To Hear but not listen

This image is to show what it looks like when you listen, or not.
Listen to Learn-Learn to Listen

You must be ready and willing to learn. You have to listen to learn and learn to listen. You have to listen to what you hear, listen to what you read, listen to what is said to you, and listen to your Self. When we are born, we do not know how to listen. It is an acquired skill. You first hear, and when, and only when you are ready and willing, you listen. When you listen, you can feel the sound of your thoughts. If you want to “think what you read,” you must listen to what you read.

Want To Or Not You Will Hear

To hear is not to listen. It is not the same. It takes no effort to hear if you want to or not. To hear is one of the senses. It is there by nature and has no on and off switch. The senses let us live and are the means to be in touch with our world. They make life worth living. They are tools of nature. To listen is not a sense it is a skill. You must want to listen to listen. Otherwise, you will not learn.

You must have a deep sense of purpose and a strong drive to learn. Not just hear what is said or giving a cursory glance at the words that you read. When you listen, what you were only hearing now has your attention. Your mind is closed to all else. When we focus on what we hear to where our mind takes over, we are listening. In so many ways, it is much like meditation. What we listen to can be calming when we feel it. You have to want to learn to listen. Until you do, you will only hear. Are you listening now?

Our lives are shaped by how well we know how to listen. Just because you can hear does not mean you are going to listen. We hear with our ears, but we listen with our mind. The words begin to sink in. It is then that you are focused. You are there. To see what we mean when we say the things that we do.

You Can Look But Not See and Hear But Not Listen

There is a time to listen. There is a time to think. There is a time to talk. Listen, think, and then speak. Knowing when it is the best time for each is what determines the outcome. These are the things you must know to have a conversation and dialog. The best format to have a bit of give and take. This way, all will have a chance to express their thoughts. No one will feel left out. It works best when one talks and the other listens. The key is to know when it is your turn. When you listen, you do that, not a thing more. No such thing as divided listening. You will listen when your mind tells you that you are ready–now is the time.

You cannot be sure of what you have heard if you have not listened. As a result, when it is your turn what you say likely will not have the desired results. In fact, it could be a life-changer. In a not so pleasant way. You can talk and hear at the same time, but you will not be listening. If you try, it would be like trying to think two thoughts at the same time. You can do neither one. Our mind moves to what we are thinking. There is no dual track for how we think. And a thought will not divide. It is just as you cannot say two words at the same time.

You Only Go Off Track At The End Of The Line

Life Is The one Track We Live

Say what needs to be heard. Someone will listen. First, though, you should not say a word until you say it to yourself. No matter what you say, you should make sure to say what you know. There is a lesson in all we say and do.

Peace

Thinking a thought

The purpose is to illustrate a person in thought.
Thinking Her Thoughts

Thought and thinking are not always the same. A thought is just a thought until you think. You cannot think of anything until you have a thought about it. And our thoughts are based on our awareness of the people, places, and things in our environment. A thought just is until it is not. Think of a thought as being inert, not doing a thing from when you have it until you think of what you want to do with it. The time between the two is so quick there is no way to measure. We are yet to know when someone has a thought or what they are thinking. And there is a good reason for that.

Thought is not only what we had. It is also what we have. You thought, and you have a thought. It is what we have thought and what we have to think. You cannot force a thought. To try to do so is called thinking. Once you have a thought, either you think it, or it moves to your memory. You cannot undo it or give it back. It is the same as it is with life. We cannot change the life we have lived; it is what it is, forever. Think about this. What exists to us is all we know. And we decide what we are going to do with it.

Should I or Should I Not

The purpose is to reflect the female subject of the text.
On City Street

Say you (White Girl/Woman) are walking down a city sidewalk, and you see that you and I (Black Male) are approaching each other and within seconds will be at each other’s side. You will have a thought based on your perception of me. This is the first thing that will happen. You will then think about us. If you are at ease with what you think, you will continue on your way, most likely unbothered. If you do not feel safe for some reason—that can only be known by you—you will go in another direction or proceed with caution: tension building each step of the way. Or you may not have strong feelings either way. No matter how you feel, your feelings will be based on what you think. And you will act according to how you feel. We perceive, have a thought based on our perception, we think that thought, feel what we are thinking, and then we act. That is the course of an action/thinking process.

How to Think

We are taught and therefore learn how to think and must decide what to think. You should not think in a way that tells you things you do not need to hear. Your thoughts belong to you. No one can think for you, though many will try. We are born with the capacity to think and must learn how to think to live. For how you think is how you survive. You must decide the thoughts you choose to think. No one can do this for you. When you are taught from the start by someone who cares about your happiness and well-being, you will be equipped to do so. Thinking is what feeds the mind and tells it what to do. So, you see, there is no more crucial phase of our mental and emotional development than when we are learning how to think.

