knows the real you, for you have not shown your SELF to them. You have been afraid to look at you. When will you let the real you show up? You know there are times when no one is around that you lose it. It hurt so bad not to be yourself. It aches in your heart. There are times when you need to feel that one person, just one, love you for who you are. Your hurt has wounded you. Remember this: I come before you, they, them, we and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do.

If you have memories of hurt and pain from your past, it will change when you change how you think. You have to understand this for what it is, how it influences your thoughts.

Why Let How You Look Cause You Pain

Mirror Mirror On The Wall 1-11-16

Your Achilles Heel

(Everyone has one.)

There is no one who doesn’t have that one thing that causes insecurity about his or her appearance. It has as much to do with what you think others think about you as what you think of yourself. It could be your nose, your hair, breast, or just about anything that has been deemed not to be how it should be. When you think this way, you will never be at ease and comfortable with yourself, the real you. You cannot be happy, no matter the circumstance or your status in life, until you resolve the issue you have with what you think you see when you look at you. Reflections do not always tell the truth.

The images you see in magazines, on TV shows, and throughout the media are not human prototypes. It is mostly an illusion, a fantasy created to sell an image of perfection. The perfect dazzling white teeth, long flowing hair, and a curvy body with all of the accompanying accouterments: the typical look you see as you go about your day, yes, sure thing. And as one would expect, those who bother the most will try to change things about themselves to be all that, even things that cannot or should not be changed. They spend loads of time and money on how they look, how they dress, and right down to how they walk and talk.

Time and money indeed are important, but not as important as your health. And some of the things are putting the people who do them at risk. It is no wonder when you look at how some are criticized and joked about for this one physical feature that is looked upon as a flaw and not the will of nature and how you were born to be. All the while, they are using this ridicule as a defense mechanism to fight off their own insecurities.

The jokes and harsh words can be personal and quite nasty. Those who are adept at it can be creative with their techniques, while others show no mercy. The focus is always on those aspects of your person that are easy to attack. It is just superficial, yes, but it hurts, nonetheless. Making these critical remarks to inflict hurt and pain has become acceptable—it is “everywhere.” In casual conversations, in movies that we see, in magazines, and even in some of the books that we read: There it is. It is no wonder that anxiety, low self-esteem, and insecurity are at an all-time high.

You cannot hide, for long, what is inside about how you think about your outside. So, you think you are different, that no one has your perceived shortcoming, your “defect.” In reality, there is no one who doesn’t have a defect of birth of some type, some cover it up, and others have procedures to change what many times are just typical abnormalities. Nothing that millions of others all over the world don’t have as well. Try telling that to yourself. For if you see you when you listen to these words, it is time to learn from them. It is not easy, at first, to accept that which you have lived with as you would an unwelcome guest, but this you can and must do. There are some things you cannot change; you have to change how you think about them.

We have men, women, girls, boys, and even young children—more so today than ever—who have become entrapped by the marketing of major businesses and a brain-washed society. The very people who should know better are caught up with the rest in the swirl of the marketing monster. We are now looking for the ideal when it is not to be found, for it is always moving and changing. And there is no better way to separate you from your money than creating “false” insecurity and a sense of need. Know what is being sold before you buy. Money will not buy self-esteem. You have to earn it by changing how you see yourself.

If all of the people of the world were in one place, you would see much, and much of what you see would be no different than what you have seen, just “everyday people.” Everyone is beautiful at someplace to someone whereas using the so-called standard of beauty, very few would be. Let me put it this way: There is no perfect person, physically, mentally, or otherwise, and few who meet the marketing criteria for beauty. On one of your typical days out and about, how many “beautiful” people do you see, few if any who have the looks of the gorgeous magazine models and the assortment of celebrities. It is all a make-believe world full of illusion, makeup trickery, and manipulation. It is not reality; it is not what you think you see.

We all have physical differences in height, weight, ears, eyes, and all of the other variations that come with being a living organism, a creation of nature. Even the appearance of the genitals causes much anxiety and personal and social discomfort. And the public buys into it. There are billions spent annually on Labiaplasty, Vaginal Rejuvenation, penis enlargement, and other body modifications by men, women, and even teens.

First thing in the morning, before your feet even touch the floor, you are thinking about one thing that is never far from your mind. You have tried not to think about it, and that is why you do. If you cannot change it, you have to change how you think about it. You wish to hide it from the mirror, but what’s the use, it will still be there when you look. You do not have to be perfect, to be perfect in the things that you do.

Nothing is hard to do; you just do not know how to do it yet.

 

 

In the Beginning—There is Creavolution

Created to Evolve to Create

Creation is the breath of life from which we evolve. Parents are the Creators of life. They prepare, or not, the way for us. An offspring does not evolve into the world. They are born. Then it is for us to be who we are meant to be. We are how we survive.

I have had thoughts about where it all came from—the earth and all that we believe to exist. I am sure many of you have these thoughts as well. A line has been drawn, and sides have been taken on the matter of evolution vs. creation. The beliefs are just as strong for both arguments. On one side, we have those who believe in creation and on the other, are those who believe in evolution. Each is steadfast in their beliefs. Well, I subscribe to both with an emphasis on creation.

The purpose of life is to go forward and procreate. It is what keeps us going. What else we do is up to us. We were created to evolve to create. And Creavolution is how it is done. All things must first be to grow and become. Growth starts when life begins, and Creavolution gives life its shape, from when it begins to when it ends. We are all created through Creavolution by the Creator of all life and all things. It is the engine of life. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved. These two are the forces that are one with all life all the time. It is the new–created by the Creator–and all things that evolved from it.

We evolve when our needs are met. All that we need was here before us, as it is for all living things, for if not, there could be no life. There would be no means to survive. We have to be taught how to meet our needs. That is if we are to survive. Many are not taught well. So, you must do your best to make the best of what you do have. You have to survive until you know better. That is if you can. A place must be reserved and properly prepared for us well before our arrival—from conception. Nurturing and caring beginning in the womb has to be a part of that plan. I will prepare a place for you. The needs of life must be there for life to grow.

