There are two kinds of time in my way of thinking. It is the time that was given to each of us—our own time—and universal time/space, which is the greatest of all; it was created. It does not change. What I am saying maybe more clear if it is thought of in terms of the world, at least, as we now know it to be. There are seven world time zones. The United States uses nine standard zones. Therefore, the question is what time is the right time? With every area of the world having its own time zones, how can you know what time it is. Neither of them is correct when next to the other. Time that can change is invented by man. It is never the same and is not correct.
You should not make your decisions based on time. Time will not accomplish a thing on its own. Decide what you want to do, then make time to do it. This should be the order of how you decide. No matter how much time you have, if you do not know what you are going to do with it, you will not know how much you need. What matters is how you are going to fill the space. If you bake a cake for the required time but use the wrong ingredients, you will not get the cake that you want. What you would have, then, is a cake you cannot eat and time you no longer have. This time was your time. Let us take a look at nature’s time. In a room there are things, they come and go, some are added some are removed. It makes no difference what time these things are moved or changed, the space does not. Time is space. And there is a time for all things.
If we had the power over the nature of time, what would we do with it, where would we put it? Would we add a little here, take a little there? For sure, it would be the final step to the end. Wars would be fought over it, and some would lie, cheat and steal to get more of it. Those with the least amount of power would have very little time. Much like it is today.
Creation is the breath of life from which we evolve. Parents create our life. They prepare, or not, the way for us. An offspring does not evolve to the world. They are born. Then it is for us to be who we are meant to be. We are how we survive.
I have had thoughts about where did it all come from. As I am sure, many of us have. A line has been drawn and sides have been taken on the matter of evolution vs. creation. The beliefs are just as strong for both arguments. On one side, we have those who believe in creation and the other, are those who believe in evolution. Each is steadfast in their beliefs. Well, I subscribe to both with an emphasis on creation.
The purpose of life is to go forward and procreate. It is what keeps us going. What else we do is up to us. We were created to evolve to create. And Creavolution is how it is done. All things must first be to grow and become. Growth starts when life begins and Creavolution is what gives life its shape, from when it begins to when it ends. We are all created from it. This is through the Creator of all life and all things. It is how life flows. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved. These two are the forces that are one with all life all the time. It is the new, which was created, and all things that evolved from it.
We evolve when our needs are met. All that we need was here before us, as it is for all creatures. We have to be taught how to meet our needs. That is, if we are to survive. Many of us are not taught well. So, we have to do our best to make the best of what we do have. We have to survive until we know better. That is, if we can. A place must be prepared for us. Nurturing and caring has to be a part of that plan. I will prepare a place for you. The needs of life must be there for life to grow. We want to know, what it all means.
To have evolved when not a thing came first, will not answer the question of life. Evolve is what we do once we are here. It is not the answer. The answer is in the act of creation. And it speaks for the Creator. You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. These are the things that I believe.
My life has been my best education and has shaped how I see the world. What I write is inspired by the Creator. It is a natural process, not forced or coerced. It is written as it comes into my mind, and my life experiences and observations of the wonders of nature are the foundation for my insight. I am on a mission that was given to me and my life has prepared me to be the messenger. What I write cannot be refuted, disproven or denied because it is truth.
It is about life, it is about Creavolution. This means we were created to evolve. Creation and evolution says it all, they are the combination that is life. You cannot have one without the other.
Just as you can look but not see, you can hear and not listen. You first hear, and then you listen. When you listen, you feel the sound of your thoughts and know precisely what is said. Nothing will be filtered by emotion. To hear is not to listen. It is not the same. It takes no effort to hear. This is if you want to or not. To hear is one of the senses. It is there by nature and has no on and off switch. When you focus on what you hear, you will listen. You are early home from work, what is that sound coming from your bedroom. What you hear is someone being hurt, but then you start to listen and it is then that you realize it is not pain that you hear. It is your wife getting thrilled by another man. You surely did not want to hear those sounds though you would not have known if you had not cracked the door to listen.
Hearing is the ability to perceive sound with our ears. I will not spell out the entire process, but the ears do this by detecting vibrations. When an object makes a noise, it sends vibrations (better known as sound waves) speeding through the air. Sound may be heard through solid, liquid, or gaseous matter, as well as anger, fear, happiness and pleasure. There are times when you may hear things even when you rather not. I am leaving you. I have found someone else. The thrill is gone. You are fired. And there are other times when what you want to hear you never do. I love you, yes, yes, yes. You make me feel so good. Please, don’t stop now, I coming, wait for me. You are the best.
The Time is Now
What you hear can deceive you, just as when you see an object, person or thing and realize upon closer inspection that it is not what you believed it to be. This is never so evident that when a lover, husband or wife says, “I love you” when all along they are making love to someone else. To take it a step further to a place no one wants to be is when a person hears what is not being said. The need to hear what you want to hear cause you to change the meaning of the sound of the words being spoken. We can turn a run, as fast as we can from what is real, but it will not change a thing. If he does not want you anymore, and she is telling you that she has someone else, it will be the same no matter what you allow yourself to hear. The mind is a terrible thing when it works against you.
There are times when someone will say something to you and they do not want you to listen. They only want you to hear, this is so that they can confuse you later when you tell them what they said. What you hear then, is, I did not say that, I did not say it like that or even, that is not what I meant. Our lives are shaped by how well we know how to listen. Just because you can hear does not mean you are going to listen. We hear with our ears, but we listen with our mind. The words begin to sink in. It is then that you are focused. You are there. And you will see what they really mean when they say the things that they do.
There is a time to listen. There is a time to think. There is a time to talk. Listen, think, and then talk, to know when it is your time is what determines the outcome. These are the things you must know for knowledge to flow. It is the best way to have “give and take.” All will have a chance to express their thoughts. It works best when one talks and one listens. The key is to know when it is your turn. When you listen, you do that, not a thing more. We do this when our mind tells us to. This is how you think what is being said. First, though, you have to be where you need be to hear what is being said.
You cannot be sure of what you have heard if you have not listened. As a result, what you say may not be what you mean. Because you did not hear, what you thought you heard. You can talk and hear at the same time but you will not be listening. If you try, it would be like trying to think two thoughts at the same time. Neither one can be done. Our mind moves to what we are thinking of. There is no dual track for how we think. And a thought will not divide. It is just as no two words can be said, and no two objects can occupy, the same space, at the same time.
You have to be prepared to learn. You must learn how to listen and listen to learn. You have to listen to what you read, listen to what is said to you, and listen to our Self if you want to learn. When we are born, we do not know how to listen. It is an acquired skill. You must have a deep sense of purpose and a strong drive to learn. Not just hear what is said or what you read. When you listen, what you hear has your undivided attention. In so many ways, it is much like meditation. What we listen to can be calming when we feel it; of course, it can be quite disturbing, it depends on what you have to listen to. You have to want more out of what you hear to listen. Until you do, you will just hear. That certainly could be all you want to do.
I cannot say it too many times, our lives are shaped by how well we know how to listen. Just because you can hear does not mean you are going to listen. We hear with our ears, but we listen with our mind. The words begin to sink in. You are focused. You are there, in the moment. And it is then that you know what the words really mean when we say the things that we do.
You cannot be sure of what you have heard if you have not listened. As a result, what you say may not be what you mean. You can talk and hear at the same time but you will not be listening. If you try, it would be like trying to think two thoughts at the same time. Neither one can be done. Your mind moves to what you are thinking of. There is no dual track for how we think. And a thought will not divide. It is just as two words cannot be said at the same time.