You should not act on what you think someone is going to say. That is, to the extent that you have your say before they do. It is a fault of many. It is not seen as a problem by those who do it, but it is.  It is rarely well-received.  Usually, a person does this because they are on guard. At its core is insecurity. It is the unconscious coming through to say, I know. It is tied in with self-esteem or, better put, low self-esteem. Wait until you know all that you should. What you think may not be what you think it is. That is because what you perceive and think you know may not be what is true. Perception can be reality or not. What it is to you, or how someone else perceives it, is not always what it is.

Thinking is a process, there is a start, and there is a finish each time we think a thought. Once you start, you cannot stop until you are done. Whether by choice, chance, or by force, the environment you are in will be the source for the thoughts that enter your mind. With few exceptions, who and what we are around. It is then up to us what we do with our thoughts. You should not let thoughts that are not wanted stay where they do not belong. These kinds of thoughts you should refuse to have anything to do with. Let them go to your memory and let them stay there. Do not think them. They are of no value; no good can come from it.

You rule over your mind. That is, you should. Never let it tell you what to do. You and your mind should be partners, best friends, and together decide what to do with your thoughts. Yes, you do want the relationship with your mind uppermost, but if for whatever reason your mind decides to strike out on its own, it is time to be real and let your mind know that you are the boss. Do not let your mind, or anyone cause you to act in a way other than what is in your best interest: Never.

How you act is the most that anyone can know about who you are and how you think. It is by how we act that others judge us. There are things that others do that we prefer they did not. You do not control this. You are in charge of how you act. That is the only effect you can have on what others do.

The Sower of Bad Seeds

YOU CAN REAP WHAT OTHERS SOW

Yes, you can reap the harvest that comes if you allow yourself to be a fertile vessel for bad seeds to be planted by those who wish to see you suffering and confused. You will have thoughts that you rather not have. You cannot force them from your head. You can pretend they are not there. They will remind you that they are. Do not let bad thoughts take root. And above all stay far away from the sower of bad seeds. These bad thoughts often surface when you are where you should not be in the presence of someone you should not have in your environment. You know this, now don’t you.

Before you act, you should be sure of what you think. What you do next depends on it. When you have good thoughts, it is more likely that good things will happen. To think good thoughts is good. It changes how you feel and is the mainstay of a content mind.

When we think that good thoughts are bad or bad thoughts are good, it is not a good way to think. It is a sign of disordered thinking. Most certainly caused when you have allowed yourself to be confused by the life you are living. There is someone there who should not be. It could be you. The mind is doing it, and you are letting it happen. It is best to remember that good comes from good and bad comes from bad. There is no other way. Bad can follow good things. Good can follow bad. But neither thing can come from the other. There is a point where one stops and the other starts. We will not change what has happened, no matter what you do. It has made its mark. It matters not if it is good or bad. Next done will be the new what is. What has happened is done.

You should not talk or think of the bad when things are good. Have you heard someone say on a nice sunny day, or have you said, but it is supposed to be cloudy tomorrow. How can you ever enjoy what is there when you cannot leave good enough alone. But when you feel bad about yourself, whether we acknowledge it or not, we will not let the good take root. It may not sound like much. It does show a certain frame of mind.

You should always try to think of the good when things are bad. It is cloudy today, but the sun may be out tomorrow. It is the right thing to do because you feel what you think. Thinking should lift the soul and stir the mind. How we think our thoughts form the foundation on which we build our lives. There is not a thing to think but a thought.

Your Thoughts Are Yours to Think

“I had a thought, but I don’t remember what it was.” Have you said this to yourself? The reason is it was not a complete thought. When this happens, it was not a thought that held the mind’s attention. (I did not think it was important then, maybe later.) I believe that there are two kinds of thought. Have you been asked by someone what you think about a thought that they have? As in, I had a thought about us going shopping today. What do you think about that? There is a flow to this.

Their thought is the first thought. You can answer, but you should not until you know what the person with the thought thinks. You could ask, what do you have in mind, what do you think? Your thought, then, is pending. A pending thought is still just a thought. As a reminder, there is no greater aspect or mental process of our lives that we have the sole responsibility for than how we think. We cannot talk about it enough; it determines how we live and what is done with us when we do not. It also determines whether we win or lose, go or stay or just be in the way.

Now back to the question, what do you do with your pending thought. You do not know what you think yet. What you think will have to wait for the person who asked you what you think about their thought. It is the person with the first thought. When asked what you think about a thing, if you do not have a thought that gives you a reason to think, you will think nothing to contribute. Therefore, there is nothing you can tell them. On one level, they may want your help to make up their mind. They must think first. Otherwise, they are asking you to think for them—you cannot. And you should not try, for you will be left to blame if it goes wrong and will likely not be given credit if things turn out right.