We want to know what it all means.

To have evolved when not a thing came first will not answer the question of life. Evolve is what we do once we are here. It is not the answer. The answer is in the act of creation. And it speaks for the Creator. You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. These are the things that I believe.

My life has been my best education and has shaped how I see the world. What I write is inspired by the Creator. It is a natural process, not forced or coerced. It is written as it comes into my mind, and my life experiences and observations of the wonders of nature are the foundation for my insight. I am on a mission, and my life has prepared me to be the messenger. What I write cannot be refuted, disproven, or denied because it is truth.

It is about life. It is about Creavolution, which means we were created to evolve. Creation and evolution say it all; they are the combination that is life. You cannot have one without the other. You must be before you can become.

 

Without Thought There is No Need for a Mind

More to Think About

What could be more critical to your sense of Self and well-being than your thoughts and how you think them. Our thoughts and how we think them are what determine what we do and say. What we want from our lives depends on it.  They are our own and one thing we have that cannot be taken from us.

Thoughts will come and go, but they do not go away. You will not undo a thought. Once you have a thought, you think it, or it lives on in your memory as just a thought. There is not a thing that a thought will reverse to. Though, your perception of which our thoughts are based might change. In turn, this could change what you think. You can have the thought again. But not think about it in the same way or manner. If it connects with things in your life, it will move forward.

You must know the existence of a thing to have a thought about it. When you do know but do not remember, you know no less. A new thought will remind you if there is a need. You will not know how much you know until you know more than you know now. We do not use what we know as we learn it. We use what we learn after it becomes knowledge. Knowledge is when you have a full and complete understanding of what you have learned. That is how and why it is knowledge. Know what you think you know. Know what you do not. Knowledge will do you no harm. How you think about and act upon what you know can. You can be perfect in things that you do. You will not be perfect in how you think.

Life is made up of decisions that you and I must make. There are times when you have to decide on what you do not know. If you do not know what is around the corner, you may choose not to go there.  Our thoughts can lift us up or hold us down. It depends on what we do with them. You have no power greater than to think your thoughts. No one knows but you; they only know how you act. Thinking is fuel for the mind. How great it is to use. By its nature, we tend to spend more time thinking a negative thought, not that we think more negative thoughts. And it is for a good reason—it requires more attention just by its nature.  It can cause you to imagine the worst, and you can dwell on it to no end. If it does leave, it will keep coming back until you think it through.

The most harmful and damaging thought you can think of is when you let what you think others think about you cause discomfort and worry. What others think about you is what bothers you the most. You should not let that cause you a minute of pain. Let no one influence your thoughts to make you feel bad. Lord knows they will try. It is more than likely they would not approach you with this in mind if they did not think they could.

How you act is what will lead others to believe what they do about you. That is if they do not have their reasons to think otherwise. But for those with no agenda, it is how you are thought of when they think of you. How else can they know who you are? When you change how you think and act—if that is what you need to do—you change what is thought of you.

Painful thoughts will cause you to think in a way that does not serve you well.

When you have painful thoughts, there is a cause. Painful thoughts, if you take time to think them, will show in how you act. You can come to depend on it. And then take it a step further and feel that it is normal. Of course, it never is. Yes, it does hurt to think the wrong thoughts. What you think should not be the cause of pain.

When your thoughts are not clear, how you think will be disordered. It will not allow you to be the best that you can at what you say and do. One of the most difficult tasks in life is to understand how and why we think the way we do. You have to know how to think the way that is best for you. Do not let how you think and act be based on thoughts you are not sure of, for how you act will be unpredictable.

If you are not sure of your thoughts and are not certain in your mind, what you think, feel, and act, from there on, you will not have the confidence to make informed decisions in your best interest. Thoughts like this you should not let take up room in your mind. It will cause mixed feelings. Then, yes, you will act in ways that you cannot always foresee or predict. Do not let these kinds of thoughts take hold. It will leave you with a conflicting view of what is real. You must see your thoughts for what they are. For when you do not, it is sure to lead to Self sabotage.

Do not let a disordered mind tell you what to do, yours or anyone else’s. If you do, you will not think in a rational way. When you do not think right, what you do will not be right. All wrong things come with a price. This is so even when you do not know the cost. When how you think is out of control and causing harm, you are the last one to know. We are not soon to realize it. When things are not right, we look at all of the other places, first, for an answer. One thing that is for sure, though, we will not harm ourselves with full knowledge of what we are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow, you must be strong.

I cannot say it enough, how we act is what others use to judge us, and it is the face that we show the world. Our thoughts and feelings are not meant to be seen. They are revealed by the way we act. It is by this that we are known. We relate to others by what they do, not what they feel. What is in our hearts and minds cannot be known. And whether we accept it or not, no one is obligated to understand us.

It is not as hard for you to change how you act as it is not to. You do it all the time. When you start to think better, you will act better. If you do not see you—think—whom do you see. Someone is touched by what we say and do, and we are touched by what others do. How we think is where it all begins. And there is not a time when we do not think. That is not the problem. What we think can be.

When how you think and act is the result of the pain you feel, you must trace your pain to where it leads. That would be your childhood. Your childhood is real, and its effect on you—good or bad— is real. You must look back one last time. First, though, we have to let down our defense, drop our guard, maybe, for the first time. That our view may be clouded by time, and the hurt that we felt does not change a thing. We were a child in an adult world. It does not matter; it is the thoughts of our childhood that hurts. If it is not you, it is someone you know, whether you know it or not.

If the trip is difficult to take, try being me, and I will be you. It will help you understand how the millions who suffer here and around the world may feel. How they act is a way to learn about us. When you change how you think, it can be done. Yes, many have been hurt. Our pain has its roots in and grows from a life being interfered with. We have to go back to this point. It is where our path to the right way of thinking begins.