When we say what needs to be heard, someone will listen. You should not say a thing until you say it to yourself. And that is called thinking. When we think, we are having a talk with ourselves. You can do this two ways. You think your thoughts to yourself. That is when you talk to yourself and not say a word. The other, which I have done since I was a child, is to think your thoughts out loud. This is a good way to discuss what is on your mind with yourself when no one else is around. No matter what you say, you should make sure to say what you know.
Can You Hear Me Now
You do not have to say it all, but let whatever you say be the truth. There is a lesson in all the things we say and do. You have to listen to learn and learn to listen. Did you hear me? Are you listening now.
Vision or sight is how we see the world. You have to be in touch with your world to be in touch with you. We do this by input from the senses. They tell the brain what they know. Then the brain sends commands to the body. And perceptions are then formed in the mind for us to have thoughts to think. Our thoughts are based on what we receive, and are formed in the mind to be recorded by the brain. Our mind is where we think our thoughts and it suggests to us what to do. We have the choice to overrule the mind if need be. It is where perception has its roots. The senses are tools for the brain, and thought lubricate the gears of the thinking process.
Tools for Life
We look out with our eyes, and look in with our mind. The human eye is the organ that gives us the sense of sight. It allows us to learn more about the world that we live in than we do with any of the other four senses. We use our eyes in most of the activities that we do. Probably most people would agree—I know that I do—that sight is the most precious of the five senses. Many of us fear the loss of sight more than any other disability. And we humans rely on our sense of sight more than a lot of other animals. Many of them use their sense of smell much as we use our sight. Our sense of smell is not as accurate as that of some animals. It is of our own doing, it is because of us. No matter how you look at it, we did it to ourselves. We have confused our sense of smell with all sorts of perfumes, lotions and potions, and powders and oils. And this often suppresses our awareness of what our nose tells us. Though, for sure, the best way to know that it is real is to see it. That is, when we have not confused that as well.
Night or day, our eyes from the time that we open them until the time that we close them are like a video camera. All of the things that we look at are sent to our brain for processing and storage. Of course, there are things we see that we cannot get enough of and others that we do not want to ever see again. Either way, the picture will forever more be there in your mind. The sense of sight is considered the most complex of the five senses for good reason. Most all the activities that we do we will need to see. Not being able to do so would make our daily lives much more difficult. Reading the paper: how would you do that if it is not in braille. Riding public transportation, though better than in the past, would be more difficult if you could not see. Taking a class, going out with friends or going a trip would not be without somewhat of a hassle, at least. And I am sure without the ability to see, you would have to touch it and smell it to become aroused. There is certainly not a thing wrong with that. Stick it in where you can get it in. Other things we almost take to be a right, such as driving, you would not be able to do at all.
Eye to Eye
To know what turns us on is best known if we can see it. But it has come to the point of even seeing is not always believing. With all the cover-ups, push ups and aides in getting it up you can hardly trust what your eyes are telling you. And for that matter, what you feel, when you are feeling. You hear all the time that men are visual creatures. Well, I am here to tell you that women are as much or more so. It goes something like this: The face, the hair, and the breast (for men), the crotch (for both), the butt (for both) and the legs (for men). Now that is the way we see it. And you have to savor those things that you like. Because you cannot see, smell, taste or touch the mind, it is the last thing most of us think about. Though you can tell a great deal about how they think, by how they act. Watch how their bodies move, look at them from head to toe and you will see, and can tell, what they consider their best assets. This would be your focus. Pay special attention to how they move and where they place their hands. And remember, it is not so much what they say as much as it is how they say it. When they know you have homed in on them, even before you speak, your eyes will have done the heavy lifting.
The eyes, alone, can draw the object of your affection straight into your head. Once the eyes lock not a word has to be said. Male or female nature will take its course. It is the connecting of souls where the heat will rise and the sap will flow.
Some look and pretend they do not see what their eyes are telling them that they do. They try to wipe it from their minds. They will turn their heads and try to distract themselves with self-control. They will play with their hair, look at their watch or start fiddling with their phone or act as if there is a thing of interest somewhere else. They are afraid of their feelings. Why do we feel this way? What do you do when you catch yourself eying your sister in-law, you know, the one with the nice butt, do you turn your eyes as if you did not notice. What about the neighbor as she bends to tend her flower garden showing just a hint of her lace panties all moist and filled with sweat. What do you do now, pluck your eyes out. What about that good-looking mail carrier, do you pretend you do not notice the bulge in his pants when he looks you up and down.
We see what we see and we will feel what comes next. You either move on your feeling or just let it be. But one thing you cannot do is “unsee what you have seen.” It will be with you and so will the feelings. Feelings that are as natural as the air that we breathe. It has been made taboo to do the things we have in us to do. And yes, there are some who do not trust themselves to be looked at now just to look. Depending on the relationship, you may not be “allowed” to let your eyes go where they want to go. Whether you are married, single, a relative or friend your eyes are there to do just one thing, to see.
I See You
What you see at a distance may not look the same up close. Fantasy is built on the wings of imagination. And some things are enjoyed best from afar. What you see is what you get, but is it what you want. What I say may not be for everybody, some of you may even think it is vulgar. But let me assure you that what I say is not uncommon; it is, after all, how we were created to be. I would say that it is just human if we were the only ones. We are not for the attraction to the opposite sex is what makes us, and all creation, what and who we are. The strongest drive that we have, and it is part of our survival instincts, is the desire for sex. And the accelerant is what we see and how we feel when we see it. The “original” man had to be ready to copulate; therefore, would have to do so when aroused. He would have to be erect and hard. This could be at any time or place.
By nature, sex it is still at the core and is the base of survival of the species. In the beginning, sex more likely than not was the sole reason for wanting to mate. We are now as we were then attracted first, by what we see. And what we see can have a different effect on you than on me. You may like it big, I may like it small. You may like it long, I may like it short. You may like it firm, I may like it soft. What you see as pretty, I may not like as much or at all. It is how each of us perceive what we see. There is stimulation all around, from the pointed breast to the well-defined backside if that is what you prefer. Look over there, what do you see, is that thing playing hide and seek. The lushness of the female form and the lure of the body sweet have a power that goes beyond what words can express. It need not be any special way, because what is for you is for you to say. Masculine or feminine, either way, man and woman are here to stay. It is not sexist to say what you like, and respond to what you see, it is the way it was meant to be, I for you and you for me.
I get great pleasure out of what I see; it turns me on and tells me that I am me. I like the rounded thighs and the pink inside. When I look, I like what I see. You may say vulgar, it’s not so nice, and I say you are not seeing through my eyes. You are seeing what you want it to be. What is wrong with telling the truth. We should not try to hide who we are. We were made this way. It is how we are supposed to be. I say the things that I do for you to know there is no taboo when it comes to you. You do not have to hide from what is you nor should I pretend that I do not see what I do. The human body is a precious thing each one belongs to you and me. What we do is see where they fit. We all look, but many are blind to what they see. I see you can you see me.
They say it is not nice to stare, but how would you know if you were not staring at me. Perhaps a look a glance is all it takes, not everyone is on the make. Though this may not be true for some, our minds are always on the prowl, be it for sex, friendship, or a place to be. You can tell by the look in a person’s eyes whether they want a snack, a meal or a sumptuous feast. We hunger for those things, which satisfy our needs. Some need a lot some can only take a little. What will satiate you may leave me wanting. When I see what I want, I want what I see. Then getting it is left up to me.