To try to think for someone is not good thinking. It is trying to do the “un” thinkable. Anyone can let someone decide for them. But, of course, it will not be their decision. To think is a process, and each time you do, it is new. And when you stop thinking about this, you will begin to think about that. Thinking has no power until you act. How you act is the best that can be known about how you think: This is a fact that does not change.

There will be times when you may wonder what all this talk about thinking and thought mean and if you should continue reading. When you begin listening to what you are reading, you will not have this question to ask. I invite you to do so for, after all, It Is How You Think. The new and different tend—at first—to be met with a certain amount of resistance—which is how we learn. Be it works of art, literature, or merely understanding the use of a product you recently purchased. We must first understand and follow the instructions for best use.

Thought-Think-Words

You do not know how good a thought is until you know how good it was. Our thoughts are what we think about. And what we think creates the words that are the source for the actions we take. And there is no such thing as a bad word. The use of a word decides what it is worth. How we arrange our words say what we mean. You should never say what you do not mean to say. You will only do this if your thinking is disordered.

When we think, we are having a talk with ourselves. You can do this two ways. You think your thoughts to yourself. That is when you talk to yourself and not say a word. The other is to think your thoughts out loud—talking to yourself. Talking to yourself is an excellent way to discuss what is on your mind with yourself when no one else is around. No, it does not mean that you are losing it. We think for a reason. The reason is our thoughts. That is the only way for them to take on a life of their own. Not all thoughts are good for us to think. A thought of things best left “untouched” is one of them. But we have to do something with them once we have one. It has to be processed. You either think it, or it immediately goes to your memory. What greater know-how could you have than to know how to think good thoughts.

Ask me what I think. Do not tell me what to think. Think for you. Let no one think this is what they can do. They will think this only if you have given them a reason to think so. It would be a reason that had the look of weakness. Your thoughts should be for your well-being and those that you serve. No one can think the thought of another.

We think our thoughts and think about how others act. We have to be aware of what exists to have thoughts about it. To shrink and expand your world is the best way to gauge the thoughts that you think. I mean the limits we place, or not, on the people and things we allow in our world. There are some things you are better off without. Not all belong in your head. Because once it is, it will forever be in your memory. The only memories you do not have, you never had. That is unless you suffer an illness that robs you of what you knew.

Distraction or Attraction

Remember This: I come before you, they, them, we, and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do. The greatest attraction/satisfaction should be your SELF.
Distracted

There are reasons why you let things distract you, even when you do not know the reason why. When you are distracted, it can be good, or it could be bad. It all depends on your thoughts. If a thing distracts you when you have good thoughts, it is not so good. If you are distracted when your thoughts are not good, it is a good thing. It is the thinking that you do afterward that makes the difference in what you do next. It is not all about distraction. There is much in life that you can be attracted to as well. And there are several cautions here that will serve you well to remember.

I Come First

When you find a person, place, or even a thing to be attractive to you, a one-way channel for your feelings has been opened. This action is not a distraction. It is an attraction; you are drawn to it. It is by way of a preference that we all have for that which pulls us in. We are attracted to people, places, and things that are attractive to us. But what turns me on may not do a thing for you. It is not by us; it is in us. Attraction leads to desire, and it is from this point, how you feel, and act will determine the outcome. Here is where a misinterpretation of the circumstance is likely to occur. Is it real, or is it the imagination with a heavy dose of fantasy, an image that has been created to take your mind for a ride?

What A Day for a daydream

Since the advent of modern-day marketing, lines have been blurred, and it is difficult for many to know what exactly they are attracted to. Is it unfettered attraction, or have you been led to think—by suggestion—what you find attractive. What you think you feel may be the hype and manipulation of the marketing machine. Just as in relationships, what you think you see may not be that at all. When you peel away the veneer, you realize it was just an illusion, a trick to gain your attention. There is very little that is what it seems to be; do you really know what is in that? You can “read the label” and still not know.

Distraction or Attraction that is the question

It has all come down to us against them. As has been put forth by the cautionary rule, “Let the buyer beware.” Is this person, place, or thing just another someone or something made up to draw you in to seal the deal? And then it is a wrap. These objects of attraction are like magnets; they draw you in when the wise thing would be to maintain your distance. Some will ignore all the signs to the contrary and plunge headfirst into the swirl of promotions, sales gimmicks, and marketing gadgets. The techniques are not exclusive to business concerns. There are men and women of all levels of society just as adept.

Though we can be attracted to many things, it is the intense feelings that you have for the other sex that tugs at your emotions and play tricks with your mind.  You must decide if the feeling is actionable, for no one can do it for you. Or is it just the result of your life circumstance: loneliness, for example. The answer comes, and you must know it when it does, for it is not always so apparent. And there are those times when the intent is to deceive. Another word for that is a setup or being “catfished.” One should know the difference, for it could be a lifesaver. The first step should only be taken after you have been invited. You are the gatekeeper of your mind, so you must know what to allow in your head.