Is it the way we remember it to be? Some things we can change, others we have to change how we think about them. The past will never be changed. Memories of days since passed should not be our guide. This is for a good reason. What we can recall about the past can change. Then our memories are more false than not. They tell us what was, not what is or what is going to be. You can go to the past when you want, just remember to leave. There is no room there. All the things there have been. The past is filled. It is not meant for us to spend more time there than in the present.

If you suffer, and there is not just one way, you do not know why. If you knew why you would not suffer. The why is you tell yourself that you are not worthy. You think you are not good enough and do not deserve to be yourself and be happy. Do not say that in any form. If you do, know that it is not true. The Self does not want to hear it. When we hurt ourselves, there is a memory that has hurt us. When love is not there, the place where it should be will not be left empty. Hurt will fill its place.

The drive to survive is born with us. It is the first law of nature. Do not do harm to what has been given. This will cause grief and will harm others in your life, as well. Most of the problems in our lives today are caused by how we think. Not how others think. We bring the problems on ourselves. Many times, it is when you think you know the thoughts of others as well as you know your own.

You can look but not see and hear but not listen.

You have to be prepared to learn. You must learn how to listen and listen to learn. You have to listen to what you read. Listen to what is said to you and listen to your Self. When we are born, we do not know how to listen. It is an acquired skill. You first hear, and then you listen. When you listen, you feel the sound of your thoughts. If you want to think about what you read, you have to listen to what you read.

To hear is not to listen. It is not the same. It takes no effort to hear. This is if you want to or not. To hear is one of the senses. It is there by nature and has no on and off switch. The senses let us live and are the means to be in touch with our world. They make life worth living. They are tools of nature. To listen is not a sense it is a skill. If you want to listen, it must be what you want to do.

You must have a deep sense of purpose and a strong drive to learn. Not just, hear what is said or what you read. When you listen, what you hear or read has your attention. Your mind is closed but to this. When you focus on what you hear to where your mind takes over, you are listening. In so many ways, it is much like meditation. What we listen to can be calming when we feel it. You have to want to learn to listen. Until you do, you will just hear.

Our lives are shaped by how well we know how to listen. Just because you can hear does not mean you are going to listen. We hear with our ears, but we listen with our mind. The words begin to sink in. It is then that you are focused. You are there. And will see what we really mean when we say the things that we do. You can look but not see and hear but not listen.

There is a time to listen. There is a time to think. There is a time to talk. Listen, think, and then talk, to know when it is your time is what determines the outcome. These are the things we must know for knowledge to flow. It is the way to have give and take. All will have a chance to express their thoughts. It works best when one talks and one listens. The key is to know when it is your turn. When you listen, you do that, not a thing more. We do this when our mind tells us to. This is how you think what is being said.

You cannot be sure of what you have heard if you have not listened. As a result, what you say may not be what you mean. You can talk and hear at the same time, but you will not be listening. If you try, it would be like trying to think two thoughts at the same time. Neither one can be done. Our mind moves to what we are thinking of. There is no dual track for how we think. And a thought will not divide. Just as you cannot say two words at the same time.

Though our life is always on one track—it does not mean we have to have a one-track mind. The mind is meant to explore the possibilities, to wonder, to create, and to consider what is and what can be. There is no limit to where the mind will go, so there are times when we have to call it back.

When we say what needs to be heard, someone will listen. You should not say a thing until you say it to yourself. No matter what you say, you should make sure to say what you know. There is a lesson in all the things we say and do.

WHO HAS THE POWER & CONTROL

The one who writes the history has the power to tell the story.

Political scientists frequently define power as the ability to influence the behavior of others with or without resistance. We all have it, but it is not the same for any of us. I am often reminded of that when I hear the frustration voiced about what the man or the system is doing to us or not allowing us to do. I pay special attention when it comes from my Black folk. All it takes is for one to understand what power means to know that it is this way for a reason. It is how it was designed to be. We, the people, do not hold the power or the ultimate decision-making authority. We are not the architects of the system we see today.

When you struggle and have what you came to get, you must know that. For no matter what you do, there will be no more. And when you have to ask, it means that someone else has what you want. What should now be obvious is that no one gives up much unless there something in it for them that would more than compensate for such an unnatural move. It is not easy on the mind and a bit hard to accept, but you get what you can get when you are not in a position of power. It is not a sign of weakness; it is just a thing we all must-see for what it is. Power is never willingly given away, no matter how it may seem—it is just an illusion, a sleight of hand.

You do not design a system that does not work in your favor. And when it is felt that it is best to give an inch, it is given only after being neutralized with a countermeasure. A mile has been taken. So, if you are the beneficiary of the inch, use it for all you can. The worth is only in what you do with it. No one knows this better than you. How else can you know how far you can go. You have to use what you have got to know what you need. If you will not, there is another one who will. As is said, use it or lose it.

From the constitution’s framing, groups have felt left out simply because they were. Of course, this was by design. What would you expect? A Document that would place power in the hands of those who did not have it. Blacks were constitutionalized as less than a whole human being and counted as so, and women not being allowed to vote at all. Again, what would you expect. To maintain power and superiority, you must keep control, and this is done best by law and the tools of enforcement. That is until it can be institutionalized and become either a part of mainstream thinking or a counterbalance of competing thought. I say I deserve it, and you say not. The intent is to pit one against the other. An excellent example is the so-called middle class.

 

In reality, the middle-class is the credit class, an invention, a money tool, to generate wealth for those on top and serve as a buffer or protection against those on the bottom rung of the social and economic ladder. It is an artificial class supported by the credit industry. There can be no other logical reason for it to exist. And because there is no foundation in financial reality, it is just a tool to be used when the job calls for it. If the lower class is getting restless, call out the middle class, when more money is needed at the top, you do the same. The so-called middle class has been led to believe that they can live the American dream with hard work and determination.

The message cannot get through that no one should fret over another’s gain, that your lot and theirs are not the same. It may be hard to accept, but when it comes down to it, and the cards are on the table, it is clearly the ones with the power who rule the game. You could say this is not the way it is supposed to be. Though, if you look at nature, it is how we grow. It is not about race, creed, or color nor whether you are male or female or a member of a protected class. No, it is just fundamental that some will lead while others will follow. Some will have, and some will not have much if anything at all. But above all, it is power that is the guiding hand. And working the leverage of this power is the way that it is done. To pit one against the other is accomplished with ease when you control the resources and the means of production.