At Work At Play It Is Still The Same
Some have tried and all have failed to make what is a natural thing to do against the law, as if the devil in you. The ones who do not care for the natural state of “man” and what we do, say that we should be punished or fined for lingering when we look at the female form. They call it ogling, “reckless eyeballing,” or some such thing. Others have suggested that it is an invasion of a woman or girls privacy. I say do not invite me in if you do not want me to stay, at least for a while. We, female and male alike, usually will not focus long on that, which turns us off or not appealing to our libidinous taste. You try so hard to be attractive and go to great lengths to make it so. Then when it is not the object of your affection that looks your way you are offended as if the only eyes that are allowed to see you are the ones you want. That is not being real no matter what way you look at it. Take the bitter with the sweet, they both can be a treat, and at the right time and place could be said quite neat.
Here is a quote from an online article. “Women are created to nurture themselves to attract the opposite sex. This is my opinion based on what I have seen and experienced. We like to spend lots of money on goodies – latest shoes, clothes, and makeup, everything that will make us look great and smell good.” These are not my words, they come from someone who should know. There is not a thing wrong with this, so why don’t we admit it as this female person has done. I will say this; though, much of it is not necessary. Men, if that is who you want to attract, would rather you be as nature meant for you to be. Be yourself that is the best thing you can do for you. Makeup, and a new getup will not keep you, or the man. At some point, it will all have to come off, better sooner than later. Women as well as men I am sure would like to know what they see is what they will get. As an added note: American women spend about $30 billion a year on beauty, which includes $20 billion on cosmetics. They also spend $104 billion on apparel. This totals $134 billion spent on beauty and fashion annually. Some of you do all of this and say you do not want men to look, go figure.
Service With A Smile
Do you think we can be immune to what we see. Because of what we are, not who we are, this we cannot do. The doctor, the teacher, the preacher or nun is a title, a label, not what was born in us from day one. Do you think they do their jobs with their eyes closed, that they have no feelings or that they leave them at the door when they come to work. No matter what you learn in school and as dedicated as you may want to be, nature will have her way and it is then up to us to control what we do. So go on and try to convince yourself that they only see a form when they see you. This is not so, for when they look they see that you are flesh and bone as all of us are.
Now That Wasn’t So Bad
When he peers inside to see if you have changed or not or when she cups the scrotum to feel for bumps and lumps they think nothing about this is what you would like to believe. And the thing is, many of us dress up and smell our best to go to the office, the school, and church or store. You say that your only intention is just to be who you are. You have the right, you say, to dress, or not, the way you want to be. But in the eye of the beholder, there may be more to what they see. It may not be personal, it is the way it is meant to be. You will not bend nature to your will. The creator brought us here so are you saying it was a mistake, he did not know to do. It is by nature that we are who we are. It is a fire that burns within us, it is the warmth by which we live. When the fire dies down, so does our desire, then, there will not be a thing, with life, left to be. And for some, the fire burns more bright and longer than for others. You may say this is all just being an animal. Sure, you are right, that is exactly what we are. We act as if we are so civilized. If you want to know how we are not, observe another animal species and then you will know.
Marriage comes with a contract—vows—that is as unnatural as marriage itself. To honor and obey, who does that now, or ever has. It goes against the natural order of life. It is an unnatural coupling between two people who are different in a major way. And it is the greatest agreement that never was. Now don’t get me wrong, I have been married and would likely do it again. Even so, there is but one true relationship and that is with your kin. Though not always close and you may not get along, kinship is forever. It is the relationship built to last. All others that are, or that may come to be are unnatural, and difficult to maintain, at best.
Marriage is one of the most personal relationships and seems to be the hardest to hold together. All kinds of glue is used to keep it from falling apart. Infidelity is high on the list and the most serious and damaging to the minds of those involved when the fumes of desire spread and are inhaled. Marriage comes with its own remedy, though, if it does not work out, a divorce. And coming in second as a place where feelings can sour, even though not as personal, is on the job. Where at times you have to be someone you are not for eight to twelve hours. Then you are with your family where you have less time to spend trying to be yourself. It could be any place where you feel you almost have no choice but to be there that cause you to think in ways you rather not. For whatever the reason why, you think you must. If there were a list, it would be limitless. But, there is a good reason a society needs these relationships. It all comes down to control. And some just cannot be avoided as much as you might try.
Most humans as well as other animals, need their space and do not like to be controlled. It is the type of wild, if it could be called that, which is in all of us. It is a strong part of self that makes us who we are. It is the core of how we came to be. We had to be different, just as we had to come in contact with each other and closer than some wanted to be. Does husband and wife in different beds come to mind here. Going without sex even though you are married, oh my goodness what is that all about. Being close is more than just a factor in relationships, and it is not natural for long periods of time. And when there is a main ingredient missing you will more easily get on each other’s nerves. If you feel you don’t want to be there, and you feel you must you will compensate. We know where this can/will lead.
There was a time in human history where consent had no standing and force was used as a means to an end. This was not just in personal relationships. It is done, even in this day in some measure in all walks of society. We have seats of power and someone is always in charge. If not, there would be chaos and disorder. We would all be doing our own thing and going our own way. There could be no expectations, and there would not be much we could depend on.
Many of the ills of societies today as well as the past, is because we have to be near each other. When at times we would rather not. You want it your way and I want it mine. And the times are few when we want the same. I do it, you do it and nations do it. One could wonder, if one were so inclined, why is it this way, why can we not all just get along. We may never know why, but we do have to work with what is. This is the problem. We are not doing a good job living among each other. There is racism, sexism, ageism, religious differences and a host of other things that come between us. Now, this is what I do, I look to nature. There is one other thing that is central and at its core, someone has to be in charge.
Point of No Return
There have to be leaders, followers and all that is in between for life to function as it should. As it is as well, we have one who owns the means of production and the other is the worker. It is as it is meant to be. What can and does cause a problem and disorder is when you have followers wanting to be leaders when they are not, and leaders that do not know how to lead. One is there by the order of their birth, it was handed down to them, or by some other means without merit. A lack of will, skills or knowledge is likely the reason others toil away in jobs that have no meaning to them other than a paycheck. Whatever the outcome, it is how both of them think the thoughts that they do. There is another group, those who are where they are by force or the weakness of their mind. I will call this group the ones who let others—wives, husbands boy/girlfriends and a host of other folks—tell them what to do. All of this causes an unnatural balance that goes against nature. Of course, some who follow begin to lead and work their way up. They had it in them all along. They were where they were only because of circumstance. Nothing is so small that it is not big enough to grow.
There are some who say, nothing ever changes, the way it is, is the way it has always been. I say nothing is the way that it has always been. Not a thing that was made to change has remained the same. One thing that does not change is the roles of nature. The male and the female were given their roles for life by the Creator. He handed his greatest gift of life to us with trust. If we even think about going against the will of God, life will be no more. This is so no matter what God is to you, if anything at all. Where we are in the order of life can change, if change is what we want. The changes may be so small that it seems that there are no changes at all, but when milestones have been reached, you will know.
One thing we all should remember, with freedom comes responsibility. The freedom to speak comes with knowing when or not. The freedom to choose comes with “knowing” the choices. And the freedom to be you comes with knowing who you are.