Attraction-distraction-desire

When you are attracted to the object of your desire, the mind tends to go on a flight of fantasy. And before you know it, if you are not grounded in reality, you will take off into the unknown. As is often the case, it may turn out to be something/someone you should walk away from instead of towards. Much of this you may already know from firsthand knowledge. If so, treat this as just a reminder. Our preferences are based on how we view our wants and desires. They are subject to change as our mind goes from one thought to another. It depends on what is there to think about and what this does to how you feel. So this is a consideration that must be given before losing one’s self in the excitement of this most powerful force of attraction. It draws you in rather than pushes you away. Far too many, to their detriment, are distracted by their attractions.

It is how You think

What distracts some the most is when they think about what they think others think about them. And, of course, it is how you think. Then they try a never-ending effort to change things about themselves that cannot or should not be changed. They change how they dress, how they speak, and yes, even their face. Some, in their effort to cover up what they think, is a not so nicely shaped nose, cheekbones, eyes, skin tone, or other believed to be flaws apply cosmetics of all kinds to the point where those who know them feel forced to lie and say they look natural and so becoming. It is not a nice thing to do to your friends and loved ones.

But remember this, a Change in makeup will not change who you are. The Self is your makeup. It is the soul of a person, it is who you are, and it does not change. New makeup is not what you need. An overhaul of how you think is what you need. The change in how you think will change how you feel, which will change how you act and view the world around you. Let how you act be the face that you show the world. You should not depend on your looks to speak for you. Your outer person is only there to compliment who you are and not be the complete representation of you.

Makeup and a getup (outfit) will not keep you up. When how you look does not match your inner Self, it creates pressure. You have to try to act the way you look. The real you can only come out when the outside is inside. How you feel, then, depends on how you look, and with time the looks will change right before your eyes. Try as hard as you might, your looks will not remain the same. They will lose a step to age. No one can march against time. And the struggle with who you see in the mirror is just as futile. The time of our lives changes, time-space does not. For time is space and space is time.

You must attract that person who you want to be.

You fool no one when you try to hide, and there is no cover-up to make up for the difference. It is how you think and how you think leads the way to what you do next. To change how you feel about yourself, you must change how you think about yourself.  You have done too much, though, when what you do cause you to look like who you are not. Even worse—to act the same. We can see you and so can you.

Here’s Looking at you
When you race against yourself, you can never win.

Because of Man

What the Woman and Girl Must Do for Man

White Covering Not to Show Panties

What The Woman Does Because of Man

From the time they rise in the morning to when she lies down for the night, a female (woman/girl) has to check and recheck that nothing is showing, smelling, or telling. It is hard out here for the female gender. And to add to this, she has to always be alert to the males’ presence and intentions. Why don’t I just run down the list to highlight just how tough it is.

  1. When wearing a dress or skirt, must sit a certain way where men and boys are present
  2. When wearing pants, must make sure there is no “camel toe” showing
  3. She will usually wear black to avoid the above
  4. Must do the “sniff test” before leaving home
  5. No spitting blowing of the nose or other natural body functions in the presence of her boyfriend
  6. To add to the item just above, absolutely no expelling of “wind” from the lower orifice
  7. Must not admit to having no more than one or two past lovers—if that
  8. Add to the above; a virgin is expected even at the age of fifty: slight exaggeration
  9. Must pretend not to be too sexually experienced while at the same time acting as if she is
  10. And last, but certainly not the least, must grin and bear it

White Sitting Showing Panties

Now I am a man and what I have said comes from observation. And I will admit that what I think I see may not be that way at all. If I am wrong and the burden for women and girls is not what I have described, please correct me where I am wrong and feel free to add to the list. There has to be more.

 

Don’t Tell Me Where To Be

Do You Know Your Place

You must know where you belong. If not, you are lost. There are things a society must have in place for us to thrive and grow. Life would not be the same without them. The means and use of its tools to function is one of them. One such tool for all groups is the use of symbols and labels. There must be labels that we know by shapes and words to make sense of our world. We will not have a thought of what a thing is if it does not have a label. Without one, you would not know. Nor will we know its purpose.

We use labels to know what we are doing. It all began with life and the world, as we know it. We were born with instinct so that we could survive in this new world. Some say that they do not have a place. And they refuse to be labeled or “put in their place,” which is a wrong way to think. If you do not have a place, you do not have a place to be. Of course, we are all in and at a place. Although, it may not be the place we want to be. We were born to belong, to fit in, not to be alone. We all have a place of our own that we only have to find. You will know that you are there—where you belong—when you find it because you will feel it.