There was a time in human history where consent had no standing and force was used as a means to an end. To this day, it still exists in some measure in all walks of society. You or I will have the power in our relationship. One of us will have the last word. Someone has to be the one. When more than one thing is in motion, they will not stop at the same time. Of course, with two people, it would be hard to measure the distance between them. On a broader scale, there is chaos and disorder when society’s rules and nature’s laws are not respected. In a scenario such as this, we would all be doing our own thing and going our own way. How could you know what to expect. There would not be much we could depend on, now could we. If you do wrong by nature, you must pay.

Many of the failings today and the past come from a breakdown and a challenge to the natural order. You want it your way, and I want it mine. And the times are few when we want the same. I do it, you do it, and nations do it. One could wonder, if one were so inclined, why is it this way, “why can’t we all just get along.” We will never know why. But we do have to work with what is. Now, this does pose a problem. Racism, sexism, ageism, religious differences, and a host of other things come between us. Now, this is what I do. I look to nature. And there is one thing that is central and at its core; someone has to be in charge.

There have to be leaders, followers, and all that is in between for life to function as it should. As well, we must have owners of the means of production and workers to do the work. It is as it is meant to be. What can and does cause a problem and disorder is when you have followers wanting to be leaders when they are not and leaders who do not know how to lead. When this happens, how we live our lives becomes unbalanced. When the natural order of life is out of balance, chaos is soon to follow. You may say that all humans have an inalienable right to be free to come, go, and do as one is pleased to do. One thing we all should remember, with freedom comes responsibility. The freedom to speak comes with knowing when, or not, to do so. The freedom to choose comes with knowing the choices to make. And to be free to be you, you must know who you are. Everyone wants it, but few know what to do with it when they get it.

Equality is defined as the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities.  Are all things that are viewed as equal, equal? To be equal, what is it, you may ask. Is it more than a feeling? For most, it seems, it is what it is thought to be or not. What are the benchmarks? We think we know it when we see it. For many, it is a state of mind. It is what we see it as being. What it is, is fluid and open to change with a change in status. There is no agreed way to measure it. With that being so, equal many times is no more than what we feel it to be. It is a thought by those who think they need it. I do not believe, as defined, that there is a thing in life that we can say, without a doubt, is equal to another. When looked at through the lens of equality, it is clear equality is not equal. It is a goal that is out of reach because it does not exist beyond conception. Life was not created, evolved, or designed to be that way. We cannot get it, and we cannot give it. It is a power we do not have. Even when we mean well, it will not happen. Each thing is different from the other thing. No matter what they may have in common. No two are the same. And no two outcomes will be the same. All things are created one at a time—each of its own.

What determines what comes our way is most times by our design. Not always, but what we do with it is, no matter the circumstance.

Mental and Emotional Pain

WHEN IT HURT TO THINK

Do not cover up your pain with the things that you say and do. It is understandable for you to do this to try to feel better. It does not work. You will only suffer more and make it worse. No matter how fast you run, you cannot run from pain. And to pretend it is not there will not make life easier. For you know—even if no one else does—it has not gone away. Emotional hurt and pain: It is a symptom that not all is well with how you think.

No new boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife will change how you feel; they cannot take the pain away. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. It is pain that you feel. Let what you do speak for you, not what has been done to you. To some degree, this has happened to most of us. It is how you think about thoughts; you know, those things you think about, those actions taken against you, and those you have taken against yourself.

Your husband or wife, or not having either, does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. When all has been said, the pain that you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came. You allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor, or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is how you think. It is not you that they see when they look your way. You have hidden the real you under layers of hurt and pain.

You have struggled long to come out. No one knows the real you, for you have not shown your SELF to them. You have been afraid to look at you. When will you let the real you show up? You know there are times when no one is around that you lose it. It hurt so bad not to be yourself. It aches in your heart. There are times when you need to feel that one person, just one, love you for who you are. Your hurt has wounded you. Remember this: I come before you, they, them, we and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do.

If you have memories of hurt and pain from your past, it will change when you change how you think. You have to understand this for what it is, how it influences your thoughts.

 

THE MISSION FROM ME THE JOURNEY FOR YOU

“To tell a person what to think will not teach them how to think. We are how we think.”

 

Here is where you should be if you are someone you know has ever lived with the hurt and pain that only a dysfunctional childhood and emotional trauma can breed. The seed is planted and grows from a family life— no matter its makeup—that does not provide the nurturing, caring, and protection to produce a healthy mind. Childhood must be a safe and loving place for a child to grow strong of mind and character.

You may ask, as many do, why you feel the way that you do. When not all is right, and you think it should be, and you see no reason it should not, disordered thinking is the cause of your anguish. When how you think is disordered, it takes you further away from your true Self. The mind now has a mind of its own. It is making decisions without you. There is no time or place that this should be. You are the master of your mind and must always be in charge of you.

There is but one stage of your life where your mind will take leave of you. It all stems from early childhood trauma, and a dysfunctional family life, which allows you few good thoughts to think. And how you think today has its roots in what happened to you “yesterday.” I will show you why and how this might happen. And there will be times when I will do this in a not-so-conventional way. It does not mean that I have strayed; it merely says that the road back to Self will at times be without a marker.

Some of what I say could cause you—when you first read it—to question how it applies to how you think. And my answer will be, all things you do require you to think. My words will challenge some of the things you have come to believe as certain truths. It will take you up, around, and back again, but the steps will lead back to you. Where the road leads, we will follow. You must know how you think to think better. You must always know what is on your mind. There is no wrong to be said here, for, after all, it will be how you think and feel about what you see. Who are you? Do you really know? Are you, you, or are you the product of someone else’s invention?