Everyone wants the freedom to do whatever they want to do, but few know what to do with it when they get it. There are some who suffer from role confusion when they are no longer bound by society’s conventions. They want the role that has been reserved by nature for others, and turn their backs on their own. Some things can change; the nature of our existence will not change to the extent that roles will reverse. If so where would life go. We are created with certain attributes, both male and female alike. This is by nature and it was designed by God. It is the way he wanted it to be. And this is the way it shall be, or not a thing will be. None is as blind as the one who refuse to see. When you go against nature, you go against your best interest. You can only get to where you want to go from where you are. We have been cast in our role what we do now is act it out.
Are all things that are viewed as equal, equal? To be equal, what is it you may ask. Is it more than a feeling? In some relationships, if not most, it is what it is thought to be, or not. What are the benchmarks? We think we know it when we see it. For many, it is a state of mind. It is what we see it as being. What it is, is fluid and open to change with a change in status. There is no agreed way to measure it. With that being so, equal many times is no more than what we feel it to be. It is a thought by those who feel they need it. If it is done to the extent that it is done, too much has been done. You cannot make what is outside of you what it is not just because it is what you think you want.
There is not a thing in life that we can say without a doubt, is equal to another. This is when looked at through the lens of equality. It is a goal that is out of reach because it does not exist beyond conception. Life was not designed to be that way. We cannot get it and we cannot give it. It is a power we do not have. Even when we mean well, it will not happen. Each thing is different from the other thing. No matter what they may have in common. No two are the same. And no two outcomes will be the same. All things are created as one of a kind. Each is its own. What determines what comes our way is most times by our own design. Not always, but what we do with what comes our way is, no matter the circumstance.
I say, be the best that you can be the only person that you can. And that is being who you were meant to be; that is you. The real you. Let no one tell you who you should be because you can answer to no one but you. It is not possible for anyone to know you the way you know you. So do not let them think they do.
Disclaimer: This may not be about you but it could be someone you know that you see. Now you will know how they might feel and why they act the way that they do.
What I have to say requires a new way of thinking. What you hear, if you choose to listen, should open your mind. Think what could lie beyond what you now believe to be true. You must not turn away from what you need to see. You should see it for what it is. First, you have to look and then you have to believe it to see it. We learn to listen then listen to learn. Hearing is not listening, it takes no effort to hear. It is just one of the senses. You have to listen to know what it is that you hear. You have to listen to what you hear, listen to what you read and listen to you. To do this it has to be what you want to do. Your understanding of what you hear and read depends on how well you listen. When it is done well, it is a form of meditation. It is energy that you feel in your mind. You will know when it comes, when you really listen for the first time.
Who can resist the draw that a window with the light on has for those who pass. You will not hide your true feelings for long. Some try to do so by self-control. This is not the answer. It takes an effort that pits your mind against your own Self to do so. Life is all about being who you are, the real you. The person you were meant to be. The Self will not be controlled, for long. Any effort to do so will last for a short time. At which point your control will lose its grip and your hold will give way. That is when you will act the way you really feel. This is what you are trying to hide when you use self-control. Has this happened to you? Have you seen this happen to someone else?
It happens when a thing you have worked for is at stake and it is close at hand. Whether this is the case or not, you will for sure lose self-control at some time or place. And it will not be a good time nor place. You must strive to be self-aware, that you will not lose once you have it. To be self-aware, is to know who you are. It is the only way we can live with ourselves. It is what is left when all else is peeled away. When you take off your macho image for the day, lower your defenses and remove the makeup. Then it will be you who you see, the one who you have been trying to cover up and hide from all day. It is your core, the Self. Welcome home.
You can control some things, but not your Self. You, yes you, must learn to live with, not control, yourself. Self-control should not be the goal. There are limits on how long we can keep ourselves in check. When you feel you must control what you might say or do, you have to be vigilant, all the time. It will let you down when you need it most. When you know who you are, you do not have to control your Self. The Self does not need to be controlled. Nor can it be. Control will give way and one time it is too many. The mind can be just like a misbehaving child. That is when you have to tell it what to do.
When you feel that self-control is what you need, what you really need is to change your way of thinking to get in touch with you. You are not who you have been feeling you are. This not a thing that onset later in life, its roots are in the early years beginning in childhood. For most of your life, you have felt out of sorts. It was all about your thoughts of not fitting in where you thought you should. You know, no real place to belong. A misfit, if you will. You were/are being deceived by your own mind. You have to remind yourself that you are not your feelings. You only feel the way you do because of how you think. Your feelings are just symptoms that you need to change how you think. You are you. You are your Self, which cannot change. Your Self, my Self, her Self, him Self, they all have one thing in common, the Self. The Self has to move pass the clutter of hurt and pain. It has to emerge to take the place that is right for it. That place is in you.
You have used your words and the way you act to defend yourself from hurt. You have done this from the time that you were a small child. The way those around you acted towards you caused you to act the way you did. It made you feel as if you did not belong, that you were in a place you were not supposed to be. You are the one, though, who suffered the most from your choice and use of words. Not those you were trying to protect yourself from. They could not feel your pain. For the reason they were the cause of it.
It is hard to move forward when you feel that you could be attacked at any time. Your defense is all you feel you have. There are times when you hang on just to keep from drowning in your own despair. Overwhelmed by life yet not know what life means. To move forward something has to change. It would have to be how you think your thoughts. And the thoughts that you have to think cannot be about the hurt and pain that you have felt. You have to change your perception to change the thoughts that you think. You have to look at your past in a different way. Let go of the hurt and pain and your hurt and pain will let go of you. One thing is certain, you will not move on until you do. A thought not worthy has not a good thing to think.
You may be thinking, what does all of this have to do with me. The way I think is not that bad. Well, think about it. If it is not you who you see, whom do you see? When how you think cause you to think thoughts you do not want to think, that is bad as it gets. There are ways that how we think can be disordered and none of them is good. We are not in the flow of life when we are out of harmony with our Self. That, is when our thoughts cause us problems. They will not let us think clearly and have peace of mind. To see the disorder, you must change how you think. All of us will have pain. No one is without a cause for it. And until you own it, it owns you. It will be there.
The worse kind of hurt is that which we will not let ourselves feel. Mask it, it still will not go away. Some of us do this with all kinds of things to help us forget. None of the things we do is good. That is, for the reason we do them. Until we change how we think, we will not change how we act.
The day that soul cried, a chilly mist hung over Madison, Wisconsin. Fans of Rhythm and Blues anticipated a thrilling visitor that Sunday night. Singer Otis Redding was scheduled for two shows at the Factory. Three days earlier, Otis had finished recording “Dock of the Bay,” a moody song that would later be his only No. 1 hit on the pop charts.
Otis was accompanied by the Bar-Kays, fresh-faced high school graduates from Memphis. Otis (The Big O) had performed the night before in Cleveland. He, the Bar-Kays, his valet and pilot were flying to Madison in his private twin-engine Beechcraft. They were scheduled to perform at 6:30 and 9 p.m. But they never made it. The plane fell three miles short of the runway and crashed at 3:28 p.m. in the near-freezing waters of Lake Monona. The sole survivor, trumpet-player Ben Cauley, was pulled from the water 17 minutes after stunned witnesses along the eastern shore of Squaw Bay telephoned for help.
On November 8, 1987 members of the Otis Redding Memorial Fund, a Madison, Wisconsin nonprofit corporation, culminated their fund raising drive with the dedication of a memorial to Otis Redding on the shore of Lake Monona. The memorial consists of three semicircle marble benches, custom carved in Portugal with the initials, O.R. incorporated in the legs, Georgia gray granite marker and a bronze plague. The memorial was temporarily moved to storage to make way for the construction of the Frank Lloyd Wright designed Monona Terrace Convention Center. A re-dedication ceremony was held August 15, 1997 on the Roof Garden of the Convention Center, where the memorial is now located.