If you are told or merely inferred that you should stay in your place, do not be offended, for you will be where you are until you are not. Now, if you say to yourself that you have no place, that it is somehow an insult to be told to stay there, and of course, it is “stay” that is most objectionable, it will only cause you harm. Just take a moment to think about what you are saying when you say this. We all have a place starting in our mother’s womb. It comes with a label that tells who we are. It will tell where our place is in the order of our birth, as well, and this does not change. We have labels that will change as we change over time as our roles in life change. When we feel that we do not have a place, we will get less from the place we are in now. And when we move on, we take less with us and have less to work with where we are going.

When you are not content with your place, change your place, and your label will change: This is done by changing the way you think. Some go back to school. Others make sure to fill out the space they are in now—getting the most from what they have. You change the way you think by being aware of how you think. Everyone has a place, and that place is where you want to be. No one can misplace you but you. Each of us defines who we are. The future is in our hands. Even with its ebb and flow of life. Know what it is you see when you look. I am who I have been looking for—who are you?

Pain Does Not Cause Pain How You Think Does

You Have to Listen to Learn and Learn to Listen

Note:

When I say you, as I often do, it is only you when you see you. The message here is direct. If you do not recognize any parts of how you think, feel, and act, don’t turn away, for you will recognize someone you know or love.  Or perhaps if you listen to what you read and see, you will understand someone you know better. Even someone you do not know, but you have seen them act out their hurt in all the wrong places where there is no apparent reason why.

Do not cover up your pain with the things that you say and do. It is understandable for you to do this to try to feel better. The problem is it does not work: Not for long. You will only suffer more and make it worse. No matter how fast you run, you cannot run from pain. And to pretend it is not there will not make life easier. For you know—even if no one else does—it has not gone away. Emotional hurt and pain: It is a symptom that not all is well with how you think.

No new boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife will change how you feel; they cannot take the pain away. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. It is pain that you feel. Let what you do speak for you, not what has been done to you. To some degree, this has happened to most of us. It is how you think about thoughts—you know, those things you think about, those actions taken against you, and those you have taken against yourself.

Your husband or wife, or not having either, does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. When all has been said, the pain you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came. You allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor, or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is how you think. It is not you that they see when they look your way. You have hidden the real you under layers of hurt and pain.

You have struggled long to come out. No one knows the real you, for you have not shown your SELF to anyone. You have been afraid to look at you. When will you let the real you show up? You know there are times when no one is around that you lose it. It hurt so bad not to be yourself. It aches in your heart. There are times when you need to feel that one person, just one, loves you for who you are. Your hurt has wounded you. Remember this: I come before you, they, them, we, and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do.

If you have memories of hurt and pain from your past, it will change when you change how you think. You have to understand this for what it is, how it influences your thoughts.

Makeup or Coverup Will Not Lift You Up

Pain Does Not Cause Pain How You Think Does

Makeup or Coverup

Makeup or no kind of coverup will lift you up and keep you up. Do not cover up your pain with the things that you say and do. It is understandable for you to do this to try to feel better. The problem is it does not work: Not for long. You will only suffer more and make it worse. No matter how fast you run, you cannot run from pain. And to pretend it is not there will not make life easier. For you know—even if no one else does—it has not gone away. Emotional hurt and pain: It is a symptom that not all is well with how you think.

No new boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife will change how you feel; they cannot take the pain away. If you want to change how you feel, you must change how you think. You cannot live in the past, so why should you let the past live in you. It is pain that you feel. Let what you do speak for you, not what has been done to you. To some degree, this has happened to most of us. It is how you think about thoughts; you know, those things you think about, those actions taken against you, and those you have taken against yourself.

Only You Can Lift You Up

Your husband or wife, or not having either, does not cause your pain. Neither your employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that you feel. When all has been said, the pain you feel is caused by no one other than you. It does not matter from where it came. You allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor, or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is how you think. It is not you that they see when they look your way. You have hidden the real you under layers of hurt and pain.

You have struggled long to come out. No one knows the real you, for you have not shown your SELF to anyone. You have been afraid to look at you. When will you let the real you show up? You know there are times when no one is around that you lose it. It hurt so bad not to be yourself. It aches in your heart. There are times when you need to feel that one person, just one, loves you for who you are. Your hurt has wounded you. Remember this: I come before you, they, them, we, and us. When I do not come first, life will be disordered until I do.

If you have memories of hurt and pain from your past, it will change when you change how you think. You have to understand this for what it is, how it influences your thoughts.

It Is How You Think

Why Let How You Look Cause You Pain

Mirror Mirror On The Wall 1-11-16

Your Achilles Heel

(Everyone has one.)

There is no one who doesn’t have that one thing that causes insecurity about his or her appearance. It has as much to do with what you think others think about you as what you think of yourself. It could be your nose, your hair, breast, or just about anything that has been deemed not to be how it should be. When you think this way, you will never be at ease and comfortable with yourself, the real you. You cannot be happy, no matter the circumstance or your status in life, until you resolve the issue you have with what you think you see when you look at you. Reflections do not always tell the truth.