Through this blog, I will address many of the issues that revolve around why we all think the way we do. We will see how changing how you think will change how you feel and relate to the people, places, and things in your life. And you will come to see how becoming the true person you are meant to be will give you the vision to see what is, not what you may have thought it to be. You will come to a better understanding of your thoughts and your thinking process just as I have come to know the real me. I am talking about the person who I was created to be. Because for sure, you have to be you, and I have to be me. When you try to be someone you are not, you are no one until you find yourself again. Life is made better, or worse, by how we think.

What is done here will not only better the lives of those who follow “It Is How You Think,” it will also touch those who are touched by those who do. My goal is to give you the tools to help you change how you think, therefore, how you feel and act. It is a new day and a new way. If you, a family member, or friend has been touched in any way by childhood trauma or otherwise mishandled by others in your life, this is the place to be.

What is here—if you listen—will take you where you did not know that you had ever been. It will help you see where you thought you were, is not where you were at all. It is about change: a change in how you think. There are no words here formed that will tell you what to think. Before help can help you, you have to help your Self. There is no therapy, counseling, or medication that will be effective until you do. When I say you, I am talking about the Self, your Self, her Self, and him Self. All of the “Selves who need to find their way back.”

The Self is your core; it is your soul—it is the essence of you. It is where you go to be your Self. A place you would never leave willingly. Our power and strength come from our Self. It is how we survive through the worst of times. If the ways of life have forced you away, it is your choice to go back. First, though, you must have the will to do so. It is not an easy thing to do until you know how. And nothing is hard to do. You just do not know how to do it yet. Now you will know.

From Self to Self is when you have achieved an enlightened way of thinking if that is your destiny. It is not what is done to you. It is what you do for yourself that determines what your life will be. You have to change your way of thinking to get in touch with you. The best that you can ever be is to be you. You must always be true to Self. Never do a thing to take away from who you are.

What we do here will clear the clutter from your mind. It will guide you through what it takes to live a better life by examining and understanding your thoughts and how to think them. It will be made clear how disordered thinking is the root cause of negative feelings and behavior. You will see your Self as it is, not how you may have thought it to be. You will relate to and recognize a part of yourself that you have only known in passing.

What you will hear if you listen will open up a way of thinking that will allow you to become the person you were meant to be. The real you. Welcome home.

 

The body and the mind both have the ability to heal themselves, but the body put up the least resistance.

 

 

THE ONLY TIME THAT YOU HAVE

The Last Thing That You Do Will Be the First Thing They Will Remember ©

No matter what time it is, time does not change. What happens in the space of time does. Time is not changing; we are. It is personal. It starts for each of us when our parents create us, and it is not shared. You cannot lend, nor can you borrow time. And your time is the only time you will have.

More time will not be given when you have no more time. Time, though, is not as important as what you do with your time. When you think of the time that you have, the first thing you should think of is what you will do with your time. What is just as important is how you feel as you go about doing it. To get the most from the time you have been given, you must understand what it is and how to use it wisely. The longer it takes to know what to do, the less time you have to do it. Because for sure, you will not get your time back. Our life moves on, even if our mind does not. You can think about the past. You can never be there.

A system of time for each person starts from conception. There is a time to be born, a time to live, and a time to move on to another existence. We do not control time. We do have control over how we live our life. Time does not change; things happen. And no matter how well we live our time, there will be a time when there is no more.

You may ask much of time, but time does not give. The question asked most often is for more time. Time will not answer. It gives not to what you have to say. It stands still, though we do not. We cannot stop it, slow it down or speed it up. Nor can we waste it, but you can misspend it. The thing that you can do with time is to live it. When there is no more time, there is no more to live. You do not start it over. Time goes on; our time does not. You should live your time. You cannot get it back once it is gone. Time for all things was here before us and shall be when we are gone. You cannot take a person, place, or thing with you when you go.

You are the master of the time you have for the time you have it. You have been given a lifetime. We decide what to do with our lives, which tells the type of life we will have and the path we will follow to the end. As straightforward as this may be, many do not understand this simple truth. They still try—but can never succeed—to live their lives by what they think others think of them. And for many, to their detriment, what they think of themselves. The only thing that you do when you do this is to live your time away. Live it. Your time is the only time you have.

We never know how much time we have left to use the time we have. Time should always be put to its best use. The next step you take, is one more step closer to home. We can never breathe the next breath. The time of man is not precise. When a thing will be, can never be known just as it can never be known when it will not. All that we can do is plan. The future is not ours to know. It can be over just when we think we do.

THE BIRTH OF HATE: WHY?

The Birth of Hate

In the Heart of Woman the Seed Did Grow

Prologue:

Be warned; you read The Birth of Hate at the risk of having shifting emotions, rising passions, and unrestrained thoughts. It does not promote neither does it condemn an ideology, religion, or cultural belief. It is about what is, was, or could have been. You will love it, hate it, or not. What you will not do is nothing.

What is hate? Why do we do it, and when did it start. There are many answers to this question, with no one definition settled on by past and present-day thinkers. Though keep in mind that hate is brought on most often by the action of others. There is a cause, and it does bring about an effect. We are not born with hate in our hearts; it does come to life in our minds. It is an emotion that lives on as long as we are reminded that it is there: a flame once lit that is not easy to snuff out. And the source of our hate and resentment is what gives it strength. The strength to smolder long after the flame has died down. It is so strong it often clouds our judgment and causes us to think thoughts we rather not. 

Here is what some of the great minds have to say about hate.
  • Sigmund Freud defined hate as “an ego state that wishes to destroy the source of its unhappiness.”
  • Based on writings by James W. Underhill, loving and hating invariably involve an object, or a person, and therefore, a relationship with something or someone.
  • Penguin Dictionary of Psychology defines hate as a “deep, enduring, intense emotion expressing animosity, anger, and hostility towards a person, group, or object.”
  • René Descartes viewed hate as “an awareness that something is bad combined with an urge to withdraw from it.”