Please admit to it now so that we can keep it moving. What bothers some of us—if not most—is what we think others might think of us. When you think like this, you are not going to be comfortable in your own skin. Then, those who this bothers the most will try to change things about themselves, even things that cannot or should not be changed. They spend loads of time and money on how they look how they dress and right down to how they walk and talk. Time and money surely are important, but not as important as your health. And some of the things are putting the people who do them at risk. It is no wonder, when you look at how some are criticized and joked about.
The talkers can get very personal and nasty. And it may very well reflect, as I suspect, on what they think about themselves. They focus on those aspects of your person that are easy to attack. When it comes right down to it, it is just superficial. But it bothers us nonetheless. And the only change that you can make is not really change at all. Yes, making these critical remarks with hurtful intent has become acceptable; it is everywhere. In casual conversation, in movies that we see, in magazines and even in some of the books that we read there it is. She has a big nose; he has a little dick, what about those ears and look at those itty-bitty titties. She ain’t got no butt. It is no wonder that anxiety, low self-esteem and insecurity are at an all-time high. If you are the one doing it or if it is being done to you, there is a problem. And the problem is how “you” think. You as in whoever you are that thinks in this way.
Well, let the discussion begin. And what better place to start than where the most money and time is spent and that is with the purchase and use of makeup. Though I do not have to say it, I will anyway. A Change in makeup will not change who you are. The Self, which is who we really are, is our true makeup. It is the soul of a person, it is who we are and it does not change. Not all of those look “pretty products” is what you need. An overhaul of how you think will change how you feel and that is what you need. How you feel will change how you act and view the world around you.
Do not let how you look speak for you. It is only meant to be a compliment to who you are. Makeup and a getup will not keep you up. When how you act does not match your inner Self, it creates pressure. You have to try to act the way you look. The Self can only come out when the outside is in. How you feel, then, depends on how you look and it grows with time. It is how you think that does not allow you to be the real you. You have done too much when what you do cause you to act and look like who you are not. If I knew you and now couldn’t tell who you are, and you do not look and act like the person I knew, you have gone too far. Or is it that I did not know you before.
How will I know who it will be when I meet you again. You are changing your face as often as you are changing your mind. And it is all based on how you think you look and what you think others think about you. When you think in this way, it opens your mind to letting the messages come in from the “beauty industry” and you then become prey to their marketing schemes. You do not need all that they are telling you that you do. And let me remind you before I forget. The you I talk about is not you unless it is you. So, take no offense if it is not you who you see, it very well could be someone you know.
Women in the United States are spending over 8 billion dollars a year on cosmetics. This is almost as much as is spent on food. And they are now taking increasingly drastic measures to alter their appearances through surgical means. Money spent on cosmetic surgery and non-surgical aesthetic procedures is increasing drastically among all women, including younger women and women of color. It is not complicated to me why. Women and young girls (as young as four) have been conditioned to think that it is necessary. That they must cover up to look pretty. Is any part of this true, I think not.
We do want to attract and be attractive to the opposite sex. Well, here is the way it is with men and what they believe. That is if they are one of the reasons why. And we know that they are. Men believe, and I should know, some is better than none if that is what you want to do. If so, less would be the best. The more that is put on, the more his mind will change when you take it off. Real men want the real you. They know you are in there somewhere.
Beauty is not all it is “made up” to be, or is it. A Change in makeup will not change who you are. Do not measure yourself against the “pretty” women you see in the magazines. You do not know what all of their parts are made of and Photoshop is a hell of a program.
Just look below for some of the things that can result when you are trying for that look. The make believe world of beauty where you can be as pretty as you want to be. Beware of the warning signs ahead.
Breakups and Divorce (when looks change, as they surely will)
Rejection (yes, even some are disappointed with their new baby)
I am not letting anyone, male, female, young or old off the hook. Americans, in total, spent a whopping $33.3 billion on cosmetics and other beauty products in 2010, up 6% from 2009, according to the Commerce Department.
What Does Size and Shape Have to Do With It
Genital Discrimination and Body Image
Just as with looks and beauty, now our genitals are the cause of restless nights and insecure feeling. At this point the men of the world seem to be the main focus of this ridicule, because of the “bulge” or lack thereof, than women. Though, the girls and women are catching up. And they are becoming increasingly concerned about the size and overall appearance of their vagina. But their private parts are getting nowhere near the attention that the little dick is getting. The little dick jokes are hard, no pun intended, to avoid. So I can see why some men are now paying attention and finding all of this to be a little much. It is certainly having an affect on how they see themselves. Women may assume that men prefer that they wear makeup and do all the other things that they do. But men do not have to assume what women want, they make it very clear, they want a large penis. Is this genital discrimination or is this what some, if not most, women need. What they just have to have, nothing smaller than large will do.
Just what does it mean to discriminate? Well, discrimination is defined by the New Oxford American Dictionary as the unjust or prejudicial treatment of different categories of people or things, esp. on the grounds of race, age, or sex. Since genital discrimination is our subject and the word sex is included in our first definition, let’s talk about sex for a moment. Listed below is a definition of sex from the same source.
Chiefly with reference to people, sex is sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse. He enjoyed talking about sex. She didn’t want to have sex with him. With that said, what are genitals? The word is defined as a person or animal’s external organs of reproduction. Of course, we know that they are not always used for reproduction, which brings us closer to what this all seems to mean, it is about size. And this, I guess you can say, is bringing it home to men. The penis enhancement industry not heard of just a few years ago is now a multibillion-dollar business. It is large and is growing, no pun intended. And men who may at one time felt secure in their manhood now are filled with anxiety.
Some of the methods that men are using to enlarge their penis are dangerous and life threatening. And need I say, it is a waste of money, does not work and most of all, not necessary. If the person you are with feels that a big penis is needed and you do not have one you are with the wrong person. There is a mismatch. You must find a smaller vagina.
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NJ Woman Charged in Penis Silicone Injection Death
A New Jersey woman, who police say injected a man’s penis with silicone, resulting in his death, has been charged with manslaughter.
The Essex County prosecutor’s office says 34-year-old Kasia Rivera gave 22-year-old Justin Street the injection on May 5. Such injections often are used to enlarge body parts, such as the buttocks.
Street died the day after his injection. His death was ruled a homicide following an investigation and a medical examiner’s determination he died of a silicone embolism.
Rivera also faces charges for the unauthorized practice of medicine. She was arrested Friday and is being held on $75,000 bail. It’s unclear if she has a lawyer. No telephone listing could be found for her home in East Orange.
Are the put downs and jokes just a mean of getting back at men or are true feelings involved and size does matter. Why is it fashionable to joke at the expense of men with a “less than large” penis? It seems that women, and some men, find pleasure in their small penis put down. How many good men are passing them by because of their attitude. I suppose, though, they have found what they believe to be their best weapon against men and the biggest put down. And yes, with both man and woman there is large, small and everything in between so what is with this. You be the judge.
This is a quote from an online article by a female writer. “The “flaws” of women are often used as fodder for jokes, gossip and plain old bullying and mean spiritedness.” Now will we admit, that it applies as well for men.
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Just what are we doing to us, or more appropriately, why do we find it so hard to be human. How have we allowed ourselves to be convinced that we are not good enough the way we are. We seem to have this desire to be who we are not.