The images you see in magazines, on TV shows, and throughout the media are not human prototypes. It is mostly an illusion, a fantasy created to sell an image of perfection. The perfect dazzling white teeth, long flowing hair, and a curvy body with all of the accompanying accouterments: the typical look you see as you go about your day, yes, sure thing. And as one would expect, those who bother the most will try to change things about themselves to be all that, even things that cannot or should not be changed. They spend loads of time and money on how they look, how they dress, and right down to how they walk and talk.

Time and money indeed are important, but not as important as your health. And some of the things are putting the people who do them at risk. It is no wonder when you look at how some are criticized and joked about for this one physical feature that is looked upon as a flaw and not the will of nature and how you were born to be. All the while, they are using this ridicule as a defense mechanism to fight off their own insecurities.

The jokes and harsh words can be personal and quite nasty. Those who are adept at it can be creative with their techniques, while others show no mercy. The focus is always on those aspects of your person that are easy to attack. It is just superficial, yes, but it hurts, nonetheless. Making these critical remarks to inflict hurt and pain has become acceptable—it is “everywhere.” In casual conversations, in movies that we see, in magazines, and even in some of the books that we read: There it is. It is no wonder that anxiety, low self-esteem, and insecurity are at an all-time high.

You cannot hide, for long, what is inside about how you think about your outside. So, you think you are different, that no one has your perceived shortcoming, your “defect.” In reality, there is no one who doesn’t have a defect of birth of some type, some cover it up, and others have procedures to change what many times are just typical abnormalities. Nothing that millions of others all over the world don’t have as well. Try telling that to yourself. For if you see you when you listen to these words, it is time to learn from them. It is not easy, at first, to accept that which you have lived with as you would an unwelcome guest, but this you can and must do. There are some things you cannot change; you have to change how you think about them.

We have men, women, girls, boys, and even young children—more so today than ever—who have become entrapped by the marketing of major businesses and a brain-washed society. The very people who should know better are caught up with the rest in the swirl of the marketing monster. We are now looking for the ideal when it is not to be found, for it is always moving and changing. And there is no better way to separate you from your money than creating “false” insecurity and a sense of need. Know what is being sold before you buy. Money will not buy self-esteem. You have to earn it by changing how you see yourself.

If all of the people of the world were in one place, you would see much, and much of what you see would be no different than what you have seen, just “everyday people.” Everyone is beautiful at someplace to someone whereas using the so-called standard of beauty, very few would be. Let me put it this way: There is no perfect person, physically, mentally, or otherwise, and few who meet the marketing criteria for beauty. On one of your typical days out and about, how many “beautiful” people do you see, few if any who have the looks of the gorgeous magazine models and the assortment of celebrities. It is all a make-believe world full of illusion, makeup trickery, and manipulation. It is not reality; it is not what you think you see.

We all have physical differences in height, weight, ears, eyes, and all of the other variations that come with being a living organism, a creation of nature. Even the appearance of the genitals causes much anxiety and personal and social discomfort. And the public buys into it. There are billions spent annually on Labiaplasty, Vaginal Rejuvenation, penis enlargement, and other body modifications by men, women, and even teens.

First thing in the morning, before your feet even touch the floor, you are thinking about one thing that is never far from your mind. You have tried not to think about it, and that is why you do. If you cannot change it, you have to change how you think about it. You wish to hide it from the mirror, but what’s the use, it will still be there when you look. You do not have to be perfect, to be perfect in the things that you do.

Nothing is hard to do; you just do not know how to do it yet.

 

 

In the Beginning—There is Creavolution

Created to Evolve to Create

Creation is the breath of life from which we evolve. Parents are the Creators of life. They prepare, or not, the way for us. An offspring does not evolve into the world. They are born. Then it is for us to be who we are meant to be. We are how we survive.

I have had thoughts about where it all came from—the earth and all that we believe to exist. I am sure many of you have these thoughts as well. A line has been drawn, and sides have been taken on the matter of evolution vs. creation. The beliefs are just as strong for both arguments. On one side, we have those who believe in creation and on the other, are those who believe in evolution. Each is steadfast in their beliefs. Well, I subscribe to both with an emphasis on creation.

The purpose of life is to go forward and procreate. It is what keeps us going. What else we do is up to us. We were created to evolve to create. And Creavolution is how it is done. All things must first be to grow and become. Growth starts when life begins, and Creavolution gives life its shape, from when it begins to when it ends. We are all created through Creavolution by the Creator of all life and all things. It is the engine of life. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved. These two are the forces that are one with all life all the time. It is the new–created by the Creator–and all things that evolved from it.