There are many more who have their take on what it is when we hate. One thing for sure, it is a strong feeling. For me, that has no redeeming value; though, some feel that it does. I believe what my life has told me, and so should you. If what we want is to understand what hate is, we must first know why we do it and when did we start. So, with that, why don’t we just start at the beginning. What do you believe? Were we created, or did we evolve—either way, all that is or has been having a first of its kind.

Created by God or just evolved, Man by nature has been given the role to rule over the woman.

 Did this statement cause your pulse to quicken and your heart to race? I ask you this because I think it may have. It is no wonder, though, no matter our point of view or that of the bible, it is not shared by all. On its face, the Book of Genesis reads in a way that could cause you to come away with the belief that God was the first to hate or to be hated.  The thing is, it did come from somewhere. And just where is that place. An assortment of philosophers, pontificators, and other “deep-thinkers” have their theories and thoughts of what hate is. I will leave that to them. What is more important to me is how is it that hate came to be at all. How and why it started. Follow along with me as I lay out my thoughts.

Genesis is the book of the beginning, of the creation of life and all that is. The bible tells us this. Two verses certainly could be the seeds of hate. Adam and Eve ate from the tree of knowledge of which God had warned them not to do. For this transgression, he placed on them, for lack of a better word, a curse. God’s curse on “our first humans” could be construed as the first instance of hate. And the curse that he placed on Eve is exceptionally harsh: “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow, thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” Not only has the wrath come down on Man and Woman, but the woman shall also have the added burden of Man ruling over her. The curse on Eve would appear to be laced with a bit of venom. That is at the core, to this day, of the man/woman relationship. In the real world, God’s design for women plays a significant role in what we think of each other. And if we tell the truth most of the time, what we think is not particularly good.

If you choose to take the bible as the word of God or not, there is no denying that the treatment of Man and woman are not equal, nor is it meant to be. It is the way life is. And with no doubt is a cause of resentment and hate. No person with a sense of self wants to be ruled over. Any right-thinking person would see this curse or will of God, as how many, both man and woman, would, with justification, feel it. And find it hard to deny that it would not be an easy thing to live with or be reminded of through life’s journey. It is not a stretch to think that Eve would have hate in her heart for not only Man but also God for bringing on her such a horrible fate. To have Adam as her master, the only man there is, could not have been an easy thought to think.

It is not easy to dodge what is plain to see. Not just in eons past, but what we see today. Perhaps that is why there is such a high divorce rate and couples finding it hard to stay together. You read and hear it all the time that a marriage takes work. I say work is what we do to get what we want and need; we should not have to work hard to keep it. How would you find time and space to appreciate the life that you have with so much work?  It is undoubtedly one of those things that should cause you to think. But if this is true—as it appears that it is— the hate we see today is firmly rooted in the past. There has been fertile ground from the beginning. God’s words would be reason enough for Eve to be the birth mother of hate and female resentment. We see it all around us. It festers and comes to a head much too often.

Let us call it for what it is; both Adam and Eve were set up to fail. And fail they did. You want proof. Just one killing of another person is enough. Not to say that they ever took a life—the bible does not say they did. But their progeny did, and we have killed since forth. We do it as a way to get what we want or destroy what we do not. It is where some go first to settle a dispute. The bible is replete with wars and conflicts that almost always end in death. Nations were and are to this day exhorted to fight each other. These atrocities are not the fault of the woman. This came after her, not because of her. Though, Eve is where the seed of hate was planted by life itself. Of course, I say what I do only if the bible’s story is true. True or not, nature is. And if we looked at it from that point of view, the make up of man and woman would not change. The way that we live our lives would be the same.

It does go deep whether it comes from the “theory” of evolution or by the will of God. Now, let us look further. No matter if we do or not, one thing we know for sure, hate began and grew with us. And another thing we know is that a woman can hate men even though she loves her “own Man.” And a man has this way of thinking as well. If you believe it is just a yarn, it very well maybe. Yet and still, it would be one tall tale that has been true to life. Many do believe, and they believe strongly that the word is the power. The power that man has over the woman is at the root of human relationships, and all that grows from it. It has been this way as far back as our minds can take us. But is this the way it has to be? What is done, of course, will not be changed. What can be done now can be that change. What is next will follow.

God commanded that man would “rule over woman.” This is taught by religious doctrine, words of the bible, and other sacred books. Those words pack a great deal of power in thought and deed. It is there where we should first look to understand the human condition. We can deny it, pretend it is not there, and hope it will go away. But these three words—rule over the woman—are the foundation of how much of life is lived today. For those who believe in creation, these words are inherently true. Even when viewed through the lens of science, the relationship does not change much, if at all. By nature, it is still at the core and is the base of the survival of the species. Both man and woman must agree, or one will dominate. The dominant one would have been the Man, for the woman could refuse to mate, at which time reproduction would cease.

Creation or evolution, either way, no matter your view, is not hard to understand why women would be the first to show signs of hate. How could she not when God is sounding increasingly like a man and is promising her pain. And Man is giving it to her. No matter how it may have been, Man and Woman had to come together for the good of the whole. It could be no us without them. The human race could not survive without it. When it is all said and done, we look at what the male and female mean for life. I do not think that hate was intended: not by us. It is just a feeling brought on by a thought and the actions of others. However, it does go deep and is hard to suppress. For a good reason, we now know.

There was a time in our history when consent had no standing, and force was used when all else failed. There were no laws to protect the life and liberty of women. The man did with her as he pleased. The only rights woman had was the one to do as she was told. And if she refused, there would be a price to pay. All the things that man provided would be withheld until she gave in. If not, he would beat her into submission or worse. Depictions of how the Man/Woman relationship may have been in prehistoric times show that brute force was the first choice to gain compliance rather than the last. The male would just take what he wanted. To this day, it still exists in some measure in most societies of the world; though, we are not quick to own up to it.

Here is another thing that we will not admit to. You or I, male or female, will have the controlling power in our relationship. One of us will have the last word. Someone has to be the one. When more than one thing is set in motion, either at the same or different times, hardly if ever will they stop at the same time. Of course, it would be hard for two people to measure unless one knew that he or she should not be the one to have the last say. Now, this would have been the woman for sure. And let us be honest here, it is much that way today when one listens while the other talks. It is a conversation. If it is all listening and no chance to talk, you are engaging with a dictator. It would more or less be you being told what to think or not.