Pain Does Not Cause Pain How You Think and Act Does
Our husband or wives do not cause our pain. Neither our employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that we feel. The pain that we feel is caused by no one other than you and me. It does not matter from where it came; we allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is our thinking.
Stressful experiences in early childhood can have long-lasting impacts on kids’ health that persist well beyond the resolution of the situation. My entire childhood and much of my adult life, no matter the bright spots, was filled with pain. I could not be me for any length of time. My mind would not let me. What was wrong had to be made right and what was wrong was in me. I had known from when I was a small child—three or four, maybe—that my thoughts and how I would think them was adding to my pain. My heart would ache and my soul would scream, why me. These were times when little was known about why we do the things that we do. We now know more about emotional trauma and abuse in childhood and its effect on the mind, this is good.
What is not so good is that those who know do not know what they should. It seems that what no one wants to admit, and we (society) will not own up to, is what we are doing to us. I ask myself, what is the end game. Does anyone know? A childhood of pain and hurt can only lead to one thing, a life of the same. That is, if we do not listen to what we hear. And it is difficult to do that when you are still clinging on to debris from your childhood. A cluttered mind leaves no place for good things to go. We let pain we did not cause, cause us to suffer from pain we did cause. When how we think and act is the result of the pain we feel, we must trace our pain to where it leads. That would be our childhood.
Our childhood is real and the affect that it has on us—good or bad— is real, as well. We must look back one last time. First, though, you have to let down your defense, drop your guard, maybe, for the first time. If the trip is difficult to take, try being me and I will be you. To see life the way that I saw it—even though not through my eyes—will help you to understand how the millions who suffer here, and around the world may feel. How they act is a way to learn about us. When we change how we think, it can be done. Yes, many of us have been hurt. Our pain has its roots in and grows from a life being interfered with. We have to go back to this point. It is where our path to a right way of thinking begins.
It is the thoughts of our childhood that hurts. If it is not you who you see when you look, you are likely to recognize someone you know and possibly love. Or someone you just care about. Maybe it is someone you have empathy for, never knowing why they act the way they do. There is someone you know here—whether you knew it or not. Now you will know and have a better understanding of them and yourself. It is a matter of self-awareness, which simply means feeling good about yourself. Knowing who you are and being the real you; the person you were meant to be. That goes for all of us, you, them and me. It is a journey that begins with the first step, and the first step always begins in early childhood where the basis of our personality and sensitivities are formed. What comes next is the product of our environment. It is there in our mental and physical environment where our thoughts are formed by way of the senses and are molded in the image of the messages we receive through awareness and perception.
My self-esteem, which most of the time ran low, caused me not to do my best. It was not that I could not be my best. I just would not let myself do it. I was weak though I acted strong, and that is not pretty and fools no one. It is not likely that we can have a productive life without a heavy dose of self-esteem. We all need it. Being Self-aware will not leave you, it is with you for life. It is how a child develops a healthy sense of self-worth; that I am “somebody.” This does not always happen when it should. What has the most negative impact on our lives is when it does not develop at all. We need it to live an emotionally mature life. It is not likely that we can have a productive life without a heavy dose of self-esteem. We all need it. If this does not happen in early childhood, it will cause you to think, feel and act in ways you would rather not. Life will be difficult, at best. It can take years, if ever, to gain what you never had, but always needed.
That our view may be clouded by time and the hurt that we felt does not change a thing. We were a child in an adult world. You must first be aware of something before you can have thoughts about it, and our thoughts are based on perception. Life is understood and lived through our senses, and for each sense that is lost, there is a reduction in the ability to perceive and interact with the world around us.
We allow ourselves to be reminded of things long past that serve no useful purpose in our life today. A memory from our childhood can be one of them. The best place for a child to grow up is a place that nurtures and cares. It is there where childhoods grow. As well as being nurtured, we are born to this world to nurture. We are born with an instinct to live. It is in our nature though it does not always show.
The American Academy of Pediatrics in a Healthy Children article defines self-esteem as “the way in which an individual perceives herself—in other words, her own thoughts and feelings about herself and her ability to achieve in ways that are important to her. This self-esteem is shaped by not only a child’s own perceptions and expectations, but also by the perceptions and expectations of significant people in her life—how she is thought of and treated by parents, teachers and friends. The closer her perceived self (how she sees herself) comes to her ideal self (how she would like to be) the higher her self-esteem.”
Creation is the breath of life from which we evolve. Parents create our life. They prepare, or not, the way for us. An offspring does not evolve to the world. They are born. Then it is for us to be who we are meant to be. We are how we survive.
I do not consider myself a religious person because I am not. I am just a spiritual person that believes in God, The Creator. I have had thoughts about where did it all come from. As I am sure, many of you have. A line has been drawn and sides have been taken on the matter of evolution vs. creation. The beliefs are just as strong for both arguments. On one side, we have those who believe in creation and the other, are those who believe in evolution. Each is steadfast in their beliefs. Well, I subscribe to both with an emphasis on creation.
Creavolution is what gives life its shape, from when it begins to the end. We are all created from it. This is through the Creator of all life and all things. It is how life flows. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved. Creation and evolution are the two forces that are one with all life all the time. It is the new, which was created, and all things that evolved from it. We evolve when our needs are met.
The purpose of life is to go forward and procreate. It is what keeps us going. What else we do is up to us. We were created to evolve to create. And Creavolution is how it is done. All things must first be, to grow and become. Growth starts when life begins and Creavolution is what gives life its shape, from when it begins to when it ends. We are all created from it. This is through the Creator of all life and all things. It is how life flows. First, there was creation. Then all things evolved.
We evolve when our needs are met. All that we need was here before us, as it is for all creatures. We have to be taught how to meet our needs. That is, if we are to survive. Many of us are not taught well. So, we have to do our best to make the best of what we do have. We have to survive until we know better. A place must be prepared for us. Nurturing and caring has to be a part of that plan. The needs of life must be there for life to grow. I will prepare a place for you.
To have evolved when not a thing came first, will not answer the question of life. Evolve is what we do once we are here. It is not the answer. The answer is in the act of creation. And it speaks for the Creator. You have to believe it to see it. When you see it, you will know. These are the things that I believe. It is about life, it is about Creavolution ™. This means we were created to evolve. Creation and evolution says it all, they are the combination that is life. You cannot have one without the other.
When you see the word God, do you think religion? Well, the idea of a God was with us long before religion became a movement. Before this time God was a spirit something or someone to believe in, to call on for help and to give thanks for your blessings. Spirituality, by my definition, is more a belief in a power that is greater than all other. It is there for when we need what our efforts have been unable to provide. We ask for the strength to carry on. Otherwise, we do it on our own. More than that; though, it is a feeling, a way of thinking whereby the power of
God is no more or less the spirit within us. There are few times when you have to ask for anything. That is, if you believe. You come as you are. You do not have to be a member. No membership is required. Some might, and do, ask why must there even be a God. Why do you need it? I say you do not if you think you do not. You have to believe it to see it. To see it is to understand.
I do not have to look up or go somewhere to see my God. My God is right here with me.
The End of The Male in The Female is Near Who Needs a Man Anyway
When I focus on what appears to me to be an increasing trend, I cannot but conclude that there are a significant number of females of the human species who do not care very much for the warm and tender touch of a man. As I explained in my comment to the CNN online article below, this seeming desire to do without men has taken on the appearance of hate. Read on to see where all of this has taken us.
Editor’s note: Aarathi Prasad is a London-based biologist and science writer and the author of “Like a Virgin: How Science is Redesigning the Rules of Sex”.