We evolve when our needs are met. All that we need was here before us, as it is for all living things, for if not, there could be no life. There would be no means to survive. We have to be taught how to meet our needs. That is if we are to survive. Many are not taught well. So, you must do your best to make the best of what you do have. You have to survive until you know better. That is if you can. A place must be reserved and properly prepared for us well before our arrival—from conception. Nurturing and caring beginning in the womb has to be a part of that plan. I will prepare a place for you. The needs of life must be there for life to grow.

We want to know what it all means.

To have evolved when not a thing came first will not answer the question of life. Evolve is what we do once we are here. It is not the answer. The answer is in the act of creation. And it speaks for the Creator. You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. These are the things that I believe.

My life has been my best education and has shaped how I see the world. What I write is inspired by the Creator. It is a natural process, not forced or coerced. It is written as it comes into my mind, and my life experiences and observations of the wonders of nature are the foundation for my insight. I am on a mission, and my life has prepared me to be the messenger. What I write cannot be refuted, disproven, or denied because it is truth.

It is about life. It is about Creavolution, which means we were created to evolve. Creation and evolution say it all; they are the combination that is life. You cannot have one without the other. You must be before you can become.

 

Without Thought There is No Need for a Mind

More to Think About

What could be more critical to your sense of Self and well-being than your thoughts and how you think them. Our thoughts and how we think them are what determine what we do and say. What we want from our lives depends on it.  They are our own and one thing we have that cannot be taken from us.

Thoughts will come and go, but they do not go away. You will not undo a thought. Once you have a thought, you think it, or it lives on in your memory as just a thought. There is not a thing that a thought will reverse to. Though, your perception of which our thoughts are based might change. In turn, this could change what you think. You can have the thought again. But not think about it in the same way or manner. If it connects with things in your life, it will move forward.

You must know the existence of a thing to have a thought about it. When you do know but do not remember, you know no less. A new thought will remind you if there is a need. You will not know how much you know until you know more than you know now. We do not use what we know as we learn it. We use what we learn after it becomes knowledge. Knowledge is when you have a full and complete understanding of what you have learned. That is how and why it is knowledge. Know what you think you know. Know what you do not. Knowledge will do you no harm. How you think about and act upon what you know can. You can be perfect in things that you do. You will not be perfect in how you think.

Life is made up of decisions that you and I must make. There are times when you have to decide on what you do not know. If you do not know what is around the corner, you may choose not to go there.  Our thoughts can lift us up or hold us down. It depends on what we do with them. You have no power greater than to think your thoughts. No one knows but you; they only know how you act. Thinking is fuel for the mind. How great it is to use. By its nature, we tend to spend more time thinking a negative thought, not that we think more negative thoughts. And it is for a good reason—it requires more attention just by its nature.  It can cause you to imagine the worst, and you can dwell on it to no end. If it does leave, it will keep coming back until you think it through.

The most harmful and damaging thought you can think of is when you let what you think others think about you cause discomfort and worry. What others think about you is what bothers you the most. You should not let that cause you a minute of pain. Let no one influence your thoughts to make you feel bad. Lord knows they will try. It is more than likely they would not approach you with this in mind if they did not think they could.

How you act is what will lead others to believe what they do about you. That is if they do not have their reasons to think otherwise. But for those with no agenda, it is how you are thought of when they think of you. How else can they know who you are? When you change how you think and act—if that is what you need to do—you change what is thought of you.

Painful thoughts will cause you to think in a way that does not serve you well.

When you have painful thoughts, there is a cause. Painful thoughts, if you take time to think them, will show in how you act. You can come to depend on it. And then take it a step further and feel that it is normal. Of course, it never is. Yes, it does hurt to think the wrong thoughts. What you think should not be the cause of pain.

When your thoughts are not clear, how you think will be disordered. It will not allow you to be the best that you can at what you say and do. One of the most difficult tasks in life is to understand how and why we think the way we do. You have to know how to think the way that is best for you. Do not let how you think and act be based on thoughts you are not sure of, for how you act will be unpredictable.

If you are not sure of your thoughts and are not certain in your mind, what you think, feel, and act, from there on, you will not have the confidence to make informed decisions in your best interest. Thoughts like this you should not let take up room in your mind. It will cause mixed feelings. Then, yes, you will act in ways that you cannot always foresee or predict. Do not let these kinds of thoughts take hold. It will leave you with a conflicting view of what is real. You must see your thoughts for what they are. For when you do not, it is sure to lead to Self sabotage.

Do not let a disordered mind tell you what to do, yours or anyone else’s. If you do, you will not think in a rational way. When you do not think right, what you do will not be right. All wrong things come with a price. This is so even when you do not know the cost. When how you think is out of control and causing harm, you are the last one to know. We are not soon to realize it. When things are not right, we look at all of the other places, first, for an answer. One thing that is for sure, though, we will not harm ourselves with full knowledge of what we are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow, you must be strong.