Love and hate, far apart yet so close. At first, there may or may not have been love, but for sure, there were those times when man and woman were close, if just in the physical sense. I don’t know about the warm and fuzzy feelings. But indeed, they did, mate. We are proof of that. And it would be reasonable to believe the signs of love were there early on. But being forced to mate against your will even once could turn any good feelings into hate. To feel you have no power to resist can cause resentment and the seeds of hatred to grow. Love is a gift—hate is pain. One you give and accept freely, the other you handle as best you can. It does not matter if you are on the giving or receiving end of things. Love and hate were born in the heart and mind of the woman. And there is just a thin line between the two.

Love or hate, created, or evolved, we likely would not be here today if the woman had an intense hatred for Man. That is unless there was a need only the Man could provide, and there was. Protection and food were what the Man had in his favor. It is not likely that his sexual prowess or charming ways won over the woman. However, it all came about, and we know it did. There were a man and woman of some kind to birth and bring forth the human race. It would not have been easy for them to mate or her to conceive if the woman did not want the man near her. It is clear, though, that he protected her and made sure that her basic needs were met. Now, this could have been just for obvious reasons. That is, for her to be healthy and strong enough to bear children. Of course, it is possible, and some would say likely, that sex alone was a good enough reason. It was certainly made to feel good and pleasurable for a purpose, as we know not all things do. As there are things that we do that feel bad, that is for a purpose, as well.

There was not as much to be concerned about other than survival during the early days. Politics and the agendas we see today were not even a thought back then. In the beginning, sex, more likely than not, was the sole reason for wanting to mate. But if the woman did not want the man, a man, any man near her, I could see this as the harbinger of force to copulate. It would be reasonable to think that it was not this way at first. Having sex, by nature, is meant to give pleasure to assure that the man and woman would have the desire to do it again. It is the timing of the act that would have/could have been an issue. Much as it is to this day. The drive of the Man and woman was not meant to be the same, for a reason. Just a bit of tinkering with our thoughts will tell us why.

Another thing that could have caused the woman to hate is taking on more than one mate by man; though, it would not be a stretch to say that the woman would do the same in the man’s absence. Here is where nature, God, as I believe it to be, or however we came to be, comes in to play again. The act of conception is much shorter than pregnancy, so the man would impregnate more than one woman at a time by nature. It was a matter of survival. Some needs must be met to grow and prosper, and the offspring carried forth the seeds of life. The mating of the Man and woman is the way that it was done. No matter how it all came about or whatever the scenario, we still cannot get away from the fact that it takes a male and a female to produce offspring. Though, the burden is on the woman. Her body has to prepare itself each month for conception. Then she must carry the baby for nine months. A mother’s instinct overpowered by a wish to survive could have caused her to think it was a thing she would rather do without, for it is reasonable to postulate that pregnancies came in succession, for there was no modern-day birth control. So, the woman’s options were few. The maternal death rate must have been high. Most certainly could have added to the hate that the woman had for Man with all of the pain that ensues.

We know that many mothers do not survive the nine months of pregnancy. And that just as many died during childbirth. It would not have taken long for the woman to make the connection between the Man chasing her down, mating, and death. You do not have to be a deep thinker to know that this would add to the mothers’ consternation. Their detestation for the one who put them there would not be helped either, I am sure. Mating, carrying of the baby, and childbirth are how we are brought to life. Whether by God or evolution, this is the process by which we become breathing and thinking human beings.

Nature was “designed” in a way to further the growth and development of the species. There had to be a relationship between the Man and woman that would allow this to happen. Even if there was some force or coercion, which, of course, the man would be the one to do this, he had the greater strength. He was born with it. It was given to him to protect against the threat to life, which means all dangers, including the creation and nurturing of life by man and woman. We do not know how it came first, but it was now on them to mate and nurture the offspring. The proliferation of the species is by design and was necessary for the birth and evolution of human life. The man had the power. So, force was used when force was required. There were no laws for man; nature ruled. Hate either started here at the very beginning or a little further down the line. It would seem that it was inevitable. It was built in, or mistakes were made.

The Man had to prepared to copulate, therefore, would have to do so when aroused. It would be at any time or place. The woman, on the other hand, may or may not have been receptive to the act. It is not hard to imagine that this could cause some bitter feelings. And when taken with all else could have given the woman a reason to hate. I am not so sure. What I do know is that it takes a man and a woman to create another human. If you believe we were created or evolved, it will not change a thing. It will all remain the same. The man and woman sex organs were designed for coupling to allow for giving and receiving. The penis and vagina were not an afterthought and not by chance. Or is that not the way it is meant to be. Even so, hate does not stop where it began. It spreads like a virus or a deadly disease.

A passage from the Book of Genesis reads, “And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD. And she again bare his brother Abel. And Abel was a keeper of sheep, but Cain was a tiller of the ground.” Now here I am thinking that both Cain and Abel’s jobs were the kind of occupations that would be looked upon as a good thing contributing to others’ health and well-being. Now in the next reading, we will see that is not so for poor Cain, “but unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.” Now that he is angered and full of hate, he kills his brother Able. He has learned hate. Or did he feel it? From here, the bible is replete with wars, killings, and rapes. This story is from the bible, so either you believe it or you do not. For sure, hate was born from us, and all of these things have come to pass. Now let us look at it from an evolution point of view.

The biological process of evolution and the beginning of life on earth, for many, is no more or less believable than the Book of Genesis. Even the most noted scientist would find it complicated to understand.  A line has been drawn, and sides have been taken. It is the main event of all things challenged. Were we created, or did we evolve. The beliefs are just as strong for both sides. Each is steadfast in their views. Well, why not both. I call it Creavolution. Creation because at some point we did not exist, it is how we came to be. It matters not if you believe in God or religion. It is so. Evolution gives shape to our lives, and it is how we grow. These two are the forces that are one with all life all the time. It is the new, which was created, and all things that evolved from it. Look at it this way; we have to use what we know to understand what we do not. At one time, you and I were not here. Now we are. The sperm and egg of our parents created us.