(CNN) — Last year on the 50th anniversary of the creation of the contraceptive pill its inventor Carl Djerassi spoke of the coming dramatic changes to reproductive options — of the technologies that will have just as big an impact on society in the 50 years to come.
After sex without reproduction, reproduction without sex.
In an article in the UK’s “traditional values” tabloid, the Daily Mail, titled “A Terrifying Future for Female Fertility,” Djerassi said, “There are an enormous number of well-educated, proficient women who, when facing the biological clock, first pay attention to their professional ambitions…in the next 20 years, more young people will freeze their eggs and [sperm] in their 20s, and bank them for later use. They will do away with the need for contraception by being sterilised, and withdraw their eggs and sperm from the bank when they are ready to have a child via IVF.”
That is certainly one option as we develop greater capabilities to store eggs more reliably and safely so that they are not damaged by the freezing/thawing process meant to preserve them. But in the next 20 years, there could be other developments on their way to the clinic. For example — also to avert damage — freezing strips of ovarian tissue instead of eggs, or tapping into recently identified reserves of ovarian stem cells that could be turned into a fresh supply of eggs for a woman, at any age; or even creating to order eggs (or sperm) from skin or bone marrow stem cells of men and women.
Early experiments with mice have shown that both sperm and eggs can be generated from the stem cells of males, and eggs from that of females, and that they can be fertilized to produce viable young. Djerassi described the idea of being able to access healthy eggs later in life as something set to be a fundamental tool of family planning, and one that will empower women just as the pill has. He talked of female colleagues on tough career trajectories just at the time in their life when they are most fertile, and then on into the years leading into sterility.
It’s no coincidence in the decade of our life when we are most biologically capable of reproducing, men and women are also working full steam on their studies or on building their careers. In our 30s, fertility declines – after 35, exponentially so — and specifically for women. Around age 50, while the rest of our faculties continue functioning beautifully, the ability to reproduce comes to an abrupt stop. There have recently been a spate of reports and discussions about equality — the dearth of women in science, on the boards of top companies and of the pay gap that has yet to be bridged, but it is not clear that those taking part in this discussion fully appreciate that in pursuing in parallel the fulfilling goals of education, work and having a family, we are limited by both social and biological barriers.
In achieving the hoped-for 40% of leadership positions being held by women, executive bodies like the European Commission and governments could, for example, legislate interventions like free or cheap childcare in all workplaces. However, only technology can tackle the biological brick wall of menopause, with all its detrimental effects on a woman’s health, and especially at a time when she is likely to live another 50 years in this condition.
In the quest for reproduction, only technology can give same-sex couples the chance of having their own genetic children. If eggs can be made from the stem cells of men, with the advent of an artificial womb (already in use for sharks, in development with mammals and projected to be in use for humans within 100 years), it will also give them an organ they currently have to pay surrogate mothers for the use of. So if it is to be the egalitarian society that we hope to see for ourselves and our children — particularly our daughters, and those whose relationships and family choices still find themselves the topic of social and religious debate — then technology that gives an individual the capability to generate healthy eggs and sperm from his/her own body and allows a baby to be gestated independently could offer us a more ethical option than what we do today.
In our world, girls study just as hard as boys but face far more difficult choices once in the workplace. To make money, poor women from countries like India or the Ukraine “donate” eggs or their wombs, or churches refuse to marry gay couples because they cannot be fruitful and multiply.
Freedom, power, choice? It’s the alternative that sounds terrifying to me.
My comment to Reproduction without sex, a liberating future:
Hate of Men Comment Posted CNN 12-21-12
It seems to me that there is a segment of society that does not think very highly of men. It is a form of hate and it certainly could have its roots in the beginning. Genesis is the book of the beginning, of the creation of life and all that is. This is what the bible tells us. There are two verses that certainly could be the seeds of hate.
Adam and Eve ate from the tree of knowledge of which God had warned them not to do. For this transgression, he placed on them, for lack of a better word, a curse. This could be construed as the first instance of hate. And the curse that he placed on Eve is exceptionally harsh: “Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.” Not only has the wrath come down on Man and woman, the man shall rule over the woman.
The curse on Eve would appear to be laced with a bit of venom that is at the core, to this day, of the man/woman relationship. In the real world, God’s design for woman plays a major role in what we think of each other. And if we tell the truth most of the time what we think is not very good.
If you choose to take the bible as the word of God or not, there is no denying that the treatment of man and woman is not equal, nor is it meant to be. It is the way life is. And with no doubt is a cause of resentment and hate. No person with a sense of self wants to be ruled over. This curse or will of God any right-thinking person would see it, as it would be felt. And find it hard to deny that it would not be an easy thing to live with. It is not a stretch to think that Eve would have hate in her heart for not only man but also God for bringing on her such a horrible fate. To have Adam as her master, the only man there is, could not have been an easy thought to think.
It is not easy to dodge what is plain to see. Not just in eons past, but what we see today. Perhaps that is why there is such a high rate of divorce and couples finding it so hard to stay together. You read and hear it all the time that a marriage takes work. I say work is what we do to get what we want and need, we should not have to work as hard to keep it. With so much work, how would you find time and space to appreciate the life that you have? It is certainly one of those things that should cause you to think. But if this is in fact true—as it appears that it is— the hate we see to this day is firmly rooted in the past. There has been fertile ground from the beginning. It is clear that God’s words would be reason enough for Eve to be the birth mother of hate and female resentment. We see it all around us. It festers and comes to a head much too often.
Now what say you? Please let me know what you think. I look forward to your comments and keeping the dialog going. We learn so much by sharing. Peace.
If I do not tell myself the truth, I cannot tell it to you. Not a thing can exist for long without it. It is what we depend on to know what we do is right. You cheat yourself when you do not keep your promise and tell the truth. Each time that you do, you take one more step away from whom you are. Never do a thing to take away from your Self. The Self is our core, the essence of each one of us. It is where we go to be ourselves. A place we would never leave on our own, but our mind will. Our power and strength comes from there. If the ways of life have kept your mind away, you are the one to get it back. No one can do this for you. It is not an easy thing to do. Our mind should be where we are. And when it has left where it naturally belongs, it will be hard to find its way back. This happens to us because of how we think. And it is about our childhood. To do better is a choice.
To be and remain weak is a choice, as well. It is what we have when we have not learned to be strong. Strength is what keeps us in one piece and from coming apart. Without it you will not stand firm, you will not speak out and you will not be heard. It is the way of nature. And if you do not feel you can do these things, you are not being whom you truly are. For sure, you were created to be you. I was created to be me.
Weakness does not have the strength to be strong. It is a sign that not all is well. When that which is weak, joins that which is strong, the weak is not made stronger. The strong is made weaker. Be it cream to coffee, ice to tea or anything that keeps me from just being me. What was once strong has now been diluted. Strength or weakness of the mind is how we think our thoughts. It is not how good or bad we are. It is a state of mind. To feel or act offended is to be weak. To feel an offense and not act offended is a show of strength. The greatest strength is that which comes from within. Inner strength gives us what we need to do what needs to be done.
Weakness most often comes when your life will not let you be strong. You have to do much of it on your own. We, as all living things, are to follow a growth process to be who or what we are created to be. When we do not grow and mature, as we should, we are unable to stand on our own. We must have the nurturing and care that we need to flourish and be strong. Life can be very difficult when you do not get the care that you need. Growth in all areas is stunted. Though, overcome it you can, when you know what made you weak. It can be struggle, no it is. You have to drop your defense and face what it is you are afraid to see. This goes for you, me, or whoever it maybe.