I cannot say it enough, how we act is what others use to judge us, and it is the face that we show the world. Our thoughts and feelings are not meant to be seen. They are revealed by the way we act. It is by this that we are known. We relate to others by what they do, not what they feel. What is in our hearts and minds cannot be known. And whether we accept it or not, no one is obligated to understand us.

It is not as hard for you to change how you act as it is not to. You do it all the time. When you start to think better, you will act better. If you do not see you—think—whom do you see. Someone is touched by what we say and do, and we are touched by what others do. How we think is where it all begins. And there is not a time when we do not think. That is not the problem. What we think can be.

When how you think and act is the result of the pain you feel, you must trace your pain to where it leads. That would be your childhood. Your childhood is real, and its effect on you—good or bad— is real. You must look back one last time. First, though, we have to let down our defense, drop our guard, maybe, for the first time. That our view may be clouded by time, and the hurt that we felt does not change a thing. We were a child in an adult world. It does not matter; it is the thoughts of our childhood that hurts. If it is not you, it is someone you know, whether you know it or not.

If the trip is difficult to take, try being me, and I will be you. It will help you understand how the millions who suffer here and around the world may feel. How they act is a way to learn about us. When you change how you think, it can be done. Yes, many have been hurt. Our pain has its roots in and grows from a life being interfered with. We have to go back to this point. It is where our path to the right way of thinking begins.

Is it the way we remember it to be? Some things we can change, others we have to change how we think about them. The past will never be changed. Memories of days since passed should not be our guide. This is for a good reason. What we can recall about the past can change. Then our memories are more false than not. They tell us what was, not what is or what is going to be. You can go to the past when you want, just remember to leave. There is no room there. All the things there have been. The past is filled. It is not meant for us to spend more time there than in the present.

If you suffer, and there is not just one way, you do not know why. If you knew why you would not suffer. The why is you tell yourself that you are not worthy. You think you are not good enough and do not deserve to be yourself and be happy. Do not say that in any form. If you do, know that it is not true. The Self does not want to hear it. When we hurt ourselves, there is a memory that has hurt us. When love is not there, the place where it should be will not be left empty. Hurt will fill its place.

The drive to survive is born with us. It is the first law of nature. Do not do harm to what has been given. This will cause grief and will harm others in your life, as well. Most of the problems in our lives today are caused by how we think. Not how others think. We bring the problems on ourselves. Many times, it is when you think you know the thoughts of others as well as you know your own.

You can look but not see and hear but not listen.

You have to be prepared to learn. You must learn how to listen and listen to learn. You have to listen to what you read. Listen to what is said to you and listen to your Self. When we are born, we do not know how to listen. It is an acquired skill. You first hear, and then you listen. When you listen, you feel the sound of your thoughts. If you want to think about what you read, you have to listen to what you read.

To hear is not to listen. It is not the same. It takes no effort to hear. This is if you want to or not. To hear is one of the senses. It is there by nature and has no on and off switch. The senses let us live and are the means to be in touch with our world. They make life worth living. They are tools of nature. To listen is not a sense it is a skill. If you want to listen, it must be what you want to do.

You must have a deep sense of purpose and a strong drive to learn. Not just, hear what is said or what you read. When you listen, what you hear or read has your attention. Your mind is closed but to this. When you focus on what you hear to where your mind takes over, you are listening. In so many ways, it is much like meditation. What we listen to can be calming when we feel it. You have to want to learn to listen. Until you do, you will just hear.

Our lives are shaped by how well we know how to listen. Just because you can hear does not mean you are going to listen. We hear with our ears, but we listen with our mind. The words begin to sink in. It is then that you are focused. You are there. And will see what we really mean when we say the things that we do. You can look but not see and hear but not listen.

There is a time to listen. There is a time to think. There is a time to talk. Listen, think, and then talk, to know when it is your time is what determines the outcome. These are the things we must know for knowledge to flow. It is the way to have give and take. All will have a chance to express their thoughts. It works best when one talks and one listens. The key is to know when it is your turn. When you listen, you do that, not a thing more. We do this when our mind tells us to. This is how you think what is being said.

You cannot be sure of what you have heard if you have not listened. As a result, what you say may not be what you mean. You can talk and hear at the same time, but you will not be listening. If you try, it would be like trying to think two thoughts at the same time. Neither one can be done. Our mind moves to what we are thinking of. There is no dual track for how we think. And a thought will not divide. Just as you cannot say two words at the same time.

Though our life is always on one track—it does not mean we have to have a one-track mind. The mind is meant to explore the possibilities, to wonder, to create, and to consider what is and what can be. There is no limit to where the mind will go, so there are times when we have to call it back.

When we say what needs to be heard, someone will listen. You should not say a thing until you say it to yourself. No matter what you say, you should make sure to say what you know. There is a lesson in all the things we say and do.

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