We were created to evolve to create, and we evolve when our needs are met. All that we need was here before us. But we do have to be taught. Where there is a need, there is a way. If there is no way, there is no need. It is called nature. It is called life. For life to exist, there must be the means for survival if we are to survive. Live is what whoever or whatever created the first of us wanted us to do. That is why hate was not strong enough to destroy life. Though, many lives have been destroyed.

Life, as we understand it, is to create more life. That is to be fruitful and multiply. It is what keeps all living things alive. What else we do is up to us and is just a by-product, not the main event. All things must first be to grow and become. Growth starts when life begins. And when life began soon after came hate. The seeds were planted in fertile soil. And the harvest thereof we will reap. The symptoms remain the same when the cause does not change. Hate lives on for as long as we are reminded of its presence.

In the beginning, Man was given no reason to hate. He was in charge. He had it going on. The burden to hate was placed on the woman, for she received just what Man would offer. If we changed the names, it would still be the same. Man and woman are now how we are known. We have a name, which is our label. We must use the labels that we know by shapes and words to make sense of our world. As we grow and change, our labels will change. We will not have a thought of what a thing is if it does not have a label. Nor will we know its purpose. No one would know who we are, and we would not know them. You and I would not even know who or what we are. There are things a society must have in place for us to thrive and grow. Labels are one of these things.  Life would not be the same without them.

There are groups, some well-known, and others not so much, that represent the interest of women. It is a good thing, but some of the things they say, I wonder. One aspect goes to the heart of our existence. That is that they are not a part of Man when we are a part of each other. They refuse to carry the woman label and say that they will not stay in “their place.” They refer to themselves as “womayn.” They do not want to be part of Man, and their thinking is somewhat understandable. Though yet and still, we are from the same beginning and alike in so many ways. And the difference does not amount to much.

If you take away our reproductive organs and make further adjustments to our anatomy, you will not have males or females. You will have a person. But that is not the way it was meant to be. Still, we have some who say they have no place and do not put a label on them. We are here. Thus, we do have a place and a label. Yes, if we accept it or not, it is so. In many ways, just being a person with a name, which is a label, tells who we are and where we stand. Some things we can change, others—of course—we cannot.

We all have a place starting in our mother’s womb. It comes with a label that tells who we are. And our place is in the order of our birth, as well. That order does not change. There are labels that we have that will change as our roles in life change. When we feel that we do not have a place, we will get less from the place we are in now. What we do know is that Man was gifted, or damned— depends on your perspective— with the physical power to rule. To change the label from woman to womayn now will not change what is; the label cannot come before what is to be labeled. In other words, it must first be before it is. And the woman is as is the man. What can change is the woman’s place, for we all have a place to belong. If I am Man and you hate me, I should not have to wonder why it is in the details of our existence.

We were born to belong, not to be alone. To do so, we have to fit in someplace. We must stand up before we can stand out. We do this with the help of those who support who we are and what we do in a place where you can be the person you are. That can be in doubt if you are a woman. When restrained by nature’s rules and Man’s dictates, the mind can traverse that thin line between love and hate. She may have—I cannot say for sure—felt put upon by the cruel hand of fate. That creavolution—how I believe we came about—dealt her a card less than she needed to play. You could wonder why, but there is no need. In the beginning, life was basic. The drive to reproduce was born in man. It is the one thing that would assure the survival of the species. We came into existence with no room for error. Equality of the sexes could not be thought of then. Life would not allow for it, then. The mind could not go there, for there was no basis in the present reality. So, this is one time in our history when yes, we, both man and woman, did have to stay in our place.

Mating was helped by instinct and the sense of smell. Man and woman likely did not look that different from each other, so it would not have been good looks. And unlike today, sexual intercourse was not face-to-face. It is likely little if any show of affection took place. Romance was a thing for the future. It would be interesting to know just why humans thought this would be the thing to do. There is no other animal that does this. Is there anything to take from this? Man and woman were covered with hair—for a good reason—with just four things of note setting them apart. Those things that made the difference, of course, were the sex organs and the female breast. It had to be this way for survival and feeding the young.

Whether we believe we were created or evolved, we could not be the same. We had to be different to be at all. Man and woman were built to accommodate each other for mating, if not a thing else. And Man was given a choice by way of strength to choose. It would not be a stretch to think that the woman would not be eager to accept this type of arrangement. For better or worse, some would say not much has changed. That may be, but survival is our most vital drive, and sex is how we do it.

“And Cain went out from the presence of the LORD, and dwelt in the land of Nod, on the east of Eden. And Cain knew his wife; and she conceived, and bare Enoch: and he builded a city, and called the name of the city, after the name of his son, Enoch. And unto Enoch was born Irad: and Irad begat Mehu’ja-el: and Mehu’ja-el begat Methu’sa-el: and Methu’sa-el begat Lamech. Lamech took unto him two wives: the name of the one was Adah, and the name of the other Zillah. And Lamech took unto him two wives.” Now this here was just another reason for the woman to hate.

Love or hate, the Man and woman have a bond. We are the only one of our kind. There can be no one without the two. Did you notice that Man was written with a capital M when there was no need to do so? It may seem—to some—that male chauvinism was at work. No, it was done on purpose and for a reason. What were your emotions? Did you feel hate or anger and want to strike back. If so, you are likely a woman. And for Man, you should not have to wonder why.

Epilogue:

What do you think? Take a moment to gather your thoughts. You just witnessed The Birth of Hate. You can say with assurance that you are among the first to do so. You have seen what no one has had the privilege to see, for it has not been said before. Though, in the most real sense, hate is not new-born, how we see its birth is. It was not meant to be an indictment, and it is not. It was just a walk back in time—an extrapolation of a given using logic as a guide.

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