You cannot be strong, when you do not know how to live. You know what this means if you, or someone you know, have put your best foot forward doing the best that you can and end up starting all over again. It is about how we see ourselves when we look. And that picture is formed in childhood. The reality created not by you but for you will not allow you to be you. Your mind will not leave you along. At times, you can be afraid to step up to the line and compete; too weak to win and not strong enough to lose. You can have the will but not know the way. It can be hard to do when you do not have the directions. We must be taught how to walk. And use our mind to practice how to think. You may say I don’t see me in any of this. This does not apply to me. Well, if it is not you who you see, perhaps it is someone you know or possibly love. It is good to know how others who you know may feel. Nothing is as hard as it seems you just do not know how to do yet.
Do not let a disordered mind tell you what to do, yours or anyone else’s. If you do, you will not think in a rational way. You will see yourself build things up and then tear them down. This is the way you think your thoughts. You will do this without fail. It is a pattern that does not change. That is, until you change. You have to change your way of thinking. When we do not think right, what we do will not be right. All wrong things come with a price. This is so even when we do not know the cost.
What I do know, is no one wants to stand close to the “flame.” Even you will find it hard to live with what is going on in you. No one will come up to you to say they do not want to be scorched. But some who would rather come near will not for fear of being upset. When we change how we think, how others treat us will change as well. When how you think is out of control and causing harm, you are the last one to know. We are not soon to realize it. When things are not right, we look at all the other places, first, for an answer. One thing that is for sure though, we will not harm ourselves with full knowledge of what we are doing. It goes against the first law of nature. That is growth and survival. And to grow you must be strong. You have to believe it to see it. What do you believe?
We have to hold up our end of the bargain with nature. That is, to take care of ourselves. What we put in our body should sustain us. And what we allow in our mind should enrich our life. If not, it is of little use. It should add to your well-being, not take a thing away. For each one of us, there are things that we should never do. If what we do cause a problem, then the problem starts with us. Most things can be done; it depends on how we do them. Never do anything in a way that will do harm to you or those who you love. If you do, it is a symptom that all is not well. No person or a substance will change this or take away the pain. If we want to change how we feel, we must change how we think.
Husbands and wives do not cause our pain. Neither our employer nor our friends are the cause of the pain that we feel. The pain that we feel is caused by no one other than you and me. It does not matter from where it came, we allow it to do what it does. It is not the job, the neighbor or anyone else or thing. The source of the pain is our thinking.
Once we know better, we will do better. Have you ever heard someone say, “he/she knows better than that.” No matter what we may think, when a person knows better they will do better. You and I may think they should know, but that does not mean they do. If they did, they would. You cannot do wrong when you know better. It is not possible, just as you cannot think of two things at the same time. Which is on par with no two objects can occupy the same space.
You may ask, what could motivate some of us to do what we do. The thing we can do to know the answer, is to know it when we see it. We are the gatekeepers of our mind. What I say now and what I will be saying is not academic. I simply look at life in a way you may never have. And I will give you answers to questions that you did not know you ever had. It is how I see the world and life as it was given. From the beginning to the end, it is all about life, and the way we think.
What I have to say is not fiction it is about life and our existence, as I believe it to be. It is not about what we have been told. It is about the way that it is. What is here will help you to know that to see, you must look. You may, see you in what I have to say. When you do not, maybe it will be someone you know and love that comes to mind. Or perhaps one of those troubled souls who you see act out their hurt in all the wrong places when there seems to be no reason. Now you will know what that might be. It is a matter of knowing the real you. The person you see when all else is peeled away. Through growth and enlightenment, we can all change the course of our life, if that is what we need or want to do.
This blog is about how we think, feel, act, and why. It is a guide in how to live a better life through our thoughts. It will help you to understand how we all, think. And will show that if how we think is disordered our lives will be the same. How we think is the root cause of our negative feelings. The focus is on the Self: your Self, her Self, him Self and my Self―all of us. I did not always know what I know now. I will share what I know with those who will listen. What I have written is the truth, as I know it to be.
First, you have to listen. The more you listen, the more you will understand what it is that you hear. You are sure to think, and feel what you hear if you listen. There will be truths that will cause you to change how you perceive the world around you. This is good. It will challenge the way you think. If it is not a cause to think, what cause is it? I had to think about me. And you will have to think about you.
For those times when we need to connect with what it means when we say, “that’s life,” this will be a reference. It is a way to look at the true nature of what is and how it came to be. The truth tells all when it is told. It is what we have to depend on. It is about how we view the world that each of us lives in. Our world is not just what is around us. It is also what is in our mind, and the things that go on in our head. It is for all of us who have had thoughts about why we think the way we do. Change maybe a stranger. As you step closer, you may see a friend.
My life has been my education—a university graduate as well— and has shaped how I see the world. What I write is inspired by the Creator. It is a natural process, not forced or coerced. It is written as it flows into my mind, and my life experiences and observations of the wonders of nature are the foundation for my insight. I am on a mission that was given to me and my life has prepared me to be the messenger. What I write is about what I believe and cannot be refuted, disproven or denied because it is truth. And there is no one who will not see some part of himself or herself or someone they know.
It has all been a road well traveled. There have been freeways, side streets and dead ends. I have been cautioned, sped up and slowed down. I have changed lanes, merged with traffic and yielded to the right of way. I have been first at four way stops and the last to leave. I have driven through heavy rain, sunny days, and dark nights. It is after the darkest of them all, that I came to an intersection. I could pray on or move on. I now move with the traffic. I speed up when I can slow down when I should and pass when I must. Though, I am not in a hurry, life for me is not a race. We get to the end of the road soon enough. I made a decision to stay on the road of life. To take the off ramp is a thing I did not want to do.
On my way, I have gained a wide range of experience that has given me a prospective on life that I believe to be unique for someone who is still around to tell about it. I have been a community activist, housing advocate and an anti-Klan protest leader. I have presented talks to business owners, university students and the not so well off. I have been in charge of political campaigns and conducted complete counts for the Census Bureau. I have lived on the hill, down the street and served meals to the homeless at the Poor Peoples Campaign in Washington, D.C. I have had money, had none and started all over again.
It is my mission to use my life experience to benefit others, as I know there is more to the mind than what you may have been told. What I have to say is not academic; I simply look at life in a way you may never have, and you will get answers to questions that you did not know you ever had. It is how I see the world and life as it was given. From the beginning to the end, it is all about life, “the good, the bad, the ugly.” I have seen my share.
I write, I speak, and I share. One achievement I am especially proud of is to be the President and founding member of the Otis Redding Group. The members organized the fund-raising campaign to construct the Otis Redding Memorial that is now located on the roof garden of the Frank Lloyd Wright designed Monona Terrace Convention Center in Madison, Wisconsin.
I have organized and directed workshops and seminars on Diversity in the Workplace. I have been a talk show host, and keynote speaker for numerous groups and organizations. And have held a number of professional positions including Equal Opportunities Commission Director, Job Center Business Development Program Instructor, Personnel Officer and Student Placement Counselor.
I have had a number of past professional affiliations including Chicago Association of Black Journalists, International Personnel Management Association, Conference of Minority Public Administrators, International Association of Official Human Rights Agencies, and have been a Better Business Bureau Arbitrator.
I have been an ongoing Senior Guest Auditor at the University of Wisconsin with a concentration in Psychology.